July/August baby threads, where are you now? Wishing, Sunnydale, Homeinthesun, Headfairy, Bubble, etc..

[Issy42]

Please don't be offended if you're not named, you're still welcome, I just have a rubbish memory. I can see a couple of you on November thread but there's a whole load of people not there. Just wondering if you wanted a little thread to keep in touch?

Headfairy - just replied to you on grapefruit thread. So sorry about your sad news. Was hoping a new thread might provide you with support from old friends.

And Sunnydale, I know you're wary of new threads, so though you might also like the company of old friends.

Wishing and Bubble having your weird long cycles and missing whole month's threads, thought this might be one for you too.

So what do you say? I'll start a list just in case:

Issy, ttc#1, cycle 14, ucl 28ish, cd 23/10dpo, mc Mar08, cp Sep08, IVF in April.

ooo it's very quiet in here today. Is everyone doing silent reading?

bubble I totally don't tell him the ins and outs though he is pretty clued up about what days are gooduns. He just wants to feel like he is fit and healthy and that a couple of money problems are sorted out first. I don't want to wait at all though. We're going to have a chat about it later and hopefully i will win we will reach some sort of consensus on the matter.

Hope you are feeling ok today and hope everyone else is having a very good day so far xx

I'm back.... that wasn't the longest nappy change in history, dh is off sick today as he's sprained his ankle playing 5 a side yesterday and he's been hogging the computer for facebooking working.

Sif, I don't really keep dh that informed either, I just say a couple of days ahead of when I'm due to ov "you feeling up for a few days lovin'?"

One argument you can use with your dh is that chances are you won't get pg straight away and can use the few months it'll probably take as practice

headf I could say that, but he wouldn't believe it! I think I will just have to resort to my puss in boots Shrek style looks and meows...

I can see from his point of view that waiting til May isn't that long. But. When you are the girl, and waiting until last autumn was very long in the first place, and post MC you feel very much in limbo - like you are on journey now and don't fancy going back to post work boring pints, and you don't fancy spending the whole summer feeling sick, then three months is a hell of a long time to wait.

(Sorry if I sound really whiney. )

Hope your DH is healing well

sif - whine away...

There is never a right time to fall pg there are always money issues, family do's weddings, work problems to get through. Before DS was born I was adament I wanted a April-Sept summer baby (Scottish school year intake is March-Feb) and after DS was born (in June )after Emerg. CS I vowed to have a VBAC next time round but here I am 2 mc later and if I fall pg soonish i will have a Nov/Dec/Jan baby and if I do fall pg I don't care how dc is born as long as he/she is ok!

What I'm wafflingly trying to say is that you and your DH should just go for it! Get those boots on and your whiskers combed

Bought big packet of tampax and a big box of mum-to-be vits earlier - talk about hedging my bets..

Well AF is due on Sunday but am I symptom spotting? No actually not really....honestly.

bubble - hope your OK today and your bleeding is starting to subside.

blue you're totally right. I have dropped the whole when is the perfect time of year thing and just to get on with it. It is very possible that I might MC again despite having thrown kzillions of pounds at every alternative doctor in town! I don't want to waste time planning for the perfect conception moment. At the same time I would feel quite if I felt that I had bullied him into it. It would be lovely to think that his heart and soul was totally into the whole project now, but he is particularly under pressure at the moment...bless

Anyway we shall see. I can but beg try.

Good for you keeping such a level head and not falling into the old 2 ww trap. Top of the class.

[awards 3 gold stars for excellent thread behaviour]

Hi all,

how is everyone?

blood test results came back yesterday and my hcg level is back to a non pregnant level so i guess its all over. dr said i dont need medical intervention and that nature has taken its course. which i am pleased about.

hope your all ok.

xxx

Hi everyone!
bubble sorry you had to go through this, but glad that, under the circumstances, it was the best it could have been.

Sif i echo what blue says. I thought I wanted a spring baby, but after trying for nearly a year now I will just take what I am given and be grateful!

poor DP is still under the weather, now on two types of antibiotics. Does anyone know if this will affect his swimmers? he had better be back to match fitness by CD26 (not that I am counting though of course )

Hi everybody

girlwithacurl i can't see why it will affect his swimmers and certainly have never read anything (and actually I think I have read everything!) to suggest that it will. I hope he gets better soon though.

Found out about ANOTHER friend who is due this summer last night. I think everyone has been sitting out a sort of grace period post MC before informing me! Actually apart from a twinge of jealously I'm kind of over it all now. Like blue and girl say at this point just getting pregnant sometime soon with a healthy and sprouting bean will be fine.

Absolutely no good can come from comparing yourself to others, from comparing your ages, to fixating on the time of year, or the ideal age gaps between siblings. I am slowly realising that it just happens when it happens regardless of our plans. All we can do is try to make lurve on certain days in the month, and in my case remember to tend to the topiary from time to time

bubble I hope you're feeling ok today.

Morning all....

Bubble, it sounds a little odd to say this, but I'm glad it's all over with the minimum of fuss. Sorry if that sounds flippant, but I found it much easier to deal with. And of course, once your hCG levels are back to normal, they no longer suppress your normal cycle, so the quicker you can get back to ttc if that's what you want to do. I hope you're feeling ok about all of this. You sound very strong and together.

Girlwithacurl... I'm not sure about the antibiotics, I know if women take them in early pregnancy they can make their babies teeth yellow. I have quite yellow teeth (hmm that makes me sound soooo attractive ok they're a teeeeny bit yellow) because my mum was taking tetracycline when she got pg with me. Not sure about the affect on men. Probably best to ask a GP or the pharmacist.

I totally agree with the whole "don't even bother trying to conceive at a particular time" line of thought. I really wanted my first baby before I was 36.... actually had him when I was 37, really want to have my next one before I'm 40 but who knows??? I did also get a bit excited when I got pg at Christmas (stupid I know, never count your chickens... etc etc) because I thought ds and dc2 would have birthdays in the same week. DS is probably secretly grateful he doesn't have to share his birthday limelight with a brother or sister (not that he knows there was a chance of that, he's only 17 months )

Well, I'm feeling in a very Thank Crunchie It's Friday kind of mood. Despite being blooming hungry cos I'm on yet another diet, I'm feeling v positive. We've had another viewing on our house this morning (cue dh and I frantically dashing around in our dressing gowns tidying up) and I can't wait to buy a new house. I'm off to browse Right move.... have a lovely day everyone x

head If you're hungry eat protein! seriously - the naturopath i saw said if you eat 3 meals a day plus two protein snacks in between meals (hummous/nuts/yoghurt/cheese/egg) your sweet cravings will go down loads because your blood sugar won't drop. I have found it to be true!

I am going to the acupunturist this afternoon. bliss. i just love it.

And I love going on rightmove. it's so addictive! Enjoy!

Thanks for that sif, I'm off to get some protein

Enjoy your acupuncturist. I've only ever had it for my back, didn't really do anything for me, but was surprisingly pain free. Those little needles are so tiny!

I have saved loads of properties on rightmove now, there's about 5 in the catchment area for a primary school that's got an outstanding for it's last ofsted report so we're off to look at those next weekend I think. They're really nice houses too...

blue how is your non symptom spotting going??

No need sif - think old AF is on her way as I have my usual 'nippy fango' feeling which always signals her arrival. So the box of tampons won this month but I will start taking the mum-to-be vits now(was taking general ones which had same level of folic acid).

You know my DH may just get his way, he was on 3 weeks paternity leave for the last World Cup (DS and me came home on the opening day in 2006) and low there's another one next year... If you told me then I may have to wait 4 years to have another lo - but life likes to through us some curve balls eh...

Hope all well and HF - enjoy your protein!

ROFL at 'nippy fango'

but sorry your AF seems to be coming. get those vits in you girl.xx

sorry to hear that blue.... I did chuckle at the nippy fanjo line too.

Talking of vitamins, do you know what I do when I'm being really blase about ttc? I sometimes don't take my folic acid Talk about tempting fate eh? Actually not tempting it that much as I haven't got pg whenever I've done that

When I saw my GP last time I was pg (only about 5 weeks ago, weird to think I was pg 5 weeks ago) she told me it was important to take a vitamin supplement that had folic acid and vit D as they are apparently advising pregnant women to take some vit D every day as we don't get enough any more... Boots were doing 3 for 2 on these... I don't forget any more as I'm pretending they're just a normal supplement, nothing to do with ttc!

Hi all

glad your all ok.

i was taking pregnacare conception but its expensive so im gonna go back to normal folic acid until i get 'lucky' again.

hf i am relieved that its been like this. i dont think i would of coped well if it had been a long and drawn out process.

tomorrow night my mum is going to babysit so DH and i can have a night out. it will be the first time we have been on our own in 8 months! sad eh. im hoping it will bring us closer together intime for the shag fest later in the month

That's really nice of your mum, have a lovely night out bubble, it's so nice to get out and forget all that crappy ttc lark. You'll be able to have a few drinks, get giggly with your dh and feel human again. I felt that I kind of disconnected with dh over the past few months, we went out to dinner a couple of weeks ago and it was lovely, we didn't talk about anything sensible, we planned holidays (that we can't afford) and had a laugh. It felt great.

HF - that's exactly the vits I bought yesterday - spooky.

bubble - have a lovely meal out with your DH. Its hard sometime to remember you were lovers before you were parents...

'tis now wine o'clock so I'll be off to the couch with my vino - happy weekend everyone x

Hello All, been away for a couple of days, so no internet access. So sorry that it was a mc, Bubble, but agree with Headfairy, having my early mc at 6 weeks was so much easier than my 11+ week ones as I recovered really quickly, it was like a heavy period. If it is physically ok, then it is easier emotionally. Big hugs that you can pick yourself up and try to enjoy the lurve again this month Have a really lovely night out tomorrow together.

Sorry AF arrived, blue. Hello Sif, Headfairy, Girl and everyone else.

Great minds blue Just pretend they're not ttc vits but just boring old vitamin supplements alright

Good to have you back twiglett....

I'm still at work getting v bored waiting for the nod to go home

Ooh, Headfairy, sorry you are still at work on a Friday evening. Hope it goes quickly and you can mn the evening away!

How are you feeling?

Sorry 'bout that, got sent home just after I posted that. I'm feeling good thanks, had quite a bit of time off the last couple of weeks. Spent most of it tidying up, trying to keep a house ready for viewings with a toddler around is a nightmare! I've found the easiest way is to take ds out for the entire day, poor love, on Thursday we were in the park for four hours! He was absolutely shattered when we got home, he loved it, but he was exhausted. He ate the biggest plate of pasta ever too, all that fresh air is good for his appetite

Morning all - sorry I've been away.

Have definitely being "not symptom spotting". However, did get a copy of a book out of hte library, rec'd by a friend. Called "taking control of your fertility" I think. Has anyone read it? Hopefully I'll be back in teh zone next month. DH was away this month I think over OV time so I reckon we missed the boat.

Really, really sorry to hear about your mc bubble. It's a horrible time. I found it much harder emotionally than physically. Have a good night out with your DH. Very unMN ((hugs)) for you.

Also sorry to hear about your "nippy fanjo" blue but it did make me

Are you ok headfairy, you sound as if you've got so much going on just now? I remember getting a really fab post from you when I was feeling very low and angry about ttc. I hope you're doing alright....

Big waves all round to everyone else! Happy weekend to you all.

morning all!

how are you all today?

rip have you started reading that book? is it any good?

HF im really looking forward to tonight it will help relax us both im sure.

hi to everyone else.