Mid 30s TCC Gin Palace

[SkaterGrrrrl]

Welcome everyone from the old 'Mid 30s and TTC for the first time' thread. And welcome newbies too. Don't mind the poster in the corner dipping pregnancy test sticks into her glass of gin.

Ps

lmao at 'famous friend'

although I used to (occasionally still) do VoiceOver work and was once the voice of the lift on Simon cowell's radio1 quiz....now that is fame (erm nit really )

@ celebrity status

Ooooh have we hid a mid-thread existential crisis?

This is what I worry about if we have a baby: SkaterBoy and I are really happy and in love and what if a baby blows us apart and we are never this close again? I know it will be a bombshell, a year of no sex and no sleep plus never again will it be just the two of us. Right now we slow dance in the kitchen and snog each other at the front door and all that mushy stuff. Why would I want to change my life when I have in all sincerity never been this happy?

Why do I want to have a baby? Yes I want a family and I believe DH will be a brilliant dad. But how much of my desire is true and how much has been foisted on me as a woman in her 30s? Getting up the diff is one of the few things a woman can do that will get her a lot of praise from society. Strangers beam at you in the street. Deep down I like the idea of telling my parents I am pregnant - my approval rating will go through the roof. For once I will be the first do something that my over achieving siblings have never done. I mean - that's a terrible reason to have a baby and there's no denying its part of my motivation.

Fuckin ell skater please tell me that you and mr skater have not been together for years and years?otherwise you are the sort of couple I find upsetting (specifically due to being jealous)

it didn't take a baby to stop me n dp from
being so lovely n romantic - just took time!

Tho I must confess having a baby has knackered my sex drive.and to be honest I didn't even think that was actually possible as I was very...umm..sexually driven.

Obviously that is not entirely helpful when ttc either

We have been together 5 years, married for one.

Tell DP that Bravissimo catalogues reveal a lot more boobies than Next catalogues!

Have just stumbled in from a night out...

SkaterGrrrl Aw. Obv I have huge amounts of envy, but still, aw.

pudding I too love your cards. In a world full of babydust and teddies, it's nice to be able to send (in)decent messages to my cynical and evil friends.

I am an editor at a famous publisher of romantic novels. Which is an odd career choice, really.

Morning chums

Tell your DPs to get stuck in to a "larger lady" catalogue because the girls are 6' and size 16 (ergo heiffers) - lots of T&A in those. Oh and cycling in The Netherlands, he proudly tells me how many pairs of pants he's seen, how many bums and the piece de resistance of course... a full-on vag! trig pubes? Women haven't had pubes since 1996 - he needs a time machine, not a fecking catalogue!

hahaha idealcamel Do you have many novels about a 30-something who actually quite likes her life, drinks a smidgeon too much and decides to give it all up for poo and sleep deprivation?

Bah to all your exciting careers! I say it loud and proud, I am.....an accountant. So there. I do count the beans for a well known, publicly funded art gallery though. I'm not really career driven due to having spent my (re)productive years in a line of acocunting I loathed and despised, but now I've found something I really enjoy I am loathe to give it up.

On a tangent, my Mum is of the very-loudly-given opinion that women (not parents, they are not created equal, apparently, and of course being abrren I wouldn't understand) should not work when they have children as the children turn out to be insecure and unhappy. She then pulls out the trump card of being a primary school teacher and having seen it in too many children. Doesn't she realise that this is really putting me off producing requisite grandchildren? Not to mention a pile of rubbish since Dh was child-minded and is the happiest, most secure person I know. Bah!

A celeb in our midst? - pudding I too am a fan of your repertoire.

I am (for the moment!) an account manager in the print and direct mail industry. How's that for excitement? I bet you all went through school desperate for that as a career eh??

skater I know what you mean. We've been together 16 years and I'm terrified that somehow the longer you've been together the more of an adjustment it will be and we just won't cope with it.

I maintain a small and tidily-trimmed front lawn, is that allowed?

Pudding I'm a fan too, feel a bit shy now I know we have a celeb on the thread.

VAG you're staring at your pubes in your office?

I'm afraid I have absolutely no idea who pudding's company is - but my excuse is having been out of the country for 10 years... and the 4 years previous to that in deepest, darkest, rural Wales. But as long as it's more Purple Ronnie/Dorothy Parker than fucking Babydust then I'm a fan.

Aw bless the lot of you.it's fucking hard work
at the mo,dp permenantly on verge of nervous breakdown n I'm trying to do a full weeks work in 2 days aaargh.

I'm trying to work out if you are all making the breeding biz harder or easier for yourselves by thinking so much...

In the end I think it's a good thing,you all seem to be going into it eyes wide open.

cosmo definitely (sorry am not going to lie).
Dp n I were very used to being selfish bastards and we really struggled to adjust.our situation wasn't helped by the fact noone had ever been straight with us about how thoroughly un-rosy the early days with a newborn can be.hence me trying to be straight with you lot.

Am practically on the floor today.mildly hungover (as always) and the boy is cutting his last teeth,the bleedin massive molars,so we are seeing a lot of each other in the early hours.

To the accountants in the midst,quite a lot of my job is rather dull,lots of costings and p & l and stuff.and I can't add up which doesn't help.

Do get v involved with the creative side too tho,especially the word stuff.dp is the artistic talent tho.

Ps spelling,typos etc due to the usual-my bloody phone,child,and lack of sleep.

pudding you were supposed to lie and say it was all a bed of roses!!! lol.

Fuck no ski

No 'babydust',no kittens,the occasional proper romantic valentine but mostly humorous/cynical/drunken stuff...and cartoony small fat versions of such cult icons as hendrix,Kurt cobain and erm del boy and the a team.

Noooo cosmo that's what all the fuckers did to me and it nearly killed me...

Oops hang on my child is trying to climb out the window

No you're right, I'd rather be prepared for the harsh realities.

I too am fully prepared for this kid business. This is why I live in a country where someone else will do the housework and my BoyToy will be a SAHD. Have I missed anything? Surrogacy perhaps?

pud I'm of a mind that we could pull together some cracking quotes for a range of mid 30s angst (welcome to) cards.

Royalties would be payable though . Where do you source your quotations from?

All over the place trig. never off-duty y'see.

Also sometimes make them up.

Am going to have to try mainlining coffee.have drunk enough bastard strong stuff to make me feel sick
and it's still not kicking in! Anyone fancy popping over to Bristol with sandwiches for me and small?

pudding you need to bring out a range of Birthday of Doom cards!!

They could have lovely pictures of shrivelled ovaries on them