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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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OracleInaCoracle · 02/06/2009 09:05

new thread.

for those who are having problems getting pg

or staying pg

or are simply fed up of being told to relax and having to smile and say "you never know"

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mowmi · 29/09/2009 13:49

Hi Rainbow - my friend ended up with a similar result. She'd had 2 mc and went for the tests. She took asprin + had a jab early on (also related to blood clotting)and I'm pleased to report she has a beautiful 6 month old now.
I take baby asprin too due to my pcos.
I'm good thank you - all going well at last!
I think of you too - I'll keep popping back to hopefully read some good news soon.

Take care x

poppy75 · 29/09/2009 20:02

Hello guys,

Can I join???

Used to message alot on MN then tried to forget about all this ttc thingy (it didn't work!). Am now hoping to try IUI in December and really need to speak to others going through ttc again. My story is ttc for nearly 4 years, 1 mc 3.5 years ago and nothing since. Diagnosed with unexplained infertility

pollypoo what is this Candida thingy and how did you know what it was?? I have diabetes and before I was diagnosed was constantly having trush, is it related?? What can I do to help it if it is???

Also does anyone know what I should be taking to maximise things for 3 months time? Am fed up after being on folic acid for 4 years but feel I should make the effort in the short term to maximise IUI

I'm really glad I popped back am so sick of super fertile friends who are all pregnant with number 2 and weren't even trying when I had my mc. One of my closest friends explained to me that I was over 30 and fertility does decline! Even though she waited until 32 to have her first and got pregnant straight away with no. 2 at 34!!! I really need some ttc buddies!!

poppy75 · 29/09/2009 20:04

Whoops should be thrush not trush!!!!

Heebeejeebee · 29/09/2009 20:59

Poppy - you've come to the right place! I'm having the same nightmare as you - my friends are conceiving no 2 and I haven't managed one yet I am going to be referred for the lap and dye next month, then once I've had that, will be referred for IVF (at 37 apparently the chances of IUI working are minimal)

I'm taking the Zita West vits and also the Zita West omega 3 due to being borderline for killer cells. DH is actually taking more than me.

It just seems so unfair, doesn't it? Fingers crossed that it happens very soon for us

PollyPoo · 30/09/2009 13:27

Hello Poppy, welcome to the hut

I keep getting a candida overgrowth in my gut, and do sometimes get vaginal thrush too (sorry tmi!), although the two don't necessarily go together.

I know when its flared up again (usually because I am rubbish at eating the odd treat... one leads to another and another and another until I just gorge myself ). I usually get very very tired, sore throat, earache, headaches, muscles ache, bloating, constipation and/or diarrhoea, and when its really bad I also get very down, irregular periods, EVIL pmt.... the list just goes on.

Have a look at the National Candida Society's website (candida-society.org). They have quite a good checklist of symptons, as well as things that can set it off.

If you think you may have it, I'd suggest getting tested, although your doctor probably won't want to bother. I go to a lovely lady in Somerset who runs a company called Allergy Test UK - she does have testers around the country. Where are you based? If you have got it, you will probably have to cut out some foods and take some supplements to help repair the damage to your gut, but it shouldn't be forever and you can usually start re-introducing foods again slowly after 8 weeks. Unless you are like me - I am unable to do it slowly and end up with the same problems again and again.

Anyway, sorry for the long post, but I hope it is of use.

poppy75 · 30/09/2009 20:53

Hello pollypoo I am also borerline diabetic so I shouldn't really eat sugar so I'll definately go on that website.

Heebeejeebee - thanks for your post, I am feeling rubbish today as a really good friend is finishing work for mat leave, when I started ttc she wasn't even married and has been travelling the world etc... and then decided to ttc and fell pregnant in the first month. Am really pleased for her but am so sad thinking I will never be in that situation. AF arrived today to smack me in the face again!!!

I am hopefully going to try IUI it has taken me so long to convince DH that it is not going to happen naturally and he has just agreed to try it. He is not really keen on IVF andI am so worried that if IUI doesn't work we are going to have to have really difficult talks. I just feel it's so unfair as it seems to be taking all the magic out of having a baby!

shreksmissus · 02/10/2009 09:58

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rainbowdays · 03/10/2009 23:10

Shrek - I know what you mean about the prospect of a bfp being scary. I am glad that your friend reassured you that your dd will not miss out if she gets a sibling.

I am in the horrible 2ww and hating it this time.

shreksmissus · 04/10/2009 12:54

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rainbowdays · 05/10/2009 05:50

shrek - sounds like you have a good plan there. As for me, I am about 11dpo approx. af due in the next couple of days. I am not hopeful, but still wishful!

shreksmissus · 05/10/2009 15:13

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fishie · 05/10/2009 15:17

shrek i am starting to feel very relieved when period arrives. really messes with your head this stuff doesn't it.

shreksmissus · 05/10/2009 15:34

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poppy75 · 05/10/2009 18:45

Hello

shrek I completely know what you mean about AF, I can't even remember what it felt like to be pregnant. When I hear about all the problems and hard work it is to have a baby I don't know how I'll cope as I 'm finding ttc so exhausting, emotionally draining and depressing!!! How shocked will we be when we get our BFP's!!!!

fishie AF arrived last week and like you although you get the down feeling that you are not PG it is also a little relief, so wierd!!

thought I might share with you this weeks main bug bear - friends who have only been with boyfriends for under a year already talking about ttc soon!!! I keep thinking that I was ttc years before they met and they will probably have two before I get another BFP!!!

I feel really mean and nasty but I would love to have a few other people around me who don't conceive in the first month of trying!!!

poppy75 · 05/10/2009 18:48

Oh and had two other people at work tell me that I should have children as life really isn't fulfilling without them! I really didn't need that today, I was only asking how their children were. I thought to myself 'you obviousl had no problems ttc otherwise you would never go there'

Apart from all that it's been a great weekend! and I am feeing quite positive this month

shreksmissus · 05/10/2009 22:47

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Snazzy · 06/10/2009 15:03

Hello new here!

skihorse · 06/10/2009 18:52

Sorry, I'm new to this thread and I've not had a chance to read it all yet - but can I just say that if one more arsehole recommends this fucking book to me I'll rip out their ovaries with a biro.

Thank you for your time.

Seriously gals, does buying the book guarantee pregnancy? Will we learn new and wonderful things such as i) don't be an alcoholic, ii) lay off the smack, iii) eat fewer pies, iv) smoke menthols because they're green - ergo healthy. patronising wankers.

poppy75 · 06/10/2009 20:38

Hello Snazzy and skihorse welcome to the hut!!

Skihorse I've also had two book bought for me, which although sweet of people I just wanted to say 'don't you think I've read all this before??' I guess it is better than when I am trying to lay off the vino everyone can't help pointing out that everyone else smokes and drinks their heart out and just fall pregnant and maybe I should try that!

Had a good day today however and feeling good Hope everyone is ok

shreksmissus hello how are you today? Still waiting or have you tested??

shreksmissus · 07/10/2009 00:34

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OracleInaCoracle · 07/10/2009 09:35

hi all, sorry Ive not been on. have been very selfish and been licking my wounds. hello to all the newcomers, im sure you with love the hut as much as we do, its the one place you can scream about the shittiness of ftc.

how is everyone?

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rainbowdays · 07/10/2009 11:32

Shrek - for your pain, but happy birthday ye old one!!!! Oh the joys of being that young, I was depressed for the whole year that I was 29 worrying about being 30 single and assuming I would never find anyone or ever have any children. But my 30th year was great, I then met my now dh! Hope that you get your dream this year.
I am also a day late for af but huge BFN's for me not even a hint of an evaporation line to make me know anything other than I am definitely not pregnant, just waiting and seeing how delayed af will be, I know it will be arriving soon . Anyway, I hope you have a great birthday, and that you get spoilt rotten today.

Lissie - I can understand the need to lick your wounds. Does your reappearance here, mean you are ready to rant or is the pain still too raw? I have been thinking of you.

Hi newbies here (ski-horse, glad you feel relaxed enough here to rant), by the way it is important that all newbies provide all the virtual drinks for their first visits!!!! So where is my vodka and tonic?????

OracleInaCoracle · 07/10/2009 14:57

shreks, i second rainbow, 30 is a good age!

i dont even have the energy to rant anymore, my pg colleagueis going on mat leave in 2w and i cant wait. she has continued to smoke, drink and take drugs throughout her pg and has the nerve to moan about her bump as if its an inconvenience. meanwhile I am having nightmares about my miscarried babies crying for me.

no fucking justice.

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rainbowdays · 07/10/2009 15:26

Lissie - no it is no justice at all, can I wish your collegue more discomfort so that she has to leave you sooner than 2w? Sorry to hear about your nightmares of your m/c babies crying for you. I wish there was something that I could say that would help, but I know that your pain is so deep, that most things I could say would just sound trite. Have you named each of your precious lost children? My m/c baby I miss the most is one I named Sarah and it is hard to think that I can't hold her but I am so glad to think that she has brothers and sisters with her keeping her company and that she is not alone. Does that sound mad.

rainbowdays · 07/10/2009 18:47

OK I am officially pigged off with the lack of af at the moment. My temper is short-fused to say the least, I feel as un-energetic and low as can be and generally just ugggg. I am eating and eating, today as soon as youngest went for nap. I sat and just watched tv, I could not be bothered doing anything except stuffing my face with food and watching rubbish on tv.

I have had enough.