Emmsy's onwards and upwards part six - sticky icky babydust BFP central!!!

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Here's a shiny new thread named especially for 4ever, let this be the one where we get lots and lots of new BFPs and everyone's pants get bigger

Ever onwards and upwards for all of you lovely ladies

annie i hope everything will be ok, i dont have any experience of what you are talking about, but just wanted you to know i am thinking of you and have my hands ready for holding if you need a squeeze xx

well said mls

Evening. Well I've managed to get dressed and went round to mums for dinner.

Annie sorry to hear you are having a worrying time. Jool's thread does sound reasuring but like MLS said I wish I could fast forward things for you.

Becks congratulations on your BFP.

MLS have my hand to hold for tomorrow. Huge hug xxxxx

Just spent the last 2 hours mending my computer after a major system error - I hate it when that happens and you end up messing wth things you really haven't got much clue about when trying to reinstall everything. All looks ok now.

Saw the GP this afternoon, I have another weeks sicknote and he agrees that my manky rash is an allergic reaction and nothing to be concerned about. Its not half itchy though!!! and not getting any smaller!

Thank you jools MLS Moon and Gracie, you are all so lovely, thinking of me when you have your own worries.

I,ll be thinking of you tomorrow MLS, big hugs lovely lady.

Annie so sorry that the scan has left you more worried than before you went Have everything crossed that your mind will be put at rest soon. You've been so good up to now so try to stay strong.

MLS I'll be there in spirit tomorrow holding your hand. You're nearly at the top of the first hill now and will soon be allowed a few moments to catch your breath. Take care.

jools You made me laugh too. The ups and downs are what I love so much about this thread.

Gracie really glad you're being sensible and staying off. Have you tried the sudocrem?

Moon Are you feeling a little stronger today?

Vjay Loved the peeing mental image too. You're just like my DD!

Hoping can you test and put yourself out of your misery?

4ever So are we having a testing party?

I'm starting a group hug as there's so many on here needing it!

Thanks for the group hug Neeko, made me feel a lot better.X

mls i will be thinking of you tomorrow too, you've been so strong through all this and you deserve a giant gold star xx

neeko i think i'm just having one of those weeks, i'm very tearful, everyone and everything is annoying me (present company excepted of course), i'm being very quiet in case i say anything to offend anyone, and that poor pg lady i was talking about yesterday hasnt been back to work and i feel awful i hope she is ok

i am up for that group hug

Moon Don't hold yourself responsible for other people's happiness when you're struggling to cope yourself. MC makes you feel angry, frustrated, sad and full of despair all in one. You're not in control (like the rest of us) and can't account for your actions, far less your thoughts. as Jools says: be kind to yourself.

Hey tattifer welcome to our lovely cave. TTC after MC is terrifying so you are in just the right place. If you are not using them already, I'd recommend you get some opks. DH and I convinced ourselves that we would get pregnant quickly as the previous two times it happened first month but it didn't happen till we used opks and realised we had the timing wrong

Moon hang in there honey. Soon the weekend and you can relax and get away from all these pregnant people in the office. How about you plan something really nice to do this weekend. You so deserve it xxx

Mermaid it only counts as a holiday if you get lots of BD action

MLS I'll be thinking of you tomorrow honey. Please text if you get lonely or worried. Hopefully it will be done fast, it really is quick and before you know it you will be home and tucked up in bed. Once that part is over, we will start on operation getmlsuptheduff xxx

Neeko my boobs are fantabulous... DH still gazes in wonder Fab news about the temp rise, YAY we are on the 2ww. Have some guilt free wine, soon enough you will have to give it up When are you off on hols? Thanks for the group hug. I think we need it today

Annie you poor thing, but that link makes a lot of sense. I'm sure there is nothing to worry about honey, though of course you will. I'll ask my sister who's a baby doc about it and see if I can get more reassurance for you.

Jools nice one finding that link for Annie. I loved your extra long post earlier

Send us your pic Iggy, it's nice to put a face to a name

gracie I don't blame you for being grumpy. This waiting business is so hard. I looked at this mother with her baby on the train today and I felt like screaming why is it so easy for everyone else and so hard for all of us. 9 sleeps till my scan and I'm getting more and more negative about the outcome every day. I wish we could all hire a cottage by the sea and stay there till we're all at week 12, or maybe week 39

Blue lol at you falling asleep. I'm so pleased for you hearing the heartbeat. Is it true that it sounds like a horse galloping?

4ever it breaks my heart that you got to 13 weeks and then lost your lo I hope that you get good news soon to help take away some of the heartache of the past xxx

VJ lol at your dh. Mine loves to get a sneaky peek of what is going on but I don't let him too often in case he learns something he really shouldn't know about

hoping Don't torment yourself honey. Do a test.

kate I am worried about you. I hope you get through tonight okay and get some sleep tomorrow.

gosh another long post. Time for bed again xxx

Annie - how are you today? I could so picture you in that scan room with the bloody sonographer umming and awwing . Really hope Jool's link put your mind at ease. I've never heard of it before now. God, there are so many things for us to fret and worry about .

MLS - we're all thinking about you today, hope it goes a well as these things can. I know I felt huge relief after mine, like I'd had a good clear out which sounds brutal but compared to weeks of bleeding with 1st natual mc, was so much better emotionally. My hormones rebooted almost straight away too..

Waves of nausea today

curle you are the loveliest person to be so kind to all of us when you're in the wringer yourself! Love the idea of a cottage by the sea, an emmsys hide-away! Good luck with the scan.

annie what an awful thing to happen. my nieghbour's little girl had the same thing at your stage. the mum ended up with pre-eclampsia and all sorts (not connected in the slightest! please do not thing they were connected in any way!), babby had to be delivered early etc - now a beautiful, perfect toddler who screamed all the way through our wedding. bless.

MLS hear hear. keep us posted on how you're feeling - I'm keeping some vodka mini-milks on ice for you for when you get back (hug)

jools sounds promising...fingers crossed

kate how are you feeling today? wish we could whisk you away to curlee's seaside cottage and look after you through this time.

moon you are not a horrible person to feel that way or think those things at all. We've all done it, it's just so bloody hard when you see mummies and can't understand why they didn't have to suffer what we do. Whenever I see a pg lady I still automatically think then have to remind myself that I don't know what they have been through - one day that will be us with our baby bumps, and new emmsys angels will think that about us! I knew I needed to get a grip once I caught myself thinking after seeing a bloke with a massive beer belly

blue so pleased to hear things are going well with you

vjay your dh made me laugh too!

gracie hang in there grumpy! we'll be measuring you up for big pants before you know it!

tattifer welcome aboard the good ship madness. Hope you're feeling a little better

4ever and neeko, when's the testing party?

cupcake how's the 2ww going? I have no tips for keeping your sanity, speaking as the lunatic who thought she could be pg after AF came .

I did test in the end and was convinced there was a line! in the end dh convinced me that I have officially lost contact with reality instead. This is not going to be an easy month. Could have saved myself the angst if I'd phoned home - found dh curled up in bed feeling "sick and giddy, with a weird taste from all the varnish fumes". and it seems swollen boobs are a natural consequence of putting half a stone on [why is there no I'm an idiot emoticon?!]

iggy i second your view on ttc. according to dh I get scary enough to make him consider hiding the wardrobe til I've gone. I think he's joking, he seems to enjoy bding enough once I've got him cornered not as often as I'd like though can I join you on the turkey-baster-barbiemobile-science-lab raid?

speaking of the barbiemobile, when's barbie back from her yurt?

Afternoon ladies, mls I'm thinking of you today and sending a big hug your way xxxxx
annie a big hug for you too, and roll on the next two weeks for your scan xx

Ok a question for you that have done this before. I've got some raspberry leaf tea and I've read a bit about it and it says take 1 cup/tablet from 32 weeks then increase the amount etc... but the midwife says wait until 37 weeks before taking it. Now I didn't take it with ds and he was 18 days late so want to avoid that! Did any of you take this with your dc's? if so how early, I'm all ready to start brewing now

Thanks for your good wishes everyone, I'm back home & all went well. The doctor told me that there actually wasn't anything left inside me which I did suspect as the bleeding that I'd had for ten days tailed off yesterday, but I felt like I need the op for peace of mind. I have to go back to the epu tomorrow for a scan just to make sure she didn't miss anything. Everything just must have broken up & come out in the bleeding I've been having, it was completely different from my last mc when (as Jools so succinctly put it) 'the world fell out of my bits'.

Right operationgetmlsuptheduff is well & truly on..... after I've had a bit of a sleep that is....

Oh MLS - glad its all over and went well and hope you're sleeping as I type. You need all your energy for operationGMLSUTD Vjay - I took raspberry tablets with DS, was paranoid to take them too early so think I started @ 34 weeks. He was 4 days late, 36 hour labour and c-section so not sure how much "preparing the uterus for delivery" they did .

Hoping had a sneaky lol at your "bigger boobs, being put down to putting on half a stone"

to all, off to do the housework while DS sleeps

Back again. Vjay I took raspberry leaf supplements instead of the tea with my dd, I think I started at about 36 weeks. I'm convinced they worked (for those who don't know, raspberry leaf strengthens your uterus & gives you more productive contractions) as I was only in labour for about 11 hours & the pushing stage only lasted 17 minutes. I would also really recommend perineal massage, here is a guide. I did it & I think I was the only one of my friends not to have torn. One last thing I'd really recommend is arnica tablets, you can get them from any health food shop & they come in a little push button tube thingy. You start taking them the moment you go into labour & they help with the whole healing process. A couple of days after I gave birth I just had to know what I looked like 'downstairs' so I got on my hands & knees with a mirror expecting to see the Dartford Tunnel but I was most pleased to see that everything had pinged nicely back into place so I'd say arnica is the way forward!

thanks for the tips mls and blue, i'm 33 weeks now so will wait another week at least before starting the raspberry brew.
mls I'm so glad all went well today and your operationgetmlsuptheduff is about to start loving that

MLS glad is over - hope you getting some rest. Sugguest large drink tonight xx

MLS good to hear your operation is over and you're safely back home for a snooze.

No pregnancy symptoms today, I've been full of energy, no pain, no nausea. I'm trying not to think about it too much, it could be all in the mind as thats what happened last time.

Oh bloody hell GG why do our minds play tricks on us like this? Can you not sneak into resus & get MrsKate to do a quickie scan to put your mind at rest? Right, now cover your ears (or eyes)....

...Iggy yup a large drink or two will definitely be taken tonight - even though I'm not supposed to after the anesthetic

gracie I had days like that in the begining when my symptoms would disapear, only for them to come back in the evening or the following day, plus if you've been really busy you don't notice them.

MLS as long as you drink plenty of non alcoholic fluids too the anaesthetic won't stop you drinking alcohol (don't tell my anaesthetist DH that!) I noticed your small pants comment on Facebook, I wasn't really sure what I could reply to that when its public. - Hoping you'll soon be in medium pants again!

Thanks Vjay for the reassurance. My scan is 2 weeks tomorrow, I just really want to know if my Bean still has a heart beat.

MrsKate just rang me with my shifts for August. I only have 2 days shifts in the whole of August, all the rest are nights, what are they trying to do to me??!! (I can feel another sick note coming on! )