Hi all
Breagha can i ask a few questions? i havent read everyone else's comments so i may be repeating them. are you being monitored at a clinic? has gynae considered upping the dose? are you being scanned? i believe 50mg is lowest dose and does not work for a lot of women who are not ovulating. i was on clomid myself, it was my first step on fertility ladder, like most people. i ovulated and often produced two big eggs, but never became pregnant. it is hailed as a miracle and gives people false hope sometimes. i believe it really depends on the clinic that you are attending. do they have a good reputation?
Londonlottie i will go straight away and look at that pic! i have same strange and silly concerns about bonding with twins. it is hard to see them as two separate people, when i cant see them! i am thinking i shall have to insist people dont refer to them as 'the twins' when they are born, as it is tempting for people to do. i think it is the practicalities that are stumping me, how do i hold them both, feed them both, cope with two crying babies etc. Lordie.
Italiangreyhound glad clinic open. good to get things going. about the not telling people - i also think that even when you are successful at ivf, when you have told people you almost become the poster-girl for ivf. it will keep coming up in conversations with your name. i have seen this with another person and i thought, god that must be tiresome. people mean well mostly, but until you are in the position, the desperation that only we understand, people cant grasp that we just want to be normal people more than anything else in the world. I had no idea that the clinics were so choosy about who they allowed to go on the list for donor eggs. I found out recently that they were choosy about allowing gay women or single women to use donor eggs, but didnt know those with one child were added to the list. that is tough, but you persevered, as we do! and your story sounds so tough and exhausting, it is testament to how strong you guys must be.
Hi Sanfan I sympathise with your problem. i too have one child and then coudnt seem to have another. i also feel for you starting out on the journey. it can be tough. Going privately is really probably your only route, as your infertility is secondary. however you will need to be referred by your GP, which shouldnt be a problem. you really need to check out the HFEA (have i said that correctly?) website for the highest rated clinics and hospitals in your area. and get an appointment with a Gynae/consultant and get their opinion. dont be afraid to look around, get more than one opinion. expect to pay up to £200 for consultation. they will suggest tests for blockages, blood tests etc. the best of luck with it. if you have any questions about our experiences we would all be glad to help i am sure.
hi Rosiebeagle it is tricky and nerve-wracking to remember all the instructions, i know. we wrote them down and literally stared at them every time we took out a needle. we didnt trust ourselves at all that is great that you have a good idea of egg collection date, fantastic news!
levistubbstears hi and welcome. all your fears are totally normal and we have all had them in different ways and at different times and for different reasons. when ivf worked for me, that was when all hell broke loose for me! hormones, depression, doubts. actually i always had doubts, amazing to admit, i dont know if i have admitted that to any of my family. and i have a dd already, who is perfect, bless her. these feelings are inexplicable, but dont cover them up, think about them, acknowledge them and they should get better. completely normal, dont forget that. it is great news that you have ivf cycle sorted out. i would advise you to get yourself into a good frame of mind before you embark on it, as it can be tricky. i was quite stressed for my first cycle and needless to say it didnt work. i was in a completely different place for the second and it worked. perhaps you could look into reflexology or accupuncture. a lot of clinics do it.
hi luckywebby sorry about the low sperm, it is so hard. there are other options as you know. chin up, deep breath, keep going. that is all you can do. best of luck.