bubbly1973's IUI online diary

[bubbly1973]

i am doing this online diary in the hope that it will help anyone who is going through it or are about to go through it. Oneday it will be hidden away in the archives and will be found by someone who is desperatly seeking information or another womans experience and find this diary helpful..if i can help one person then i will be happy

please feel free to post on this thread, if you have any comments or you just want to give me support id be most grateful

so here we go firstly something about me and dh

we had iui done a few years ago, conceived but sadly ended in a miscarriage,
went for our 2nd go straight away and conceived and now we have a beautiful little boy who is going to be 3 in june.

My periods are very irregular, anything from 35 to 45 days. I have cysts on my ovaries so am not ovulating, i thought after having a baby this would correct itself, but unfortunately it hasnt

I am 31, i am a smoker, non vegetarian, weigh nearly 8stone
dh is 32, non smoker, non vegetarian, his sperms are not extremly high in numbers but sufficient enough

iui explained

right so will post this and begin my diary....

madigan, its pessaries which you take for two weeks incase of implantation, helps thicken womb and releases hormone called progesterone..

but dont worry if you werent given it, remember many women who are getting pregnant naturally dont receive extra supplements, they just rely on there own body to make the progesterone.

im sorry you slept so badly, anxiety arggh and so many things whizing through your head, i remember making up scenarios (sp?) imagining that im pg and how im going to tell dh etc etc...then i start getting doubts etc etc...its hard not to think of anything else but the iui

how is your husband through all this, dont forget he is going through it as well, although probably not showing his emotions cos he wants to be a rock for you

hi bubbly and madigan. I had a restless night last night too...and feeling a bit grouchy this morning.

The 2ww isnt any better than the 1st wks of injections and scans. spent all of the week before the insem looking forward to when its done so I could relax!! no such luck. First couple of days I did just not think about it but the nearer I get to my AF the more I think about it. I do this every month anway, but more so on iui.

keep looking on internet as well. The hospital I use, their success rate is 6/63 iui treatments are successfull. didn't seem very high at all and obviously the older you get the lower the success rate. very daunting

will keep my fingers crossed for both of us madigan.

hi again, all I need to now is to come down with a bug and I think I am. Felt a bit ropey this morning...tired, back ache (all the tossing and turning last night I think). Now feeling shivery and achy as well. The annoying thing is I can't take anything 'just in case'.

supposed to be taking my ds and his friend out this pm. Going to have to be supermum as can't let them down.

my dh, when I told him wasn't feeling well he said it might have worked and your pg. he was disappointed to hear that having flu symptoms does not mean your pg!. He wants this to work just as much as me bless him.

Dizzy -

Sorry to hear you're not feeling well ....how miserable to be feeling ill on top of everything else! I know what you mean about the statistics for IUI- not great, are they?

Bubbly - DH has been totally fab through all this, supportive and trying his best to make sure that getting pg does not dominate my thoughts all day every day. I feel v lucky to have him. We do have a v happy and busy life, so keep thinking that it won't be the end of the world if it doesn't work ...... but it's difficult to remain positive all the time, isn't it?

Bella -
just saw your message! Thanks hon. How are you getting on?

dizzy, the success rate does suck a bit dont it! my clinic is way down the list when i had a look but then it managed to get me pg twice, so thats a positive outcome

and not meaning to get your hopes up but a cold aint a bad thing, i know the immune system is low when you get pg, but whether it happens so soon into pg i dont know. but still, sorry your feeling ill, and hope you managed to get through the afternoon with the kids.

madigan, glad to see your getting the support too, and i know what you mean about looking at the other positives in life if you dont have a child, i used to do that, i used to think of holidays, no stretch marks, doing what i want when i want....unfortunatly the urge to have a baby did outweigh the positives, but deep down i knew i would be able to pull through it with dh should the worst happen.

have either of you girls been taking your temperature at all then? i used to just to see if there was any significant change in it after insemination....and there wasnt! which is another reason i thought it hadnt worked.

anyway, another day over, dizzy your into your 2nd week now, time to count the days!! madigan i found playing games online would get my mind off ttc for a bit whilst in the two week wait, i really feel like im going through this with you both, and will be over the moon when its good news, and so upset for you if its not...positive vibes though, and fingers crossed, xxx

Thanks Bubbly - for all your advice and support.
not taking temps, so don't know what's happened to mine.
only done 1 day of the 2ww, and it has felt like forever!!!
where can I find the success rates for clinics for IUI on the internet?

madigan, i found one for ivf when i was looking and it was for 2000, butheres a link for it anyway,

ivf success rates

ps, if your clinic is way down the list, it might do you good to remember the following..which i have copied and pasted from a webpage i found...

Success Rates
Success rates can be misleading, as clinics report their success rates differently. Some report the number of live births, while others only report the number of pregnancies, which can be misleading. Some clinics report on women of all age groups, while others split their results by age group, which will give a more accurate picture. Some clinics may exclude patients that have a poor chance of success, so their success rate looks better than those clinics who take patients regardless of chance of success. Make sure you fully understand how they compile their statistics

hi, had a rough time since last checked in. The back ache got worse and was up the whole night walking round the house that seem to be the only thing that eased it. Ended up taking paracetamol just to get some sleep. It felt like the early stages of labour but constant!

Rang the nurses this morning as I was really worried about it. I was told that it can happen and doesn't necessarily mean that iui not worked. Told her that I didn't recognise them as period pains as not had any for 14 years! (since pill). At least I've had my mind taken off the iui result for 48 hours.

My boobs are no longer sore so don't know what that means. There really is no way of knowing until the big day.

I haven't taken temps for any of the iui's. started this time and then forgot for the last few days!

hi, had a rough time since last checked in. The back ache got worse and was up the whole night walking round the house that seem to be the only thing that eased it. Ended up taking paracetamol just to get some sleep. It felt like the early stages of labour but constant!

Rang the nurses this morning as I was really worried about it. I was told that it can happen and doesn't necessarily mean that iui not worked. Told her that I didn't recognise them as period pains as not had any for 14 years! (since pill). At least I've had my mind taken off the iui result for 48 hours.

My boobs are no longer sore so don't know what that means. There really is no way of knowing until the big day.

I haven't taken temps for any of the iui's. started this time and then forgot for the last few days!

oh dizzy

im sorry your having a rough time of it hun, it could be a pure coincedence that you got a bad back, could be something you ate perhaps?...how you feeling right now? sometimes back aches are worse in the evening, i hope it gets better soon

Dizzy

Hope you are feeling better now - poor you.

Thanks for that link Bubbly, but can't find IUI success rates. never mind, it will stop me obsessing over it!

Do I have to wait the full 14 days before testing? I thought that you could sometimes test from about day 10? Or is it best to wait. what do you think?

hi, feeling bit better today. back still a bit sore. Can't decipher if was a bad back or cramps. Have never had a back problem before and felt a bit poorly with it and was off my food, in fact was totally off my usually healthy food and all I could face was toast, hot dogs!! and crisps.

had some funny twinges low in stomach as well but i've had them before so not reading too much into that. The closer I get to saturday I feel the less likely it is that its worked. I know I should be more positive but just the odd moments feel strongly that not worked.

Madigan, if your periods are quite regular its possible to do an early pregnancy test. The extra hormones can give a false positive though so maybe better if you can hang on until the day you know your af is supposed to start...how have you been feeling? any change in you?

dizzy, glad you are feeling a bit better, sometimes without realising it, when we are sooo tense about things we also carry that on through the night when we are sleeping, and cos we arent relaxed like we normally would be, it can give us bad backs and also make us feel like we been doing a million sit ups cos it can make the front all tender.

i know what you mean about the closer you get the less likely you feel it has worked, thats how i felt, i suppose the closer we get we want there to be a BIG sign we are pregnant and if it dont happen we feel down and think its not worked.

madigan, i would strongly recommend that you do NOT test that early, the hcg injection you were given could give out a false positive, also, if you are pg and the hormones havent risen enough to show on the pg test you will be so down for the next 4 days before due date to test, so why put yourself through it. in other words, you wont believe it if you are pg as you will be scared incase its a false positive, and you will wonder if you tested too early if you get a negative.

did the clinic say you have to go in to do a blood test to see if you are pg or did they tell you to do one at home? many clinics say to do it at home, my clinic said to go in.

sorry about the link not showing iui, i couldnt find it either, i could only find them for ivf, but i guess the success rates are similar perhaps

thanks bubbly, think it might have been a slight slipped disc although when I might have done this I haven't got a clue. Such a releif to be up and about again...it was agony. My dh has been really helpful all weekend though...looking after ds and doing the washing (didn't realise till after that he didn't seperate whites an darks! no disasters though so didn't have the heart to mention it)

my hosital, this time, told me to go in on 28th but can do a home test and let them know if want. My luteal phase has always been 14 days so this sat (25th) is the day my af should come. I usually spot day b4 so if that doesn't happen will do a home test on Sat.

Hi Bubbly and Dizzy

Dizzy - glad you are feeling a bit better now.

Bubbly - thank you for advice re testing, but it will be torture waiting until Friday week!!! Anyway, I will try .....

I did not know that it is HCG they use in the injection to trigger ovulation?

I have not felt any different at all really. I have moments when I think it might have worked, but just have no idea really!

Bubbly, can I ask how long you were ttc before going down IUI route? and why did you go for IUI?
With us, I had endometriosis (all zapped by laser now), and DH had a low sperm count (although pleased to say it has now improved).

dizzy, you seem to have a very supportive husband, we need them at times like this dont we!!

madigan, we tried for 4 years, i was on the pill, came off it and periods never went to regular, but they were always irregular before going on pill, so i guess i always had a feeling i may have problems.

then the docs wont just refer you onto a waiting list for iui, they gave me clomid, still no joy, then finally they agreed to transfer me to the fertility clinic...that took ages to wait, so all in all it took 4 years.

i have polysistic ovaries, (i wasnt ovulating) and dh had at the time more abnormal sperms than they would have liked (every man has abnormal sperms but it depends how many)...however his sperm count on this 3rd go was 14million after the spermwash, and it was much more on the other 2 treatments which failed...so work that one out!!

its hard to wait, but i had no probs doing that bit cos im far too tight to go out and spend money on pg test

oops sorry, was not 14million, he had 16million on successful iui, and on my 2nd failed iui cycle he had 36million

oops sorry, was not 14million, he had 16million on successful iui, and on my 2nd failed iui cycle he had 36million

oops sorry, was not 14million, he had 16million on successful iui, and on my 2nd failed iui cycle he had 36million

i like hitting the 'post message' button today obviously

Bubbly
My DH had 20 million before the sperm wash, and then 10 million after. All other parameters were very good. They seemed to think that all was fine - and said the results of his sperm test were very good (something, not sure what, was 99%?) - but now I am concerned because count still seems low compared to yours .....

madigan, dont be concerned at all hun, i was very concerned when i found out that they were only putting in half the amount on my final iui go.

can you imagine being told that on the other goes it was 36million on the other go, and this time only 16million...i felt really down thinking that if i cant get pg on 36million the chances of getting pg on half the amount are going to be far less

so dont worry, its still a good count for you, stay positive, i wish i had, but then i can say that cos i have hindsight now.

also all those 10million sperms are the best ones going up there, so dont worry at all

ps..99% could have been the motibility, (where the sperms are good swimmers going the right way)..if thats the case, which i think it is, then that is very very good, so chin up okay!!