TTC any which way DP CM BT OPK Grapefruit drinking ....

[C1NDY]

Hi everyone I have started a new thread... hope you like the new home, this is where it will all happen. (Cindy opens a bottle of champagne) Here's a drink to all and to our month ofthe BFP... .... baby dust all around ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

I'm really struggling with these OPKs. I thought they were supposed to take the uncertainty out of things!!?

Back to very light lines (after darker but not that dark line on CD 10) so still BDing away and will continue to try to do it every 2 days until CD 22. I'd be very surprised if I had Ov'd already. Boobs were a bit tender yesterday and I had a few twinges in my womb area but I think that can happen before Ov as well as during and after - am I right? But more to the point: WILL I NEVER UNDERSTAND MY OWN BODY?!? It's so maddening.

Currently CD 13. We did it this morning but it felt oh-so-functional. I've read that orgasmic sex is supposed to be better for conceiving as you are wetter down there (tmi, sorry!). But it's very hard to do that every couple of days isn't it.

Jools - sounding promising and I look forward to hearing more of your obsessions as of tomorrow then!

Wasabi it must be horrible for you knowing that you know your dates are correct but they are telling you something different, but there are a few reasons why you may not be as far on as you think you are...long tubes could be one & the egg took forever to implant.

I have my scan booked for tomorrow at 9.30 (8.30) your time so fingers crossed for me that I don't get told the same as I am also very sure of my dates & I will be 6wk 5days. A heart beat would just make it all seem real at this point & hopfully stop me worring that there is nothing there & it's all in my head.
They may still tell me to go away & book in with a midwife as I'm only supose to be having my ovary looked at not my womb, but I know the gyni & feel that she will be ok with the news & let me take a look

queenie - the contractions of orgasm are supposed to push more sperm into the right place - well so I've read anyway ... have been told that it is well worth trying to get there, by any means available

We had read different things & some websites said that orgasms were good & others said that they kill the sperm so we decided that during the really fertile time I would hold back just incase. but.......because I OV'd early in Dec I did have an orgasm on the Thursday thinking that I was not yet in my fertile window & was planning on not having another one till after OV. I OV'd the next day & I think the Thursday shag was the one that got to the egg orgasm and all so I would say yes go ahead & have one

I've read orgasms help but they can't be essential because I bet all the sexually inexperience people who get pregnant - teenagers etc, don't always have them. I mean think how many articles you've read of women who don't orgasm until they are in their fifties - and they have kids.

Well I was going to Google the subject, but am at work and don't think it would look to good if internet monitoring discovered I was googling orgasms

Hey everyone,

Thanks for all your lovely messages and good wishes. It means a lot to me. I had some blood taken this morning and my midwife has promised to chase up for me tomorrow (she is lovely) and has said she'll call me so at least I will know for sure. If my HCG level is low then its game over.

In my heart I don't have a good feeling - I haven't for a while actually. It's very heartening to read stories similar to mine that have had positive outcomes but I also don't want to kid myself. In a way I'm glad we found out now rather than at 12 weeks.

TTc eh? Who'd be mad enough to do it?

Hope you are all having better days and not been caught googlng orgasms at work

I read up on the orgasm thingy a while ago, and someone said that they were not a good thing as it causes a bad environment for the sperm. Not sure how they know this, but if you want one then go ahead. I would love to have one everytime but we are so tired with just ttc that actual lovemaking has been thrown out of the window - so to speak. I am using preseed and sipping grapefruit to ensure that I create the 'perfect' enviroment for the little swimmers.

Queenie What cycle are you? I am on a 28 cycle normally and start testing on day 10, then I test at 2pm everyday until it goes pink - the control box will go darker than the test box.... which one's are you using again... I have used them all so perhaps can help. You should never test in the morning ... not sure why not but that is what they say, as the L...thingy does not show up in the morning. Take the sticks with you to work and after lunch do your test. I have cheap one's that I have brought on Amazon so I can do load more tests if I want to.. I test again in the evening and sometimes at 11 am in the morning whilst at work. Once you have the two lines, similiar in colour, that is the time you are most fertile.

Goush, I hope the above helps and has not confused you further

Queenie I am doing the DP, and she recommends bding from day 8 everyother day until you get a positive and then to bd a further three days (including the day that you get the positive) for the best chance of concieving.

VillageMum where are you??? (Cindy knocks on the VDU)

Wasabi - fingers crossed for good news for tomorrow. I can understand you wanting to prepare for the worst rather than hope for the best but I hope you are wrong. xx

I have a question for anyone around this afternoon - I'm starting to think on and off that things smell stronger - started mid morning when my wee smelt strong and sweet (I know I'm not dehydrated - googled last time and it is associated with hormone levels), then I walked back into the office after a walk for lunch - large open plan office with 50 desks - and could smell cucumber really strongly It presumably belonged to someone eating lunch at their desk - would YOU expect to be able to smell it ??

Yes, I know I am becoming a lunatic obsessive

LOL about you all googling 'orgasm and trying to conceive' whilst at work . I'd not heard before that having an orgasm could be harmful!! I find that quite hard to believe...no doubt I'll have a look myself in a bit and report back if I find any useful info.

Cindy - I'm using internet cheapies called "One Step Ovulation Test". I tried to do the OPK a few months back using clear blue ones but by day 14 I'd used all seven of the tests, had no peak and couldn't justify another £20!! So now I've got 30 strips which I got for about a fiver. Have you used these? Any good? I'm also on CD13 of a cycle that usually lasts about 28-29 days (but it can vary sometimes being a bit shorter, sometimes longer - last month it was 33 days).

Smiley - good luck for the scan tomorrow

wasabi - thinking of you. xxx

jools - you're as insane as I am. But I don't think I'd be able to smell cucumber in an open plan office in my current non-PG state so potentially sounds promising!?!

Quick update...in the spirit of 'mumsnutterness' - feel free to ignore!!

just done my day 13 opk. I've lined it up alongside my other opks (all marked with CD number!) and don't worry, yes I AM working at home today.

Apart from CD 10 which is darker than the others, they are all fairly similar but todays looks like it is a bit darker again (almost same colour as control line). Is this because I've just done it and its still wet whilst the others are now dry? Or does it mean I am surging or likely to surge tomorrow or soon? In relation to this, does the result gradually get darker or do you see a very obvious difference and one-off surge (this one-off and obvious surge is what I was expecting)?

Fingers crossed for you wasabi xx

c1ndy well done on the running - I can't bear it so am always impressed when people do

smiley good luck for the scan

queenie am finding the idea of lots of opks all lined up and labelled quite funny but sounds to me like you might be surging? I thought it had to be darker than the control line - so sounds likely?

I am CD8 today - so let the shagathon commence

enjoy shaggyathon iggy - I have thrown up every day for last week - but because I have bad cough I think and that makes me throw up - am only day 13 of cycle unless I ovulated early (which as my temp after a raise is now back down i think unlikely) now is premium bding time.

aw yellow poor you

Can't imagine you feel much like BDing xx

hehe - I like the concept of "Mumsnutterness"

Hope you feel better soon Yellow

Aww Yellow i hope the cold doesn't stop the BD-fest!

Jools you're my voice of reason which is exactly what i need to be honest so keep it up! Your symptoms sound positive though!

Well I'm not sure what's going on with me. Had major headache that just wouldn't shift on Saturday which was 3DPO. Then constant need for a wee started 4DPO and has continued since. Today (6DPO) i feel very "hot" down there like thrush, in fact im convinced that's what it is and have started using the cream (nice). I've also started to convince myself that the need for the loo is in fact a UTI so i dropped a sample off today at my GP's. Lovely! I've had leg and bacl ache for the past few days too but could be due to exercise.
Otherwise nothing! No sore boobs, no metallic taste, nothing else at all. Feeling quite hopeless already. Why is the 2ww so horrible????

thanks everyone. I haven't properly shaken it off since last month. I have a slither of hope that I ovulated early and this is morning sickness but really the dates don't work out plus I don't feel nauseuous - I just cough, then throw up, then feel normal again.

Wanabe - you have SYMPTOMS Before I got that last BFP, I got a mild dose of thrush - quite common because of the hormone changes going on apparently.

I also feel very warm and (ahem ) wet down there - no discharge to speak of but damp knickers.

the headache could also be a hormone thing (I have had that too - last time and for the last two days.

Aching legs - can't find the reference but they can be symptom - something to do with the hormones telling the uterus to start expanding and pressing on a nerve / artery I think.

I have no sore boobs and no metallic taste (although I never got that last time), but am starting to think the symptoms are stacking up

So sorry wasabi - keep us posted xx

Queenie I have the same tests but also had some Boots one?s still lying around. I tested with the internet one?s until I got a positive and then double checked a couple of hours later with a Boots stick and they were both positive. Now to give you TMI, I found that it was better to collect urine in a container and then to dip the stick in? as with weeing on the sticks ? in the long run it ensured that the test would always work and that I had enough urine that I needed to have a proper controlled test.

Have been cracking the whip with the DH and we were meant to bd this morning but the poor little thing was too tired. Goush, that totally pissed me off - sorry for my french... but we get such a small window every month and when it matters the other half folds on me - what is with that??? Well I am CD15 - should have ovulated between CD13-CD15... this is our last day to seal the deal. Can I ask you all, sorry for too much information but I only am able to bd in the evening and we only do it the once, are you all having bd sessions in the morning and the evening? or am i okay to have one a day?? sorry for the TMI but I am getting so flipping frastrated... I may have to find a stud!!

Smiley - best of luck with your scan today. I hope with all my heart yours is more positive than mine! I know I wouldn't wish the last 48 hours DH and I have had on anyone, let alone a virtual friend!

Jools - the sense of smell thing is really wierd. I know that my sense of smell becomes enhanced after I have ov'd - I think its something to do with progesterone levels. That's why for me it isn't a reliable indicator but it might well be for you! I so hope that you will be lucky this time - you've been through so much. If there is such a thing a baby karma some good stuff is definately due your way. Thanks for those virtual Thorntons by the way - I have eaten a LOT of chocolate since Monday. I hope I'm wrong too.

Yellow hope you feel better soon. I know it is gutting when illness hits at prime shagging time.

Queenie - when I was doing OPK's I would get a very obvious obvious surge day and then it would drop back to being a really faint line again. I did chuckle at you labelling them all! Are you in a scientific sort of profession? I think if this timr doesn't work out for me, when DH and I start again I will get some cheapies and OPK even after I get a surge because I was starting to develop a theory that I ov'd later than I thought - and that the cramps I tended to get about 10 days before AF arrived were ov pains rather than anything else. Just because you pick up a surge it doesn't mean you ov for sure just after that time.

Well I am waiting and waiting for my phone to ring with news of my blood results. It's pretty agonising actually so will prob try to distract myself somehow with work. I keep veering between telling myself to prepare for the worst but at the same time have a little fantasy that I can tell my dh that there is hope after all. God its so difficult. I had a little chat with the bean yesterday - told it to choose life. I hope to god it was listening.