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Emmsy's onwards and upwards part six - sticky icky babydust BFP central!!!

987 replies

Curlywurlee · 05/07/2009 12:32

Here's a shiny new thread named especially for 4ever, let this be the one where we get lots and lots of new BFPs and everyone's pants get bigger

Ever onwards and upwards for all of you lovely ladies

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GracieGirl · 15/07/2009 21:28

Curly's scan is friday, I'm getting my days mixed up.

MummyLovesSadie · 15/07/2009 21:33

Blue & GG you girls are so lovely & kind, I could cry.

bluesatinsash · 15/07/2009 21:45

Blub away MLS - 'tis good for the soul if not the complexion.

I've been missing Neeko's posts too, she's always so cheery and interested. Really hope a BFP is winding its way to her house...

GracieGirl · 15/07/2009 21:47

Hey don't cry MLS! I've just baked some cakes, would you like one to make you feel better. Its hard to cry and eat cake at the same time!

GracieGirl · 15/07/2009 21:48

Or you could always use one of my cakes to mop up your tears!

bluesatinsash · 15/07/2009 21:52

Gracie - you baked cakes since your last post?! You're really chanelling your A&E sister efficiency girl .

BTW whenever you talk about your Matron I always think of Hattie James from the 'Carry On' films . We don't have Matron's up here, they're called 'Clinical Nurse Manager's' which sounds dull as hell.

bluesatinsash · 15/07/2009 21:59

10pm, witching hour, I'm off to bed x

hopingalways · 15/07/2009 22:16

don't have time to post properly, so just sending you all hugs, especially those who are having a really rubbish time right now.

for some good news, my ultrasound scan today showed everything was normal, and the bloods turned up nothing...just the genetics tests left to go, so far looking like we've just been unlucky...

GracieGirl · 16/07/2009 07:35

Blue our matron is much more scary than Hattie James!! Isn't she MrsKate! At least she appears that way to the outside world, then she shuts her office door and you spend your hours back to work meeting having a gossip!

Hoping good news that your scan and bloods are normal.

MLS how are you this morning?

DH finally got home about midnight last night so we are now running round trying to get organised to go to Edinburgh.

4everhopeful · 16/07/2009 08:49

Morning all... Was hoping Curlys start to this thread would be a good omen for me but sadly not. I know its a bit early, but I did a BFN test yesterday & again this morning. Really at depths of despair now. £1500 on treatment & we are passed our conception 'deadline'. Going to call the consultant later & see what happens now. If we have to find the money (which is ALOT to me & DH) to do it all again we will somehow. Iv spent the morning wondering why God hates us so much to keep putting us through hell over & over & not let us be parents. I think we are good people & its so unfair that people have babies without even wanting them. Life is shit. Might start looking into adoption. Always thought we could get pg no problem, but since the deadline now MIL & others are making me feel like as well as not being woman enough to carry a baby without destroying it, Im now not even capable of concieving...

Joolsiam · 16/07/2009 09:03

4Ever Anyone who really things less of you for this is not worth one second of thought from you or any of us. It is shite and unfair and you shouldn't have to go through this. You ARE fertile - you know this - I would guess you are just putting far too much pressure on yourself to conceive within a time limit and your body has rebelled ?

Have you tried needles / aromatherapy / hypnotism etc. I do wonder if what is needed is some sort of alternative therapy that makes you really relaxed and chilled ..

For now, I'll pass over the plant pot full of vodka I hid amongst Mermaid's tomatoes in the greenhouse and throw in the huuuuuuuggge box Hotel Chocolate yumminess that is stashed behind the potting compost x x x

4everhopeful · 16/07/2009 09:36

Thanks Jools hon... I know MIL doesnt intend to make me feel bad & just wants this for us as desperately as we do.. Its prob just me that feels like I cant do the most natural function of being a woman and produce a child. Im 35 next year & came off pill on 32nd birthday so am worried eggs are now decrepid. We BD every bloody day for a week, we used Zestica & ov tests, drunk grapefruit juice & ate brazil nuts, im at a loss why this isnt happening. Prob is the pressure issue. Anxiety can be overwhelming, had job worries too, in fact every spare sec Im obsessing over work or ttc/pg.. No room in brain for anything else. Decorated as a distraction but that was pretty intense & stressful too probably.. We concieved no1 on honeymoon & no 3 on hol in cyprus, the other 2 were conceived at xmas 07 & 08 so that prob says something.. Maybe I should look into hypnotherapy, too scared of needles for acup.. DH even said about chinese meds or suchlike yest & he's not into that sort of thing normally.. With a heavy heart I did just google adoption for the first time.. At least thats a back up worse way... I think if still no joy in a year we might have to go down that road... Thanks for letting me waffle on in mammoth post.. At my desk right now, f* works monitering today.

GracieGirl · 16/07/2009 09:38

4ever I'm sorry you got a BFN. You listen to Jools she talks a lot of sense. I have everything crossed that its just still early and a BFP might come for you in a couple of days. My BFP wasn't until day 27 this time. Have a massive hug from me.

I'm off to Edinburgh in a few minutes so can someone update me on any happenings between now and Sunday. Thanks!

GracieGirl · 16/07/2009 09:42

4ever I've been for a massage every 3 weeks since my miscarriage in Feb and I think that helped me relax.

hopingalways · 16/07/2009 09:43

aww 4ever this is so unfair for you! I really wish I could hunt down the bloody stork and force the bugger to bring you your babby now rather than put you through all this

If you are thinking about adoption seriously, I used to work in children's services and still have some contacts . Ok it's a different nation to where you are(?) but the basic proceedures and need to knows are broadly the same. If you like I will call in some favours and see if I can get one of them to get in touch to give you some more info. Totally understand though if you don't feel ready to take that step yet.

And here's another need to know - many couples who adopt because they can not have children go on to give birth within a year. Something to do with have a lo around the place! so there is always, always hope

Joolsiam · 16/07/2009 09:46

See ya Gracie Have a good weekend Did you say you were seeing Duran Duran or did I dream that ?? Throw some knickers on stage for me . Hope DP is OK after the crash and your little fiesta is up to the journey

Hoping - looks like we're both in the same boat then - probably just very unlucky .. I'm waiting for all the hormone and clotting disorder blood tests to come back, but genetics tests were clear yesterday.

Have sorted out the Rick Stein booking and have nice night out with DP at a pub quiz. Feel like a walking zombie this morning though - have nearly lost my breakfast a couple of times and I only had 2 glasses of rose !

Big hello to everyone else Gotta go do some work as there are some scarily senior people in the office today

mermaidspurse · 16/07/2009 10:08

oh crap 4ever I cannot bear to see you both going through this. I think kidnapping the stork is a mighty fine idea however.
jools could well be right on the old stress front I think our bodies feel it even if we try and supress it and lets face it bloody mother nature is far more complex than we will ever know.
It is so hard when the very thing that as women we do we can't do and you feel this to the core. Hold on tight, none of us will let you fall honey.
Put that call into the consultant cos you always feel better when you have set something in motion.xx

gracie have a fab time screaming at simon I had a Duran Duran shrine when I was young hope your dh is ok after his crunch.

jools well done for organising nice things, it helps a bit. I hope you are feeling ok too.x

4everhopeful · 16/07/2009 10:38

Thank you ladies.. Gracie I have a massage gift cert from DH so maybe will try that, but am thinking might try docs to get all i can on NHS for stess & relaxation..
Hoping you are so sweet, but adoption would be a far away back up plan for next year, I just chat with DH & if no joy by next July then will start that ball rolling then (also with the hope I fall within a few weeks of doing so!)
Gracie have 00.1% hope that is too early but I guess hope is still hope. Enjoy Edinburgh, I hadnt read properly & thought Fiesta was a name for your bean then! Thank god DH came out of crash ok..
Mermaid can you & Hoping track down that stork for me then please??! I remember seeing one on honeymoon & we thought 'its a sign' & it was.. Thank you for the gin vodka & chocs from Jools.. 10am is not too early today..

I called consultant secretary, next step is test my antibody levels again, may still be ok & apparently in some cases cover from treatment can be for life so holding out thats the case. If not will need treatment again but she said oth women have needed a 2nd go & gone on to have babies.. thats the point I started sobbing to her.. The consultant will call me to chat in next couple of days..

Next step of self scripted plan is go docs for anxiety/stress/relaxation issues, & poss consider another scan to check all bits in working order & no underlying reason why ttc not worked...

Positive list incs more hair dying, getting drunk at family wedding on 8th aug, going to see footy at wembley next fri (even DH mates know I may not of gone dependent on PG or not..) and Nans 80th next w-end too...

Right, thank you as always for letting me vent, talk it through & your amazing support as always.. xxxxxxx I really cant thank you all enough. God knows where id be without you, i really dread to think. Im picking up & dusting off, as has become habit, & will switch off for a couple of hours & get lost in work...

Love you all massively xxxxxxx

4everhopeful · 16/07/2009 10:41

OOh one thing so I know my facts, Hoping is there an age limit for adoption?

cupcakefairy · 16/07/2009 10:43

Oh 4ever there are just no words. want to just wrap you in a warm blanket and hug you...or something that sounds a little less creepy...

Let me just say this though - God does not hate you. I can promise you that. You are an amazing brave lady and you are so loved.

We should have called this thread the booze up in the greenhouse! I think we all need it right now...

MLS so sorry about all your worries too. Really hope your dd does something to cheer you up today

Gracie have an ace time! And so pleased your work are being so fab

Hi Curly cos I know you're lurking hugs to you lovely lady.

Iggy any more symptoms or signs of AF?

Hoping and Jools glad your tests are coming back normal - know what you mean about something that can be 'fixed' jools but hopefully for the both of you, the next one is THE ONE and you have just been incredibly unlucky so far.

Hi mermaid and blue and everyone else

cupcakefairy · 16/07/2009 10:47

Sorry 4ever X-post.. that sounds v positive about the consultant...praying that a) you tested too early and/or b) your treatment does cover you for longer

mermaidspurse · 16/07/2009 10:47

4ever you are such an amazing girl
I am crossing everything that your treatment covers you forever. plan for an mot is a great one. Getting drunk at wedding also sounds fairly fab and you can of course do a bit of dancing on tables which is always good for lifting a girls spirits

A big hug, dust down and heaps of love.xx

hopingalways · 16/07/2009 11:09

...and just to quickly add that at 35 you are nowhere near the age limit for adoptions 4ever - still got loads of time

VJaybigpants · 16/07/2009 11:27

4ever I really feel for you at the moment, and I am crossing everything that your treatment has covered you for life, that would be brill.

gracie have a fab time in Edinburgh, you will feel a little closer this weekend, still 3 hours drive away though, but closer and so glad your dh was ok after his car crash.

mrskate hope you and your dh are ok, thinking of you too.

mermaid looks like we've already moved into your greenhouse, I do love what you've done with the place, it's lush, and turning most of us into lushes too , hiding gin here and vodka there

I feel sorry for barbie when she gets back, she'll have to take a sickie so can she catch up

blue how are you, and mm too, not working too hard I hope and looking after your not so little beans.

I'm off out to lunch in a bit with my lovely ds, he wants to go to the bakery for a macaroni cheese pie and a cake, and who am I to say no

iggypiggy · 16/07/2009 11:28

sorry can't post much today

4ever have a huge hug from me. xxxxx

Am having v. hormonal day - sat in tears at desk for 2nd time so far today... sigh. Sorry may be more use later and able to chat xxx