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[C1NDY]

Hi everyone I have started a new thread... hope you like the new home, this is where it will all happen. (Cindy opens a bottle of champagne) Here's a drink to all and to our month ofthe BFP... .... baby dust all around ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Tinsel

Its hard those last few days of 2ww but those symptoms sound good.

do you know when you oved as that will indicate whether its 28 or 30m day cycle for you.

i am holding on for the loo as need to do another opk tonight as did this afternoons after 3 1/2 hrs and got a -ive it always goes +ive today so am still hopeful.

Its the sheer desperation of wanting that baby that gives me the energy for the bding

You lot are going to be too exhausted to enjoy Christmas at this rate only joking & jealous as this was my wk for a bd fest

Jules if you are DPO 6/7 I'm with you as I'm DPO 6 today I usually have a 12/14 LP & FF says to test 26th I'm not holding out any hopes for this month as didn't get in half as much bding as we wanted to with early OV but still can't help hoping

My ds said to me this morning 'mummy I want to ask you a question & I want you to tell me the truth, are you & daddy trying for a baby' ....what do you say to that I wanted to tell him so bad that we are but I wouldn't be able to stand his little face every month asking me if it worked this month, so I told him that I couldn't love another baby as much as I loved him, his answer to that was 'you could I'd let you' bless him

Only 4 more days till skiing, I'm soooooo excited it will take my mind of obsessing up to test date

temp still low so still not ovulated - been Bding for nearly 2 weeks now and no chance today or tomorrow as dh has christmas parties - best I can hope for now is Sat am. Grrrr.

Awww - very cute DS Smiley Lucky you going away for Christmas - I feel the need to escape too !

My "AF" is gradually getting a little heavier - I do need a pad in now, but it just doesn't look right - watery pink / red blood and no dark bits or teeny clots which is what I'd normally expect to see (sorry if TMI !!)

Had waves of mild nausea, mildly itchy nips and feel vaguely dizzy, all of which I had when PG I'm 80% certain this is just AF but there is something strange about it - then I read about women who have short cycles and can actualy ovulate whilst bleeding - wondered if my cycle is so messed up that something like that has happened ?

A test won't show anything till Xmas Eve I think, so I'll just have to try to forget it for a week and stop boring you all !

Morning all,

I just wanted to share with you the fact that I am handing in my notice at work today and am absolutely fizzing with nerves. I was going to do it in the new year but my boss as forced my arm by being determined to schedule my appraisal before I finish for Xmas and today is my last day.

I am stopping my regular job to go freelance so I can spend more time with ds and generally not be massively rushed and stressed all the time. It has occured that perhaps the fact that I am always rushing around like a lunatic or so tired I can hardly stay awake is probably not helping us with making DC2. This is by no means the main reason I am stopping - I am more concerned about the child I already do have - but it is a factor.

I've been doing some freelance work on the side and I reckon I can earn enough to equal what I do now - only on significantly less hours and without a commute to London.

Still nervous though - feels scary stepping away from relatively secure (if there is such a thing anymore)work.

I can see the dates are all updating below but I can' do mine because I haven't actually come on properly yet. I would be all excited and testing if I hadn't been here several times before. I have no symptoms anyway - might test tomorrow if nothing has happenned.
It has made my wonder if I'm getting my ov dates wrong. I am picking up a surge usually on day 15 but am now on day 30 so would have expected to see AF by now surely? Maybe as I was ill then I got the surge but the egg didn't quite make it out of the gate. Because I wasn't still testing I might have missed a second surge. Dunno.

Arrrguuughhhhhhh. So nervous.

Wincies - I have everything crossed for you . Remember to keep breathing

Sorry about long post - needed to vent.

Will be thinking of you Wasabi - sounds like it will be a real relief once you get the words out - probably good to get over with before Christmas

Yellow - with what you've done already and Sat am I'm sure you should have covered your window. Try not to stress too much (though I know exactly what you mean!!)

So on that point, yellow and Heeby - thanks for your reassurance and encourgement re EWCM and lack of DH around at the moment! I'm working at home today and he's due back this afternoon so will pounce. I spoke to him late last night though and he was VERY festively gone if you know what I mean. So presume his sperm will be too hung over to get to where they need to. I'll take my chances though and give it a go anyway.

But all this means that while I WILL hope this month (like all the others ) I also have a very big feeling that this will NOT be our month (and trying not to be cross with DH about this - another bout of 'reasonableness' from me then !!). Hopefully the new year wil usher in more sobriety and more dedication to the BDing on his part. That's my new year's wish anyway (2nd of course to my wish that the small amount of BDing we are doing this month works).

Wasabi - sounds like you also need to breathe!! Thinking of you. Sounds like handing in your notice is a good though stressful thing.

Smiley - your DS sounds amazing!!

Jools - I have everything crossed. Our bodies are such unpredictable, unknowable mean things at times.

Sorry Smiley I had also meant to comment on those lovely words from your ds.

It's amazing how perceptive and lovely they can be at times. I am impressed if you didn't cry!

Smiley - lovely words from DS - bless him! also enjoy skiing, we had such a great time skiing last year!
Have just enjoyed catching up with everyone's news.
Wasabie - what do you do? what will you be doing Freelance? It sounds good to me as I think in the current climate jobs aren't safe at the moment at all.
Jools - how are you feeling? it seems to have been a rollercoaster but I imagine it's your body getting back into gear again and into cycle which is a positive thing!
So - I am now 9 weeks, will be 10 weeks next Tuesday. I just can't wait till the magic 12 and my scan which is scheduled for Friday 9th Jan. I've only shared the news with a very small group of my good girlfriends as the not drinking would have been too obvious (and totally out of character for me) at our intimate gatherings. Not told any family and don't plan to till after the scan. I still feel like I'm doing doign damage limitation in the event of bad news - nearlty 25% of pregnancies micarry between 8 and 12 weeks - so high isn't it? more or less one in four.
Many people at bigger gatherings haven't even notived I'm not drinking. I always take a glass of wine and carry it round and sip at at and then at some point ditch it somewhere and then pick up another one later and do the same - as long as I've got one in my hand everyone's happy!. Or else I buy myself tonic with ice and lemon and give the impression isn't G&T ;-) The few friends who are in on it are handy here too as when they hand me my drinks they say - G&T for you!
I've not put on any weight - probably all those calories saved from vino and while have felt a bit sickly at times have mostly been fine - just extremely tired. Have been leaving Xmas parties early - the exhaustion plus no alcohol makes my bed seem appealing.

Becky - Sounds like you are doing a great job in keeping things a secret! I'm happy for you that you haven't felt too grim in the 1st trimester - it can be quite a difficult time if you feel really rough but can't tell anyone why!

I work in IT security as a Product Marketing type person - I write things like marketing collaterol, prospecting newsletters, case studies and that sort of thing. In theory it could be a good time to jump ship because marketing is one of those areas where its a lot cheaper to pay someone to write one off pieces than paysome a salary. I use used to be in sales before DS so have a lot of contacts so plan to focus as a security specialist - it can be quite technical so a lot of copywriters wouldn't really know what they are writing about which kind of shows in the finished result.

I have just written my resignation letter! It says very nice things about my company - if I keep them sweet I might be able to pick up freelance work for them.

Good to hear from you Becky At least you have Christmas to keep you occupied till your scan

If when I get another BFP, I think I will actually tell more people. Not sure why really - it just feels right I still won't tell the MIL too early though - she'd be phoning every day to check on me and I'd end up delivering in prison, on trial for manslaughter !!

Have given myself a good talking to this morning and updated Fertility Friend to reflect today as CD3 - am hoping it will help me relax and stop pointless symptom spotting

FF reckons I will ov on New Years Eve, so I'll be getting busy right after Christmas - perfect timing as DP and I both have time off between then and New Year - lazy mornings in bed coming up

Hey ladies,

Smiley your DS sounds like a little darling, although wondering if maybe he has heard you? hehe, that would be awkward to explain!

Jools i'm quietly optimistic for you but trying not to make you excited if that makes sense? Fingers crossed!

wincies looks like it's positive for you too, oooh keep us posted and whatever you do, don't forget to keep breathing!

Heeby lovely to hear from you, hopefully your DH will wait on you over Christmas so you can rest for a little while. You're probably going to be busy with your other little one anyway so a rest will be well deserved!

Becky glad to hear you're almost at your marker (not long left!). Very well thought out plan of escaping the awkward questions of "why aren't you drinking?". May put that into practice when I go on my alcohol free drive after Christmas.

Smiley your ds is gorgeous dont you just want to hug them.

Becky that is the best advice on pretending to drink. I really hope we can all give it a try soon.

I agree with not telling the MILs mine is such a pain since she heard i on clomid cant imagine what she would be like if actually pg

wasabi hope it goes well it sounds like you really thought it through and know what you want.

We are nearly through the bd marathon for this month and i am exhausted but really felt had to give last month of clomid a good try.

C1NDY I was planning to do the Deanna plan, but man-flu caught me... had a rest on Tuesday night, but did the OPK again yesterday, and as it was positive we did BD although I'm feeling pretty rough. I was feeling all smug and happy until I read somewhere that if you BD after you pick up the surge you might have already missed it... then again, the kit says that when you pick up the surge you should ovulate within 24-36 hours, so here's to hoping... (If anyone has managed to get a BFP with only BDing after the surge, please tell me!)

Anyway, will stick with the plan and BD tonight and tomorrow too, just in case. As it happens, I'm ploughing through cough medicine which apparently is good for EWCM so you never know.

Smiley Your DS sounds like a little angel! Reading that actually made me tear up a little (I'm v. soppy, hormonal or not!)

Wasabi Good luck with handing in the letter. It's nerv-wrecking, even when you know it's the right thing to do. My SIL actually did pretty much what you're hoping to do (although she works in a different area all together) but basically, her old company kept her busy with freelance work for the first couple of years! She was getting to do all the fun bits, with none of the politics, and as far as I understand, far more money than she'd have made if she'd been employed rather than freelance! Best of both worlds!

Good luck handing in that letter Wasabi

I'm sat here with wierd things going on in my boobs - an uncomfortable, almost itchy feeling but if I itch, the feeling doesn't go away - not easy to scratch boobs in an open plan office full of men !!!!

Jools that must be rather awkward!

I have some sympathy because every now and again my c section scar will itch like hell - I think its still healing, must take years to repair properly. Anyway, giving that area a good old scratch in public is most definitely not on!! I have to go to the loo because its an itch that simply cannot be ignored!!

Hello all - just dropping in for a quick catch up

nice to hear from both heeby and becky

Good luck with handing in your notice wasabi

Today I am a bit [sad} cos we managed to BD on CD10 and CD11 - but not yesterday on CD13 and I know we won't be able to today cos am meeting DH in London for work party.. and alcohol/ late night will conspire against us again... so keep feeling we will have missed our opp for this month - even if we manage to BD tomorrow morning

Anyway - will have to make sure we make up for it next month

Good luck wasabi, I recently became a SAHM so that I can enjoy ds' early years, especially as he might be the only one at this rate . It's really weird at first, losing the security of a regular wage but often worth it with you can manage.

Smiley - enjoy the skiing and .

Symptoms have disappeared today - all in the mind ?

BD fest over here- eventually did CD's 11/12/14/15/16/17/18/19. I'm flippin knackered and glad to be having a rest!

Good luck to everyone getting symtoms- am very excited about a few BFP's that are sure to be coming up!

Oh and would just like to add that of all that BDing- we did it twice on CD 17 and quick note to self in case I forget-positive OPK was on CD 16.

Fingers crossed but don't have a good feeling- dunno why, you'd think I'd feel really positive after all that! But just have a grim feeling that it will be a sad Christmas...

Heeby - Sparky was asking over you on GFJ Drinkers Anonymous The thread isn't quite dead yet !!!!

Had first hangover in a long time today - on just half a bottle of wine. Think it's because I've been drinking hardly anything because of ttc so when I did it hit me as if I'd never had a drink before. And with a bad cold. Tsk - I am naughty.

Then today guess what - a loads of ewcm - had it 4 days ago too but no temp rise (though not been doing properly because of cold) so this may be body having delayed ov because ill. DH is in bed as was kanckered but has promised me we can do it in the morning. Finger's crossed.
x

Morning ladies are we feeling festive today this time next wk It'll all be over for another year rrrrrrr, but hopfully next year we will all be sharing it with a new little buddle of joy

Yellow Its great to have a blow out every now & again it reminds us that we are still normal & not just a baby making machine, don't feel guilty about it remember its your body too

Iggy You never know, I'm in the same boat as you but it does only take one & I have to remind myself that in the right conditions they can live upto 5 days, so its not over yet

mummy2olivia impressive, you deserve a nice long rest now

tinsle lack of symptoms can be a good thing my boobs have been so sore the last couple of months & this month they are a little tender but nothing like the last two, I'm hoping thats a good sign but also not having to hold them up this month is a great relief

This is my last day at work before going on a week long christmas grand family tour.

Managed to BD last night and plan to do it again tonight. That'll make a total of CD 9, 12, 15, 16, 19 and hopefully 20. Not brilliant but not a complete disaster. I guess, then, the 2WW begins for me (which is actually about 10 days I think for me). How will I cope without you all!!!?

So just wanted to say, if I don't have a chance later, happy christmas to all and good luck for everyone BDing over the festive period or working up to the end of the 2WW.

Hope to log on on the 27th / 28th and see lots of BFPs!!!

xxxx

aw thanks smiley. We managed it this morning - tempo has dipped so maybe pre ovulation. Who knows. Means I am not really in for xmas eve testing but don't know what date to put so will not update list yet.

Am feeling very festive today! .Have a great build up to xmas everyone.
xx