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Mid 30s TCC Gin Palace

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SkaterGrrrrl · 22/06/2009 22:47

Welcome everyone from the old 'Mid 30s and TTC for the first time' thread. And welcome newbies too. Don't mind the poster in the corner dipping pregnancy test sticks into her glass of gin.

OP posts:
skihorse · 07/07/2009 08:25

trig True. I'm a huge fan of plastic paedos.

When the hell are we supposed to have children btw? If you do it in your teens then you're a selfish slag with no ambition. If you do it in your 30s you're a selfish career bitch with no thought of your children. If you do it age 20-26 then you're a stupid bitch who should be concentrating on her career. So we're left with the approved age range of 27-29.

triggerhappybaby · 07/07/2009 09:25

I think that's too young myself. That's the time when you are earning enough to afford to travel or go on nice holidays without the responsibility or child care or going to child friendly places.

Well I know that's what I was doing when I was 27-29 anyway. The thought of children would never even have entered my head

nolongerchunkybutstillapudding · 07/07/2009 09:47

nocoffee your friend is talking out of her arse.she's pregnant not a doctor!

If it helps I came off pill ummm beginning sept 06 and was pg by march 07. So what's that,about 6 months? And I had been on the pill since the dawn of time (well since I was 16 so pretty much the same thing)

everyone's a fucking expert aren't they!

And I have a new 'things we argue about' to add.

Whether the council water the stuff planted by sides of road in the city.

Quite a heated debate that! Mind you we are winding each other up on a daily basis at the moment.

How many of us are on the rag at the mo then?seems like we're all bleedin' all over the furniture!

VeryAnnieGertie · 07/07/2009 09:51

Morning all - just wanted to swing by and drop off some gin. I've been outside smoking for a few days having found that I have absolutely noting to say. This happens a lot in real life, but it's odd to find that my virtual alter-ego also suffers. Anyhoo, I've been listening and laughing and hope that normal service resumes soon.

But I did bake these cupcakes for you all at the weekend. Virtually hash-free, promise.

Cosmosis · 07/07/2009 09:54

Well I let the side down last night, no alcohol consumed at all. Sorry ladies, will try harder tonight.

VeryAnnieGertie · 07/07/2009 09:56

I have no desire to be pregnant.

There, I've said it. I think that's what's been bothering me.

nolongerchunkybutstillapudding · 07/07/2009 10:01

VAG you ok?

Is it the pregnancy or the ensuing mayhem you're not sure about?

RunLyraRun · 07/07/2009 10:02

Hello lushes. Well after my weekend of champagne, dinner at the top of Hilton Park Lane, 2am karaoke, dinner at Langans, Wimbledon ladies' final including Pimms and more champagne, and barbeque with yet more Pimms, I'm back to reality

I got my day 21 progesterone result back yesterday, and amazingly I ovulated this month, despite having PCOS. I'm sure I don't usually (and previous tests have confirmed that), so I'm definitely putting it down to the Take That gig. Now I just have to find a way to ensure TT-induced ovulation occurs every month. Anyone got their old concerts on DVD? Am I 33, or 13?

Hey VAG, if you go and get the doc to do some tests on you, you could tell us all the results = something to talk about!

RunLyraRun · 07/07/2009 10:09

Sorry, crossed posted there. VAG, I feel you mate - I don't want to be pregnant either. Nor do I want to give birth, and I don't want a baby to have to feed and clean and generally keep alive. I don't want to be at home on my own for a year.

I don't mind them once they can talk to you, so I guess what I want is an 18 month old. Tricky.

VeryAnnieGertie · 07/07/2009 10:13

Am fine - just hot and grumpy. And you're right, should go get tests done, but am wavering about what I want - it would be like committing to it mentally, which, despite being on here most days, have not fully managed to do.

And I'm a total hypochondriac - isn't pregnancy going to mess with my head?

Good work on the ovulation, Lyra.

triggerhappybaby · 07/07/2009 10:30

VAG we are twins. I feel like all I'm doing is challenging myself to get pregnant to see if I can get past week 9. Any further than that doesn't bear thinking about

VeryAnnieGertie · 07/07/2009 11:01

trig I know that feeling well - I've focussed entirely on the conception hurdle and cannot bring myself to think beyond that as I start to fray at the edges if I do.

I'm not grown-up enough to do this. Despite looming BOD. I just don't know what else life holds if not this.

skihorse · 07/07/2009 11:16

Ladies - I totally hear you - I want some time off work to breathe and I want a family. I want teenagers who come to me for advice and to watch them explore their lives - I want to expand our family through their partners. For the first 12 years or so I'm at a total loss as to what to do.

This is all clearly because my own family are SO shockingly shit.

idealcamel · 07/07/2009 11:18

vag and trig - I feel your pain. I woke up today and realised that I drank most of a bottle of gin this weekend, that the house was a tip, that we had no clean mugs or forks, that we'd eaten only Chinese takeaway and burgers since last Thursday and that my husband regularly works from 7 til 9. And that I'd quite like a promotion, thankyouverymuchyes. How the hell am I supposed to manage any sort of small crying smelly thing that is totally dependent on me? I didn't even have any clean trousers this morning, so I've come to work in a skirt and bare legs and it's tipping down.

Gah. Can you tell it's the start of the evil two weeks that leads to bleeding, pain and lots of shouting/tears depending on style of PMT?

skihorse · 07/07/2009 11:22

Funny you should mention that idealcamel, I ALWAYS feel like that post-ovulation - by which time of course the deed is already done (or not).

Cosmosis · 07/07/2009 11:45

"I just don't know what else life holds if not this"

That's the key though isn't it. I agonise over this so much, have done for years - it's taken 8 years of marriage to get to this point. And it's basically because when I think of my life stretching before me, without children it just looks very empty and unfulfilled.

I'm not looking forward to having a baby - terrifying creatures. I am looking forward to teaching a child to ride a bike, to taking them on holiday, to helping them with their homework (as long as it's not maths or science ), to listening to them moan about their friends, to taking them off to university etc etc etc.

RunLyraRun · 07/07/2009 11:59

Cosmo - you put it very well. To get to what I do want it seems I will have to go through years of stuff I don't want. Can that be right?

Cosmosis · 07/07/2009 12:04

lol, yes it does seem rather unfair doesn't it.

triggerhappybaby · 07/07/2009 12:13

We could always adopt

Cosmosis · 07/07/2009 12:16

the process for adoption seems far worse than ttc & actually having a baby from what I have heard! Serious hoop jumping required.

donttrythisathome · 07/07/2009 12:20

I'm hearing you sisters.

Maybe I could be the thread cautionary tale?

Planned the TCC challenge like a fecking military capaign, determined that if stupid feckers could be up-diffed, so could I.

Now I'm here, I am WTF WTF WTF what have I done, what am I supposed to do now.

And a cold realisation that life as I know it is (if no mc) over for good.

Simultaneously am hyper protective and do not want it to end.

donttrythisathome · 07/07/2009 12:21

Also had a tear in me eye for ski and Cosmos positive side of children (as well as yours chunkY* a few days ago).

triggerhappybaby · 07/07/2009 12:22

Oh gosh feel the ANGST!!!

donttrythisathome · 07/07/2009 12:23

LOL at the Take That egg-pop

Cosmosis · 07/07/2009 12:27

donttry repeat after me; it'll be fine. it'll be fine. it'll be fine. it'll be fine. it'll be fine. it'll be fine. it'll be fine.

that is my current mantra.

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