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[romilly]

i am very honoured to start the april first thread (thanks george ) for the TTC for the cautious girls! (and not forgetting the blondes, dramaqueen )...and anyone else who like to join us.

please start with quick stats so we know where you're at, thanks

rom 38 yrs old
ttc no. 1
cycle 3 (after m/c end. dec 04)
CD9
uses temps/persona

Romilly: Missed you there. DS2 is climbing all over me so it is easier to send short messages.
Sorry about temps and impending af...
Also wish I could temp but as I said ds2 doesn't allow us to get that 3 hour stretch of sleep often enough for temps to be reliable. (Like this alone isn't reason to call it quits?!?! We must be mad!)
Thanks Rom and bella for your encouragement. I could certainly use it!
I made a bad tactical error yesterday: I was really hoping that I could use my mum as a bit of a sounding board so I told her about SIL's pregnancy and she just flew off about how stupid people are for wanting so many kids. Am feeling so low today as I just flew accross the country to help her out and she still doesn't have a clue who I am nor have any respect for my feelings. Oh, and yes both she and SIL know about all 3 m/c as I was beyond the 12 week mark with all 3 so there is no confusion about how badly we would like to have another child. Sorry rambling and crying now.
Not helping that dh is off for another 3 month stint... Blah, blah, blah.

bella you insert it before you POAS!!!!!!!

no need to press enter - just line up two pink arrows then pee keeping it facing down afterwards then it flashes while testing i think

Oh my! These OPKs sound very complicated indeed. Do they offer a degree in TTC?

LOL cadmum - we are always crossing posts - just sort out bella then gonna talk to you....

bella - my instructions are at home, but you need to click in the two ends of the stick before it activates - then the stick comes up and then it flashes when you've peed

BELLLLLAAAA????

(oh no, think she may have just wasted a tenner )

if its the same as the pg test then yes bella you insert it and the screen shows the test pic, not flashing then wee on it and it flashes then gives you the reading. I would pee on it again now its in and see if it works. or maybe use another.
let us know what happens

it might work if you wee on it again, so after the flow has filtered through it will still activate and take a readying, possibly.

Ok muppet alert over - I didn't insert it before I POAS !!
Never mind will try again tomorrow!
Cadmum - I never cease to be amazed at how uncaring some people can seem sometimes.....I think it must stem from the fact that they just don't understand and see everything in such black and white terms. My own Mum doesn't know about my m/c or even that we are ttc. Now this isn't because she is a horrible person, she's lovely, its just that she is bound to come out with some blurb that I will find annoying, insensitive etc and I would rather not have to face her chats on the subject to be honest! So I do know where you are coming from.
I think we must just learn to bat these hurtful comments away - stay focused on the end result we are all working towards!

Thanks Bella. You are right about people just seeing things from their own perspective. I wish that I hadn't bothered to have this conversation with my mum as I am usually clever enough to avoid the subject as well. (also didn't tell her about the most recent pregnancy until I was admitted to hospital for induction because I knew that she would be less than thrilled.)

Bella: did you waste the tenner then?!

Its a drop in the ocean on this TTC quest!

WOW - George - WELL DONE!! I am so pleased for you. This has got to be one of the most fortunate threads ever. Hope the good fortune (note Romilly I did not use the 'L' word) continues. Look after yourself and your cargo for the next 8/9 months.

Cadmum - (((HUGS))) We all go through periods of feeling like the world is ending. Sometimes a good cry makes us feel better. My mum is usually a really sensitive person with regards to ttc as she waited 8 years for me, but the other night she was telling me about a friends neice who had just had twins and had been told she would never have any family - well she didn't just tell me once, she told me 5 times and in the end I flew off the handle with her - not my usual style. I felt really rotten afterwards but I could't take hearing about it anymore. Needless to say ended up in floods of tears at bedtime, couldn't sleep and then felt even worse the next day, but thnkfully that has passed although have been having fears that I am going to be the only one left in the world ttc - just one pathetic sole talking to myself on Mn Sorry for rambling on but sometimes it does help to realise that we all have bad days and not to blame ourselves for any of this. Don't know that I am making alot of sense but hope it helps.

Bella - put the stick in before you wee on it. Think it will flash and when it has finished flashing you wee on it an wait. Not sure about this as have also thrown out the instructions and I am using the ordinary clearblue ones at the moment. Only have a couple of the ones left and want to keep them for when I get two lines that are the same just to see that face. Sad or what!! Needless to say still waiting for a +ve OPK. Not usually as late as this but just have to keep up the BDing.

Rom and Frizbe - Sorry. Looks like we are all now on for the January baby orders, although if this month does't work for me it will be a March order

LOL bella

have to say you lot do keep me going on the bad days

cadmum - agree with bella totally, cant talk to my mother about this AT ALL. again, she's wonderful - but i think on some level they want to protect us from all the pain that comes with the territory. i really feel for you about dh being away for that length of time as well, but will you be seeing him at weekends/or here and there?? sorry dont know the situ. you are younger than me as well arent you?

Thanks Wendy.
I am sorry that you know exactly how I am feeling. It is horrible to be longing for a baby and hearing about others' successes from people who care about us and ought to be more sensitive...

On a positive note my dh has been fantastic. He asked me what I thought about SIL's news and instead of being stoic (and basically lying) I just burst into tears and he listened to me ramble endlessly without trying silly things to cheer me along. He is being very kind to me.

Cadmum - Your DH sounds fantastic. Sometimes I think that if I had been married to someone else who was not as loving and understanding about this whole thing where would I be. Thankfully I too can say that DH has been great through all of this - needless to say he ocassionally loses a few brownie points wih some silly comment but on the whole he choses his words carefully.......possibly as a result of seeing me burst into tears too often

Romilly: I am 34. Not too sure if that is younger than you or not...
DH is off to New York on a 90 day UN contract. The money was too great to pass up and because he is doing Post-Doctoral research at a Uni here the timing is also brilliant because he does not have to be in the office 9-5. Sorry, complicated and strange but such is our unconventional lifestyle.

DH was a Canadian infantry officer for 8 years (I met him when we were 18 while he was in my hometown at Military College) and then he got out to pursue his PhD. We already had 2 children and were expecting our third (m/c at 18weeks during the move to UK). We knew then (as we know now) that it would be an expensive proposition and when this contract came along it seemed the answer to our prayers as it will pay off all of our debt in ony 90 days. I just wish that we didn't have to spend that time apart now... Am being wimpy though because I have spent up to 7 months at a stretch without him with two very young little people so I know that this will be no big deal. The TTC (or not to...) is what is making this so hard because ds2 is not getting any younger and neither are we!

Sorry! Way TMI! I actually hit 'Post' before I had a chance to edit.

Wendy: I am glad that your DH is also supportive. I don't know how horrible this would be without that kind of support.

Arh nice to see we are all playing the "Our DHs are fantastic" game.......makes a change from whinging when they misbehave!
Wendy - are you on CD12?

cadmum - dont apologize, its nice to know a little more background than how many sticks we pee on, fgs!! well, first off, i am glad that your d/h is so supportive and this sounds like a great job for him. how many hours from NY are you? can your d/h not come home for weekends?
you are younger than me, by four years - oh, what i would give for those four years, LOL!

wendy - glad your d/h is great too, sorry no OPK yet - which CD are you?

Bella! How right you are about the usual DH bashing. Is is against the rules to give them credit where it is due? Next time I am complaining (likely to be soonish...) you can direct me to these posts, OK?

You are all lovely
I'm staying on this thread for a while, or at least until a clearblue p/g test gives me a BFP.
Bella, as you were kind enough to start driving me mad with OPKS, do you want the jiffy bag of good fortune (including OPKS and p/g kits and enormous quantities of babydust. Guaranteed to give you a BFP within days!!) Obviously this is providing it stays good news over the next week!!

Cadmum, I'm so sorry about you mum & SIL being so insensitive. I was talking to my DP about the comments that I sometimes get from people who don't seem to realise what they say is hurtful. I guess it is hard for someone else to imagine the grief as they don't feel the loss in the same way, just sadness for you.

Frizbe, I'm so sorry. Maybe you should do another test in the morning as it might have a stronger concentration in your first morning wee, esp if no AF.
Yellowbear, milosmum, can I hear the unwrapping of p/g tests yet??? Sorry, some testing buddy I turned out to be!! Just got overly excited this morning

Cadmum - yes will remind you next time DH is driving you mad!
George - yes will be happy to have the jiffy bag next week once you have your digital BFP to hang on the wall......THANKS! You have to put lashings of babydust in the bag though!
Such FAB news george.....are you dancing?
Rom - yes totally agree, nice to have a bit of background from people....(that's a nice way of saying that I luuuurve being nosey!!)

ya know, i'm recently new to MN and i must say thank god i came across it. You are all such a lovely bunch and made me feel completely at ease with helping me make up my mind to start TTC to getting me through my m/c and now waiting for me first AF since and can get back to TTC again.
Thank you all for making me feel so welcome!
I do agree that having a bit of background on each other is great as it brings us all that little bit closer! And as you said Bella i luuuuuuvre being nosey too ! LOL