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Thought I'd take the plunge and begin new thread to follow on from this one thread

All welcome.
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Hi girls,

AF finally showed this morning after 6 goddamn days of spotting! Arrrghhhhh. Oh well, at least I can start again. Quite relieved actually. My cycles are clearly up the spout so not sure of there is even much point in trying over the next few months. We'll see.

I had a bit of a meltdown on Friday night - loads of tears and feeling really grief stricken. It was horrible. I really can't face going through this every month so I am chilling out a bit. I will still post here (and certainly lurk) when I have anything to say but I think that my posting so regularly in the conception forum is fuelling my neuroses and thats just not good.

Anyone seen C1ndy around today? Was rhinking of her over the weekend, poor love.

Updates with a guestimate of when I am next due based on current screwy cycle.

hopeforbundleofjoy AF due around 28th feb and still waiting...
Lovelymonster Af due 19th March
Pinkyblue123 AF due 23rd April
Yellowflowers AF due 3rd April
Joolsiam AF due 11th April
Flintski - Af due mid-april
Kittycatcat - AF due 23rd/24th April
whatsfortea AF due 26th April(ish)
Wasabi - AF due 30th April
Cindy - will be on here soon to TTC again!

Graduates:-
Heebychick BFP
BeckyMcG BFP
BoosieBoo BFP
Sn0wflake BFP
Pezzina BFP
SmileyCat BFP EDD 09/09/09
Spats BFP
WanabeMum BFP EDD 19th Sept!
iggypiggy BFP
Queenie1 BFP
Broodzilla BFP
Kyte BFP
Funtimewincies BFP
Ray81 - BFP

Wasabi - my first to AF's post MC resulted in a scary hormonal meltdown on the day before AF, carrying on for a couple of days after. I really don't think there is anything you can do other than ride it out

Oh, and the meltdowns do get better - last time, I had one major outburst / floods of tears 24 hrs before AF arrived and was fine after - so the length and severity of the hormone hit seems to lessen with time - HTH

Hi wasabi )and everyone else of course). I had same as you last month - 6 days of spotting before AF started properly - starting watery pink/brown and becoming red. I think something was going on, whether cp or something else.

Wasabi I was the same for the first few AF's after my MC. It took me a good few months for my system to get back to normal again.

I was trying to think of ideas today to stop me from obsessing about TTC as i too can feel my self getting really stressed out about it as times which i am sure does not help things. Any ideas anyone?

Jools - Yes I had been warned that it would be a bad one. My poor dh will be relieved when I tell him that was probably the worst it will get. He got home from work on Friday after a fairly bad day to be hit with that. Poor bloke.

Yellow - I don't know what was going on - it was brown spotting all the way through. In my case I'm pretty sure it wasnt a cp as I got negatives from HPTs 12 days po and today. I may not even have ov'd at all of course - just because I got a positive OPK it proves nowt.

sorry to hear you've been feeling so low wasabi. I have been there and I can sort of imagine how shitty you must be feeling. Know what you mean about laying off regular posting too. Last summer I thought I was going to lose the plot and it really helped not to post too much on Mumsnet. Hope you begin to feel better over the next few days (I find my spirits always lift a bit a few days into my AF)

C1NDY So sad to hear your news. big hugs xxx

whatsfor pinky and wasabi sorry the witch fot you, and i echo those of you who were all over the place with hormones and emotions. I have never known anything like it, had to have a chat with DB yest as he hasn't either and wasn't sure what to say / do!

Ray congrats on the job

Yellow hugs brood that's fab that you got a scan and saw the heart, reassuring to know all is well

And hello to anyone i missed!

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Hi all - had early scan yesterday and not good news

Foetus is only measuring 6 1/2 weeks - but should be 7 1/2 and heart beat is very slow. Doctor very negative about it all... have to go back for second scan on 8th April.

May be joining you all again soon

How worrying Iggypiggy

Fingers crossed that little bean has a growth spurt over the next few days.

The waiting and worrying must be awful Hope you have lots of choc and distractions to get you through

Iggypiggy I have everything crossed for you.

I just feel v. low and can't help but think is all over for me. The doctor said my lack of PG symptoms was a bad sign too. 8th April seems ages away.

Will get some choc - am sure that will help xx

Everything crossed for you iggy.

Had high temp today but also feel periody in my lower back. Also woke lots in the night so that is probably reason for high temp. Fully expect af at any time.

Oh, keeping everything crossed for you iggy.

Have you been successfully pregnant before? I only ask, because lack of pregnancy symptoms is only a bad sign if you already know that the hormones affect you badly. For me, who gets morning sickness from the slightest progesterone rise, it's bad. For my good friend who barely gets any symptoms (and has 2 healthy dds to prove it) it's not.

no - never been PG before funtime and I wasn't panicking too much about the lack of symptoms cos my mum said she never really had any when she was PG

But the doctor said that the MS should have been getting worse - not better - since the first week i found out (so I guess week 3?). Plus am tired - but not as tired as others seem to be (looking at the PG threads) and the breast tenderness is not as bad as it was... so I just think it all sounds bad now i think about it....

thanks for choc xx

Yellow have fingers crossed for you this month.

I really don't want to give you false hope iggy, but in my long and complicated ttc career, if I had a cream egg for every time a doctor/midwife/consultant has said that something 'should' be the case when it's not I'd be a very happy woman indeed!

Try not to hunt for symptoms or changes, you'll drive yourself insane, try to keep calm and count the days to the next scan. I know it's much easier said than done, but I'm just trying to pass on some advice learned the hard way.

Sorry to sound preachy .

all v. much appreciated funtime not preachy. TBH I have no idea about any of this stuff as is first time have ever been PG - and is such a rollercoaster - so is just v. nice to be able to 'talk' to people that have expereince. There isn't really anyone in RL that I can chat to about this - as have only told family and the only one who has ever been PG is my mum and that was in the 70's so her memory is prob not that good! Plus they didn't have early scans back then - so she has no idea about this kid of stuff...

Just struggling to concentrate at work for now xx

iggy - really sorry to hear your scan wasn't better but want to echo funtime. When I had my early scan they said I was 6 weeks and not 7. The only reason I wasn't worried was because I'd done OPK sticks and was pretty sure when I Ov'd - and that tied up with me being 6 weeks. Do you know when you might have ov'd? As to the slow heartbeat, I don't know...I do know, though, that the heartbeat is slower at 6 than 7 weeks. I so hope next week brings good news for you. Try to keep as positive as you can in the meantime though. All my love to you.

xxx

Phew , I though that I might have sounded a real pain there!

I have a similar problem with my mum, especially as her approach is very much the 'well in my day, we didn't have all this technology and we were better for it'. I have to bite my tongue from reminding her that this technology probably saved my life when I had the ectopic .

Might also be worth having a think about what you'll do if the news isn't good, you might need to take some time off work or something like that. I found it helpful to have a 'worst case plan' in my head when I went for the scans and that made it a little easier to deal with as I wasn't trying to make decisions and process what was happening at the same time.

Hello everyone, (sorry for lack of posting - been a bit glum of late about TTC)

just wanted to say iggy that just like funtime, i don't want to gie you false hope but i didn't really have any symptoms in the first trimester with dd - very little nausea and no actual sickness at all - everyone is different so just hang on in there.

queenie1 I don't know when I ov'd really... Fertility Friend has it down for roughly the date I thought it was (which also linked to some ov pain i thought I had a couple of days before. However - in terms of BD action - we did so much in Feb it could have been any date really and a week later would also work for BDing... but who knows... My cycle is can vary by 5 days - so could have been later? Thanks for your thoughts tho. xx

funtime is ok you didn't
I have some time off over Easter anyway luckily - basically i booked the scan in for the evening of the day i finish - so don't have work the next day whatever the outcome. The main prob with my mum has been that she has been convinced that everything will be ok - even when i have kept reminding her that there is risk of miscarriage - she won't have it - so yesterday she was a bit floored... anyway - will stop waffling!

Iggy - my mum was the same - told relatives about me when I was only 8wks even though I'd told her it could all go wrong and I wasn't announcing till 12 weeks. She was so excited and positive - making more plans than me and was equally floored when the worst happened.

Neither she nor my sis had any noticeable PG symptoms - in fact my sis was on the pill and didn't know she was PG till she was 5 months !

I've also heard that the heartbeat starts slow and speeds up.

This PDF is written in quite clinical terms but gives some good information about early scans etc. It clearly states that, in 97% of cases, seeing Cardiac Activity means all will be OK.

jools The doctor specifically told us not to tell anyone at the moment. We aren't going to - but i think he is preparing us for worst case scenario... Thanks for the link - that's interesting... I guess there is hope - but can't feel too cheery about it after the 'merchant of doom' yesterday (as I will now be calling that doctor).

You lot are all helping v. much - so thank you xx

Hi Iggy - oh this is such a shite thing to have to go through. I totally agree with what everyone else has written. As Funtime has said, symptoms vary so much from woman to woman that they really aren't a reliable indicator of the health of a pregnancy.

I just hope that the next week goes quickly for you - I remember from my own nightmare at the beginning of the year that its the waiting that is the worst.