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Emmsy's onwards and upwards part six - sticky icky babydust BFP central!!!

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Curlywurlee · 05/07/2009 12:32

Here's a shiny new thread named especially for 4ever, let this be the one where we get lots and lots of new BFPs and everyone's pants get bigger

Ever onwards and upwards for all of you lovely ladies

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MrsKate · 07/07/2009 16:28

hi all thank you all so much for hugs .they were all lovely lol.

night shift wasnt to bad 2 more to go . wont see dh till thursday now which isnt good . i miss him .. i am struggleing to cope with his moods at mo he says horrible things when hes down like im a terrible wife and i dont care about him and im not there for him . maybe i dont want to talk about it all time beacuase i dont want to beleive that he is so down .we are god dam newlyweds but seem like a couple on the verge of divorce at mo sorry im having a moan i just cant speak to anyone else , my family wont understand.

im upset at the thought that is no chance of ttc when he is like this

love you all so much s congrats *backs8

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mermaidspurse · 07/07/2009 17:11

oh Kate honey wish I could give you a hug it is so hard sometimes being supportive when people say things which hurt. I guess we always hurt those we love the most

I want a big magic wand for all of us right now.

mls heart melting dd little song
headaches are I think a combination of dehydration and hormone madness. Just steal yourself the horrid crash. God knows how you have gotten yourself through all this in a week that you should just have been kicking your heels. And glad the soup helps a little, sure I must have jewish grandmother in me somewhere!

blue cupcake no don't mess with my head!!! you mean implantation bleeding? I wish it was I think this is af wearing her best party frock and laddered fishnets in a party mood

congrats becks jools we love you and won't let the men in white coats drag you anywherexx

Neeko · 07/07/2009 17:27

Hi all

kate I'm worried about you. Are you ok? What help is DH getting? Tale care of yourself eh?

mermaid Sorry about AF. It's def not an implantation bleed is it? Seems strange that you ahve such strong symptoms

Cupcake sorry about BFN. Hope it's just because you're an eager beaver

MLS how are you bearing up today? Thursday won't be long I promise. Our DDs will meet next time you're in Scotland and I'll supply the hard hats!

Jools that's a bumper crop of spotted symptoms! I have my fingers crossed for you.

4ever almost forgot - HAPPY ANNIVERSARY! Hope you're having the most romantic of days and relishing in the love that you and DH have together.

Gracie How you doing today?

Iggy come on - out with them! what's your symptoms so far?

Becks Congratulations! Very pleased for you.

Blue Have a very relaxing time in Edinburgh.

Moon are you ok? Hope you're not having any kind of meltdown on your own.

Hope everyone else is ok too.

I STILL haven't ovulated despite all the symptoms and the positive opks. I'm really fed up of it all. This will be the 7th night in a row that DH and I have BD and we're both fed up but determined that we're not going to miss ov. feeling quite crappy about it all

Neeko · 07/07/2009 17:29

Oops x post Mermaid you'll know your own body so ignore all us speculating

mermaidspurse · 07/07/2009 17:38

neeko I know nothing. Used to know but now I don't know what I mean?
keep going girl, hope you don't run out of the air freshner stuff

Neeko · 07/07/2009 17:45

Snap! i know nothing either and it's driving me F*ing crazy! I just want to be on the 2ww - how sad am I? Drink anyone?

mermaidspurse · 07/07/2009 17:56

am cooking a prawn curry have rose poised for afterwards fast turning into a summer lush then I wait for Christmas and baileys
neekotheknackered so hope that all your hard work pays off this time.

Neeko · 07/07/2009 17:59

That sounds yummy mermaid
Thanks for making me feel better.

Molliemooma · 07/07/2009 18:53

My so many posts so little time
Blue Good luck with the triple test, hope all goes well x
Iggy Welcome back from hols, really hope you did bring back something extra
Mermaid Sorry to hear that TEW (or something similar) got you
MlS The ups and downs are a killer aren't they, what used to confuse me is the fact that things you would think should upset you didn't and the smallest of innocent things would send you into a full meltdown Sending you strong healing thoughts
Neeko They did give me a reason for the bleeding at the scan, I have a low lying placenta currently over my cervix, hopefully it will move but they will keep an eye on it. I went to doctors today about something unrelated and she started telling me how I can't have sex with this condition!! I'm gutted of course well DH is, bless him. Loved the potty stories by the way
Cupcake Sorry for BFN, but I'm not yet as it's still very early, might surprise us yet!
Curly Hope you are feeling better soon
MrsKate Just remember it's hard for you too when DH is depressed, it affects both of you, sending you positive healing thoughts too
4ever Hope you had a lovely anniversary
Becks congratulations
Jools It's so lovely to hear you obsessing again, to me that's normal happy crazy Jools back which is a good sign Also sounds very promising

I know I've forgotten about a million people so I apologise!

mermaidspurse · 07/07/2009 19:38

mollie golly mollie what is this sex??? Is it anything to do with bd cos thats what we do round hereSeriously though thank goodness she told you and your poor dh. But it will all be worth it in the end. The bleeding has stopped though?

Neeko · 07/07/2009 20:11

Mollie sorry you did say that about the placenta already and I forgot Didn't that happen to Sabs or Vjay too? I vaguely remember discussing it. Please use it as a reason to take things really easy and if DH gets too desperate I suppose there are other ways, but only if he has a birthday coming up! I'm sure when your lo is up all night and being sick on him he'll feel it's all worth it (Of course I'm joking - we all know that Emmsy's graduates will be perfect babies!) Take care.

BlueMoon1981 · 07/07/2009 20:50

congrats to becks

kate im worried about you too, make sure you come on here often and let us look after you please. And you've no need to be sorry, we will do anything we can to help you xx

neeko im afraid i have been having a little meltdown without you , i feel bad for coming on here and moaning when so many of you have been through worse times than me. i just feel like i've had enough. i cant stop crying. all those pg people at work make me feel so distraught, and i sit looking at them and their bellies. and today, omg i am such a horrible person, one of the ladies was off work, she is being referred to a paediatric gp cuz her 'obs were low' whatever that means, and my first thought was 'well that'll teach her for shouting about being pg and making a big deal of things if she loses it' that is so not me, what is wrong with me?!

Joolsiam · 07/07/2009 21:23

Moon - those thoughts are perfectly natural. I can't remember the details now, but I know I had similar feelings towards PG colleagues and had to really work hard to stop myself bringing down a silly young girl who was announcing her pregnancy to all at only 5 weeks - I wanted to tell her to shut up as it could / would all go wrong - it did and I felt awful

It will pass and your natural generosity of spirit will resurface. I've said it before and I'll say it again - be kind to yourself x x x

cupcakefairy · 07/07/2009 21:31

Oh moon! You poor love! But you are not a bad person at all. I admit to having had a sneaky passing thought of 'I hope everything isn't perfect' for this couple know expecting #2 who everything works out for and they acted as if the mc was my own fault. But of course I wouldn't wish mc on them, no way!! But it's natural to feel hard done by. Please don't beat yourself up. And please share stuff with us...I think we've all been guilty of holding back cos we feel others have it worse, but we're all here to support each other, please don't have private meltdowns

mermaid- that bl*dy btch, why does she always have to be in her laddered tights and party frock lauding it over us?? sorry f we added to the head-messing!

neeko so sorry bout the delayed ov, realy hope you don't get a 7 weeker again...you and your poor dh!

kate just massive hugs really.

Curly are you out there? Hope you're drinking lots even if you can't keep food down.

Gracie how long now til the scan? Hope you're feeling ok.

I was brave and finally put a pic on my profile if anyone's interested! I look about 15 in it but was best I could find of dh and me!

bluesatinsash · 07/07/2009 21:39

MrsKate - another worried one here . My colleague's DH was very down earlier this year and after chatting it through, we referred her to Occupational Health to give her coping strategies on how to deal with it and more importantly, give her someone to talk to. I know you also work for NHS so speak to your Manager/HR Adviser and they should support and refer you. Harsh as it sounds they, as your employer, would rather you were at your work with time off to see a counsellor than off work completely with stress...

MummyLovesSadie · 07/07/2009 21:40

Moon you are NOT a horrible person. Well done for being so bloody honest & saying what you felt & what we all would feel in your situation. Of course none of us would wish what we've been through on anyone else but we all feel a mixture of 'if you could only walk a mile in my shoes' & 'why was it me & not you'?

Mollie sex shmex.... I too have no idea of that concept. I only know about bd'ing which is a totally different ball-game.

Mermaid how was your curry? I made a totally gorgeous Thai green curry tonight which was not only yummy but a low fat weight watchers recipe too, so I had an extra large bowlful (piggy emoticon).

MrsKate totally & utterly know where you are coming from. My dh gets so stressed out by work that he takes it out on me. He says such horrible things to me sometimes that I wonder if our marriage can survive. Sometimes I think I'm too sensitive as I'll be brooding & pondering about what he's said & I'll be wondering if I've deserved the insults & he'll be watching tv & will have totally forgotten about the whole incident. That makes me wonder if half the time I've imagined the whole thing.

Quick question & don't know if anyone will have the answer - should I count the day of my erpc as the first day of my cycle?

MummyLovesSadie · 07/07/2009 21:44

Aaaah Cupcake what a very pretty, smiley, glowing picture!

bluesatinsash · 07/07/2009 21:44

oooh cupcake - you have such lovely young skin and your DH looks a tad like Prince William - no?

Mermaid - I'm confused, has TEW descended or do you feel like she's gearing up to? LOL at jewish grandmother comment! We should all have one and a gay best friend to boot .

Moon - we've all been there feeling guilty about not being pleased for 'less deserving' pregnant folk, its completely normal and human and please don't beat yourself up.

Off to bed x

MummyLovesSadie · 07/07/2009 21:47

Blue nearly spat my mouthful of red wine all over my Mac at your comment to Cupcake!

bluesatinsash · 07/07/2009 21:48

Hey MLS (do we synchronise our watches before we post ?

Yes count your ERPC as day 1 of cycle. My ERPC was 1/1/09 and AF arrived 26/1/09 like clockwork.

Off to bed take 2 x

BlueMoon1981 · 07/07/2009 21:51

jools this lady also announced she was pg at 5 weeks, she has been so in your face about it, its not her fault she is happy, i am only jealous, i just hope everything is ok for her, i will feel terrible if anything happens now.

cupcake i have to say you are very pretty, you remind me of someone i went to uni with, you will have beautiful babies some day.

thank you mls and blue for your kind words, i do forget sometimes that you already have some idea of our feelings.

and mls i was wondering the same thing too, is the day i had my medical management the first day of my cycle? i feel like af is due and after bleeding for nearly 4 weeks on and off before and after hospital its the last thing i want!

BlueMoon1981 · 07/07/2009 21:52

oh blue x post, thats a yes then! damn...

anniebigpants · 07/07/2009 21:55

Evening ladies, just had a catch up on here. Ive got my 20 week scan tomorrow afternoon, and am half excited and half nervous, worried incase anything is wrong with babs. Will come on later and let you know how it went.
Big hugs to those who ned them. Love to all X

BlueMoon1981 · 07/07/2009 21:58

good luck annie will be thinking of you xx

Curlywurlee · 07/07/2009 22:27

becks fantastic news Stick with us and we'll get you through this worrying time

mermaid thanks for your concern, you are lovely but I'm fine, my duvet day resulted in keeping a sandwich and some toast down which is a record and today I had a really good day at work. Have been puking like a pukey thing this evening but that just gives me hope for this jumpin bean. I'm so sorry TEW got you, that stupid cow. Don't give up, it is going to happen but maybe it's time for drastic action, like a holiday Any chance of you getting away for a while?

kate depression is awful, and I can understand how you would find it hard to speak to people in RL. I'm sure people just assume you are all loved up and everything is great, little do they know what you have both been through over the last few months and what you are going through now. I don't know much about depression but a friend of mine who had depression told me afterwards that she had said some awful things to her DH. She was put on meds and it made all the difference. Is DH seeing a doc? Sending you a massive hug honey. I'm glad you at least have gracie in RL, I hate to think of you going through this alone.

VJ do you pee every night at 2am?? eek Well done to DH

sabs hope you hear about your grievance soon. I can't believe how far along you were, it seems like yesterday that we were celebrating your bfp. You and DH must be getting so excited. Have you found out the sex yet?

Neeko I love the sound of your little dd, lol at her potty rampage Speaking of which, I think we can safely say that romance has gone out the window with me and DH, I regularly regale him with updates on puking, discharge and toxic wee Hope you get on the 2ww soon, your cycles seem a bit crazy at the moment but fingers crossed for you this month

jools loving your psychic cat. Mine just ignores me

cupcake I guess it's too early. Crazy boobs cannot lie Well actually they can but I still have high hopes for a BFP for you... tis cupcakemonth after all You and DH make such a lovely couple

iggy it's so nice having you back. Fingers crossed for this 2ww flying by and good news at the end of it

blue hope you had a lovely time in Edinburgh Sleep tight and mind that bean

hoping You are so brave honey. It will happen for you, honestly it will. Just hang in there for a little while more xxx

MLS I'm so glad to hear from you. I know things are especially tough while the physical part is still going on, and you must be exhausted from losing all the blood. I wish there was something I could say to make it better but all I can do is offer a hand to hold when you need it. I got terrible headaches as well and found the best thing was to take the painkillers the hospital gave me, which was cocodomol I think. Bless your dd, she sounds adorable It may be that they will scan you again and find you don't need the ERPC. In that case I think the day you started bleeding properly is day 1. Otherwise your erpc is considered day 1.

mollie take good care of yourself - no more nooky for you young lady

Moon please try not to be so hard on yourself. I don't know how I would have coped if anyone was pregnant in my office and I had to see it every day. You have been incredibly brave, and always look out for others even in your lowest times, which just shows what a lovely person you are. No more private meltdowns, ok? we are right here for you honey whenever you need to melt down xxx

Good luck tomorrow annie. Hope you have a wonderful scan

Hope 4ever is having a wonderful anniversary. Missed your posts today

lots of love to gracie barbie MM lion baking and anyone I haven't mentioned xxx

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