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How long did it take you to conceive the second time compared to the first time?

27 replies

Niddlynono · 01/06/2005 12:43

DH and I want to have a second child next year and although I know that there are lots of contributing factors that affect conception I just wondered what your experiences were in terms of comparing first with subsequent pregnancies.

[With DS we were lucky enough to get pregnant the second month of trying.]

Thanks.

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Bethron · 01/06/2005 12:45

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Moomin · 01/06/2005 12:51

You'll wish you hadn't asked!
Dd - 4 months of trying
2nd pg - 2 years (I'm now 19wks pg)

It was put down to unexplained infertilty as neither of us had anything obvious 'wrong' physically. I put it down to being 3 years older, and plain bad luck. We ideally wanted a gap between no1 and no2 of at least 3 years but something made us started trying when dd was 15m old. I'm very glad we did! Dd will be just 4 when no2 is born.

But remember, everyone is completely different.
Good luck!

piffle · 01/06/2005 12:54

with ds I was on the pill but conceived as I had had a tummy bug and pill had not worked d'oh
With dd we decided to try at New Year 2002 had + test in February and she was born in October
However with no 3
arrghhh almost 2 yrs one miscarriage and one ectopic
still trying quietly in the corner though...
am 35 btw
was 23 when had ds and 32 when had dd

hotmama1 · 01/06/2005 12:56

With dd - first time we tried.

Now pregnant again and due in Jan 06 - not planned - first time had unprotected sex since dd was born last October - I thought we were safe!

I'm 38 so it's not all doom and gloom for older mothers!

throckenholt · 01/06/2005 12:57

long time with first one, second month with second.

That is the case for a number of friends too. One friend who had problems second time around was diagnosed with underactive thyroid - once that was treated it was 1-2 months.

Azure · 01/06/2005 13:04

Conceived DS 2nd month of trying. Not so easy next time. Took a year to conceive (m/c) then 9 months (m/c) then 2 months (am 27 weeks). I was 34 first time around and 38 now. I think age has something to do with it, part there are so many other factors (including sheer good / bad luck) it's impossible to judge.

Titania · 01/06/2005 13:05

caught with ds1 the first month of trying. dd took 6 months. then ds2 took 2 months.

dejags · 01/06/2005 13:06

Bexi,

DS1 took 14 months to conceive - had just started initial infertility investigations when I fell pregnant.

DS2 took a shocking one month!! We nearly fell over backwards when I got a positive pg test.

PiccadillyCircus · 01/06/2005 13:17

About 6 weeks with DS.

One moment of passion just before Christmas with this one .

I think we might be rather fertile.

katierocket · 01/06/2005 13:17

1st time - 1st month
2nd time - still trying after a year

PinkFluffPudding · 01/06/2005 13:29

5 mths - dd1
Didn't try - ds/d2. Am 20 weeks. It was an accident!

futurity · 01/06/2005 13:31

1st child ...1st month
2nd child...7th month

make sure you leave it along time after you come off the pill (if you are on it) as it tooks ages for my cycle to settle down.

Gwenick · 01/06/2005 13:34

DS1 - 1st month of trying
DS2 - didn't even try ie ONCE!

Chuffed · 01/06/2005 13:41

5mths dd
7mths (currently 6wks)

LunarSea · 01/06/2005 14:43

18 months - m/c at 6 weeks
30 months - ds now 3 3/4
32 months - m/c at 11 weeks

And they tell me that because I'm know to be able to conceive (eventually) I can't get any investigations done. grrr!

Nemo1977 · 01/06/2005 14:50

ds took a week to concieve..we talked about getting pg then turned out week after our convo we had got pg..pmsl

2nd bean took a month and got pg but lost baby

this baby took 3mths but that was following an erpc so dont know if that had something to do with it.

Nemo1977 · 01/06/2005 14:52

also had 2mcs one where i caught on the pill and one where we hadnt been trying before ds

morocco · 01/06/2005 14:53

ds1 one month
ds2 one month - he was a bit of a shock as we'd read that it takes longer for the second one usually, so we ended up with only 17 months between them (although it's fine of course)

expatinscotland · 01/06/2005 14:58

DD - 6 months.

Baby No. 2 (in utero) - 6 months.

I was 31 when DD was conceived and 34 with this conception.

Weatherwax · 01/06/2005 15:06

dd1 was a persona accident. 3 months after we married I ovulated 3 days earlier than I had done in the previous 9 months! Result a beautiful dd.
dd2 "One moment of passion" following me saying perhaps we should consider trying in 3 months time.
Like Piccadily circus "I think we might be rather fertile". I was 38 with dd2. Now at 42 I think I've had my lot and I'm wondering on how to remove that fertility

maretta · 01/06/2005 15:32

DS1 took 8 months. Number 2 took 1 month. Think we'd got the hang of it by second time round.

handlemecarefully · 01/06/2005 15:34

On 1st effort for 2nd child just as it was for 1st child. And I'm no springchicken (was 34 and 35/6)

Miaou · 01/06/2005 15:38

dd1 - 1 month (aged 25)
dd2 - 1 month (aged 26)
db - 2 months (aged 33)

And in actual fact with dd1 and 2 I was pg within about a week of trying each time - obviously decided at the right point in my cycle! We were expecting this db (due July)to take longer to conceive due to my age but it didn't really.

motherinferior · 01/06/2005 15:43

DD1 wasn't tried for at all; Dd2 took about six months.

edodgy · 01/06/2005 15:58

We tried for DD1 for 9 months then pregnancy 2 which ended in mc at 8 weeks happened the one time we didnt use contraception and with this pregnancy (now 14+3) we got pregnant in the first month of trying.