Mid 30s TCC Gin Palace

[SkaterGrrrrl]

Welcome everyone from the old 'Mid 30s and TTC for the first time' thread. And welcome newbies too. Don't mind the poster in the corner dipping pregnancy test sticks into her glass of gin.

tsk @ doc - bedside manner not all it could be then? Did she punch you on the shoulder?

I had more or less a day off from bleeding yesterday, which was a relief so I thought it was all over. However, as sod's law would suggest, as soon as you start thinking that it all comes back. I just wish it would all stop - it's the relentless reminder that hacks me right off - just get rid and let that be an end to it, but oh no it has to rub your nose in it too (not literally - yak)

ski sounds promising at docs? Btw you can piss on a stick any time of day,the first thing orders are for testing early.

My positive for the monkey downstairs trashing my kitchen was done at 6pm ish.at the office.cos dp wanted me to get it over with so we could go and get pished....

Didn't quite work out like that.tho he of course got thoroughly leathered.and gibbered a lot.for about 3 months.

Am happy to furnish with facts.not sure where to start tho.wish someone had told me that newborns are quite scary and not that much fun and it's actually normal to want to send them back...

But that when you make it thru that bit,small people,tho thoroughly mad and exhausting,are hilarious and truly worth the effort....

ski - not a fan of jean-claude, bit embarrassed to admit the van dam I have a major crush on. To the extent of scouring the internet to track him down. Just found out where he lives and having to control myself from not stalking him outside his house. I blame the ttc hormones. I'm all over the place.

Bloody period on its way - nice pants full of brown stuff today (why the hell is it brown all of a sudden?) still cannot believe I'm not impregnated when we did it EVERY day last month. Maybe that was the problem.

Hmm, things I can share about childbirth that aren't scary. The midwife sticks her finger up your arse after you've given birth to make sure everythings as it should be. Nice eh?

Ski-goes without saying of course that I'm gutted for you if it is all over.

trig Oh I didn't take it in a negative manner, her notes said that I'd phoned and there was a problem - but I thought it was positive that she didn't automatically assume that the baby was gone. Bleeding is normal apparently. She didn't punch me in the shoulder. Basically she said that I should allow myself some time to mourn but to get back in the saddle, no reason to wait. She also said what we all know really - in that there's bugger all you can do in the first trimester and that if the baby does go then it's a chromosomal abnormality so there's no way it would've survived anyway.

I haven't held a baby in 14 years and I'm not actually that keen on babies. I like toddlers though.

Thanks ladies, I will POAS at some point throughout the day. pudding nice to hear you tested in work, think I'll be doing the same. Not quite the surroundings I imagined, but hey, needs must....

Actually, I'm quite an impatient person & may tell some lie so as to nip out of office now.............

ski & trig big man hug & slap on the back to you both.

Glad I'm not the only perv one with a school boy crush.

Oh, think I feel a migraine coming on & need to pop to the chemist for "special" tablets right away.........

Ah balls was laurielou that asked the poas question,sorry ski easily confused...

So what exactly did doc say ski? and if you are duffed how far along would you be? There may be some scanning options.sorry you are experiencing this it's very very shit and must be doing your head in

Sorry crossed post.that's shite ski hope you are ok.not sure I know you well enough for arm puncing yet....

btw I discovered that I'm not mad about babies once I had one!which was a tad scary.it's all good now tho...

pudding Definitely not pregnant, gosh I've gone and confused everyone haha. What I meant to convey was that she wasn't overly concerned by the bleeding alone. But the bleeding in combination with the "niet zwanger" was a losing combination.

Right, I'm going to photocopy my uterus and post it here for everyone to see, it's the only way.

On a lighter note, we went for a long walk last night down to the lake and for the first time ever both the dogs waded right in and were swimming for ages, it was lovely. Maybe because it was so hot they just felt it was a great way to cool down.

OH told me last night that the reason he'd said "are you sure you were pregnant?" was because he'd never had anything "so bad" happen to him before. I buy that. How are your men coping with the ups & downs of TTC?

I had dinner cooked for me last night for almost the first time ever. DP worried about me cos I appear to be sinking into a decline and he can't help. Has been a rotten year: dad died, big fallout with eldest sis (non-recoverable), 2x miscarriages and a multitude of work stressors along with trying to deal with 2 recalcitrant lazy arse teenagers and a grieving mum and trying to appear fabulous, attractive, witty and erudite on a daily basis is finally taken its toll. Looking forward to the inevitable liver problems.

Hi all. Hope everyone is feeling ok/better/hopeful. Gosh newbies around - who have stuck around too! That's great, it worries me that we seem to scare so many off after saying "hello".

I'm seriously envying you your dogs Ski - that sound like a lovely evening.

My DH is doing OK for now. He has a biological child already (long story) so I wonder whether if things do not happen for us he will think that is his "get out of jail card" with respect to being poked and prodded by medics etc but we are not there yet. In the mean time he gets a lot more "quickies" Foreplay last week was along the lines of "well if it's just a quickie because it is the right time, make me hard and spread your legs" . Would't that be a lovely one to tell the kiddies about?

I'm struggling with charting. My temps are all over the place and I'm not sure the right method is to take my temp several time per night and then choose the "best" one. Fertility Friend says either I'm crap at taking my temperature or there is somat wrong with me...

at Trig. Everything always seems to come at once. Makes it much harder to keep a positve attitude which is always half the battle. Tides have to change soon. x

To be honest I think my oh dealt with my recent mmc than he did when I got up the duff the first time!he was a wreck.not sure he was ready for it.

He was my rock when I miscarried,I felt like such an arse fir arranging my 12 week scan on his birthday,but I really had no idea anything was wrong.it was very very shite and prob not something anyone needs to hear about...

As far as his thoughts on ttc go,we have been pretty rubbish at it for various physical and umm...emotional reasons... And I'm not really sure he actually understands how it works either.even tho we fitted in a couple of shags at prob the 'right' time this months he thinks it's completely impossible that I caould be pg as we didn't have looaaads of sex.

I would def say we think about it all a lot more than them,but that's only from my own experience.

oh ski no photocopy needed,I have jam for brains but understood eventually.arsebiscuits.

Aussie I used to read about people who felt that the romance had gone from the bedroom whilst TTC and I laughed to myself and said "It'll never happen to me". These days I find myself saying "I've got an 8am meeting, I know I smell of horse but ffs get hard and get on with it!" It's beautiful. I felt that temping was putting too much pressure on me - I'm just forcing the poor ingrate to shag me daily.

trig I'm so sorry - but at least he's not going to start bitching if you hit the booze counter in Tesco is he? Does Kath Kidson do Vodka?

Well, I'm definitely not pregnant. Bought the digital one so there was no faffing around with "trick of the light" lines etc. Didn't expect to be PG, but also didn't expect the kick in the gut feeling at the words "NOT PREGNANT" appearing in front of me. Felt like I should scroll along to find rest of the message .....YOU RIDICULOUS OVARY SHRIVELLED BARREN OLDIE.

Anyway, now going to book docs.

My DP seems to be coping very well. Too well. Bless him, I constantly nag him because he isn't stressed / upset etc. I know he kind of is but has never been good at showing feelings, & I show enough for the both of us. I'm 18 mths older than him, & have never greeted each birthday with glee (well, I love the attention & presents, not the age thing) so its all coming to a bit of a head for me.

Fun & games, eh?

trigger sorry you have had such a shitty time.not surprising that you are feeling low.life is a crapbasket sometimes

laurie shall I send you some forrin ones instead? You can have some "niet zwanger" ones or I'm only 10 miles from Germany, maybe I can get a "kein kinder" version? I've got French-speaking Belgium 15 miles away "Pas de bebe tu pute sale"?

Btw pudding - I loved the Guardian article and was really surprised about the whole listeria thing. Considering the whole listeria hysteria I thought it was actually a risk. But 3 cases since 1972? For fuck's sake! I did giggle about the "who do you trust? A BRITISH doctor or a gaggle of Danish people with their PASTRIES and their BACON!"

I said as much to the mat nurse when she reeled off a list of things I wasn't allowed (she must have assumed I was a grade one moron) which included pate and soft cheese. I said how statistically low the chances of listeria were (I used to be a food hygiene inspector)and she said yes but there's still a chance - I muttered that there was an outside chance I'd be run over by a bus but I wasn't going to stop crossing the road because of it. Admittedly it was under my breath and with furtive glances to check if she'd heard me. She fixed me with a hard stare so she may have done . Meh.

I find the easiest option is to agree with the doc/midwife/health vistor...

And then go and eat the cheese!maybe with a nice glass of red...

Told you am a social pariah

I'm coming out of stalk lurk, seeing as how its what all teh cool kids are doing. Hello all. I'd like to echo all the compliments on the loveliness of this thread - when I first discovered the baby-making-related-acronyms on other places I almost gave up trying to have one. A baby, that is, not an acronym.

Um - am 32, does that disqualify me from hanging out with you lot? In my defence, I have a gin habit the size of Egypt and can occasionally be found having the odd cheeky fag, so I'm pretty sure that my ovaries are pleasantly blighted by now.

It's ok camel your youthful age is offset by the booze and fags nicely.

Morning ladies,

My you've been busy overnight. Nice to see I'm not the only stalker newbie on here.

I'm loving the 1920's Raffles-style white-walls-and-wicker Gin Palace this week. Mine's a Singapore Sling.

Sorry you're niet zwanger, ski, but liked hearing about your dogs swimming in the lake. Sadly my dog is too stoopid to understand that water=cool, or indeed that trying to attack moving cars is unwise. I don't like babies either, it freaks my out that they can't talk/tell you what they're whinging about/hold their own heads up etc.

All five spaces on my laminate are filled with David Tennant, so what do I do with Zac Efron?? Any ideas (the filthier the better)? Secret strap-on crush is Amanda Peet in Studio 60 phwoarr. VAG, of course West Wing is real, but why doesn't Sam Seaborn get a look in with you?

Think you are all marvellous,

Lyra

PS Think I have found the secret to getting eggs out of my PCOs. Went to see Take That on Friday, and my ovaries responded wildly. I could feel them popping like bubble wrap inside me.

I think it's the combination of all 4 boys together, none of them do it for me individually, but somehow the whole is SO much greater than the sum of the parts. Perhaps I should seek out 3 additional DHs before starting TTC.

Lyra - you could just kidnap all of Take That? After all, it's in a good cause. Have to admit, it feels quite odd giving advice re: Take That crushes, rather like starting teen years all over again. Mind you, obsessive monitoring of pants for blood = very familiar from waiting to start periods in adolescence.

Top fives? At the risk of starting a fight with whoever mentioned Angel from Buffy, Spike from Buffy (character, not actor) is luffly. Have often had to go sit in a bath of ice after watching him.

Am very greedy, and would add Hugh Jackman and Nathan Fillion to my collection. Also have weird crush on David Mitchell. Hmm. You probably didn't need to know that so early in our time together.

I also have weird crush on Davit Mitchell. And Bill Bailey. And Ian Hislop. There is no hope for me, I know.

eeeeewwwwwwwwwwww, cosmo. I think you should leave the Gin Palace for an hour and think about what you've just said.......