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emmsy's onwards and upwards part 2, more good new please!

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barbie1 · 10/04/2009 15:19

Right here we go again!

So far we have been lucky on this thread so lets stick together for all you oldies! until we all get our precious babies.

Here's to the next chapter in our special journey, onwards and upwards

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bluesatinsash · 24/04/2009 12:45

Jools - my heart's been in my mouth all morning waiting to hear. I'm so so sorry .

Hope you have a lovely week off with your DP and can heal and move on when you're ready.

much love x

mm1509 · 24/04/2009 12:48

jools - so so sorry to hear this, take some time to heal hun. It's good you are off this week and don't need to deal with anything else, life is just shit sometimes. We are here if you need us xxx.

monkeybumsmum · 24/04/2009 12:53

Oh Jools I am so sorry to hear what's happened. I haven't read back through much but you really do sound like you are being very brave. I am thinking of you x

Have had a busy week back at work, but will try to catch up properly later...

4everhopeful · 24/04/2009 13:02

Oh my god thats so F s* for you Jools hon..

You sound so brave, I guess your gut instinct was right & it helped you prepare.. Its just not fair, I been praying it was different for you...

Really glad you have a hol planned & can just get away...

I, in fact WE all totally understand the utter crapness and unfairness you are experiencing & are here to hold your hand throughout this sweetheart..

Sending you love hugs strength and most of all hope... Make sure you hang onto that to get you through my darling.. xxxxxxxxxx

kate030284 · 24/04/2009 13:03

ahh jools i am so sorry you are going thorgh this i am so upset for you. you are very brave . and we all love very much xxxxxxxx

mermaidspurse · 24/04/2009 13:14

jools sending out the very largest hugs for you and dh. There are not the words for how you feel. Much respect for how you have coped today gorgeous and lovely brave lady.xxxxxxxxx

Curlywurleelittlepants · 24/04/2009 13:38

I'm so sorry jools. I'm sending the biggest hug ur way xxx

Molliemooma · 24/04/2009 14:10

Jools Oh shit, I am so sorry hun really glad you're able to have some space next week, take the time to try and relax but just remember you may still crash and it's to be expected So gutted for you my love x

Neeko · 24/04/2009 14:19

Jools Really sorry for you and DH. Be kind to yourself and know that we are all here. Take care.

bakingqueen · 24/04/2009 14:33

So very sorry to hear your news Jools sending you and your dp all my love. Hope the next few days are not too bad for you, you sound like you are being so brave. Glad to hear your going away so you and your dp can spend some time away. Sending a big mn hug x

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barbie1 · 24/04/2009 17:06

in the middle of bbq, but want to say sorry to jools xxx

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doozerhead · 24/04/2009 18:11

Hi - just back from work and just caught up - jools I'm so so sorry. You sound like you are coping so courageously. Take really special care of yourself xxxxxx

MummyLovesSadie · 24/04/2009 19:51

Jools so very sorry for your sad news, was hoping it could have been a better outcome. You sound like you are being very strong, a big virtual hug for you & I hope you can continue being such a fighter. I hope your week away is a tonic for you both. xxx

SabsBigPants · 24/04/2009 19:55

jools also want to add how sorry i am ...i really dont know what to say except know that we are all here for you whenever you want to chat, about whatever, whenever... was thinking about you all day...

hope everyone is well...

LionstarBigPants · 24/04/2009 20:03

Jools I'm weeping into my apple juice now. So sorry for what you are going through - but you sound like one brave lady. Your time will come.

littlebellsmum · 24/04/2009 21:11

Jools - so sorry to hear your news. I've been following you all week and really wanted some good news for you. So sorry - the only silver lining I can see is the lovely GP you found. Hopefully she'll send you for testing now? Take care, eat chocolate ( lots of it)

Neeko · 24/04/2009 21:42

Jools I know you're unlikely to be on here again tonight but wanted you to know that you've been in my thoughts all day and I really hope you're bearing up. Take care.

lauraloo09 · 24/04/2009 21:49

hiya sorry for loitering again on your thread, been trying to keep up with how jools has been doing and I am heartbroken that this has happened to you again, I pray that you and your DP are ok and pray that one day you will have the baby you deserve x

mermaidspurse · 24/04/2009 23:06

hope everyone is ok, feel like I am going round tucking everyone in for the evening! What a shit, grey, sad day and on the flip side of that my oh my what an amazing thread this is. To think that all over the place women have been going about doing everyday stuff while thinking of jools and her family and it does help in that dark place of mc.
hi laura honey. I am sure if we all wish it enough it will work itself out - trying to remember some of neekos nans sayings now what was it about weeing and crying at the same time? too much wine, stumbling off to bed. xx

daisy5 · 24/04/2009 23:37

Hello again jools. A girl on our thread mentioned you had mc'd and I wanted to come over to tell you how sorry I am to hear that. There seem to be so many people keeping in touch with your progress, so you have a lot of people holding your hand and sending you good thoughts.

Before my 12week miscarriage (that you know about), I had a positive test, that a week later became a heavy period. It was very confusing and I wasn't sure what to make of it. I felt the loss of the little life that wasn't to be, but like you say, was glad it was earlier rather than later for many reasons.

The Mumsnet ladies were fab but one thing I kept remembering - someone who had two children in her forties wrote - 'my eggs were past their Best Before Date, so I had to crack a few shells to find a good one'. I wasn't sure how long I could keep it up but I did know there were good ones there.

You seem to be very fertile so here's hoping the next little egg and sperm are a super combination. I hope you get some relaxation on your holiday. You truly deserve the break. Best wishes for you jools.

daisy5 · 24/04/2009 23:43

I'm worried now that my post sounds heartless. I certainly didn't mean to. Big hugs to you jools honey - you must have had a wretched day.

GracieGirl · 25/04/2009 07:33

Morning.

Mermaid you are right, Jool's bean may not have been around long but was loved by people all over the world. I even rang Kate to let her know. Jools its good to hear you are going away with your DP and getting to spend time together.

I'm going to Cornwall in 2 hours, back friday night. Going with my brother and his girlfriend. DH unfortunately now has to work so can't join us, but I'm going anyway. I'm sure I'll spend half of my time away looking for internet cafes to check in with you lot, or ringing Kate and getting her to read me the thread!

Neeko · 25/04/2009 07:37

Morning all. Hope everyone has a better day today.
Just popping in to add my (expected) BFN to the pile created yesterday . have purposefully put all pee-sticks to the back of cupboard until after AF (whenever that may be) and thought I'd write down my reasons to be positive.

  1. EDD would have been on FIL's b'day and no one likes to share.
  2. EDD would have been straight after New Year so would have broken my resolution of dieting every year by eating cake.
  3. Having BFP without having AF after MC would have made me worry more at an early scan due to inability to know if baby was right size for date.
  4. TTC with you lot is so much fun that I want to joing the mucus obsession, OPKs and 2ww for at least another month!
It's a year today since my very wise and beloved gran died and thought I'd share her favourite poem with you all as I think it fits in with us:

When things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill,
When the funds are low and the debts are high,
And you want to smile, but you have to sigh,
When care is pressing you down a bit-
Rest if you must, but don't you quit.
Life is queer with its twists and turns,
As every one of us sometimes learns,
And many a fellow turns about
When he might have won had he stuck it out.
Don't give up though the pace seems slow -
You may succeed with another blow.
Often the goal is nearer than
It seems to a faint and faltering man;
Often the struggler has given up
When he might have captured the victor's cup;
And he learned too late when the night came down,
How close he was to the golden crown.
Success is failure turned inside out -
The silver tint in the clouds of doubt,
And you never can tell how close you are,
It might be near when it seems afar;
So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit -
It's when things seem worst that you must not quit.

Love you all.

Neeko · 25/04/2009 07:46

Thought I'd update the list.

small pants

barbie ttc#1 cd 15
MLS ttc#2 cd 23
mermaid ttc#2 cd 24
4ever ttc#1 cd 22
curly ttc#1 cd 20
gracieGirl ttc#1 cd 21
mm ttc2 cd ???
littlebellsmum ttc#3 cd ???
neeko ttc#2 cd41 since ERPC
kate ttc#1 cd2
babyinacorner ttc#2 cd 10
bakingqueen ttc #1 cd 33
Jools ttc#1 cd 3 ??

medium pants

Anniecam BFP 28th March
Molliemooma BFP 6th Apr
Bluesatinsash BFP 14th April
Scorpio BFP

big pants

lionstarbigpants due 26/09/09
Vjaybigpants due 26/08/09
Sabsbigpants due 26/09/09
Scamper?

GracieGirl · 25/04/2009 07:51

Good poem Neeko. See I'm even on mumsnet now when I should be running round doing last minute packing.

As Neeko started it I'm going to add that my "hormonal intestine" has got loads worse. My sense of smell is stupidly strong, and I got up to go to the loo in the night and went dizzy and had to lie down cos I got up too quick. This is exactly how I felt back in December. Symptoms started then just before 3 weeks pregnant, and it took one of my friends to point out that I kept clearing out the fridge at work of perfectly good food that hadn't gone off. I'm on day 22 now. DH popped back for a quick visit last night and even he gave me a look after the abdo cramps and the dizziness. Trying REALLY REALLY hard not to think about it, I don't want to know!!!!! Its far too early, too much can go wrong at this early stage. Not taking any pregnancy tests to Cornwall with me. My head is staying firmly in the sand!