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[C1NDY]

Hi everyone I have started a new thread... hope you like the new home, this is where it will all happen. (Cindy opens a bottle of champagne) Here's a drink to all and to our month ofthe BFP... .... baby dust all around ~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~~

Hey Jools - I don't think you stop at 40, why? My mum had me at 45 and my sister also had a baby at 45. I had a great childhood - my mum was really young at heart - that is the main thing. I really think it's all down to how old you feel. I also think with age my mum had wisdom and was much more relaxed - she didn't stress about stupid little things and knew what was important!
This morning I did not want to get up in the snow for work - arghhhh. I slept terribly last night - think I was subconsiously worried about oversleeping so am shattered now.
I am 12 weeks today! and have my 12 week scan on Friday. Since I had a private scan 10 days ago at just under 11 weeks I have told quite a few family and friends the good news so am praying for a positive scan on Friday. Apart from my big boobs (ok TMI) I have no other outward signs. In fact I've lost weight which I think is down to no vino. Anyhow have started a health kick today - new years resolutions and all that and am going to eat healthily and from next week start going to the gym - I want to be a yummy mummy (ok, bear in mind I have never had a baby so can still dream of the ideal!!!). The midwife told me exercising 3 times a week will contribute towards a strong baby as the blood circulates faster and oxygenates more - which makes sense

Hi everyone... it is very quite in here (Cindy looks in to her screen) Where is everyone.

Well I have an awful cold, been coughing as mad so will not feel guilty when I start using the cough medicine as recommended by the DP - as this is now my third cycle. DP recommends Robitussin cough syrup (or any cough medicine that says "expectorant" and NOT "antihistamine") there are two on the market, does anyone know which one I should buy??

Becky Are you allowed to run when you are pg. I am a little overweight and am running 3 miles every other day. My biggest concern is that if I did get pg I will be huge what type of exercise do they recommend? I remember when I was pg the last week I did loads of walking to speed up the baby coming, which my dd arrived two days later. As I have had a MC I worry that if I exercise too much I may MC again - do you know what exercise is safe to do? if ever I get pg it would be nice to know

Becky - thankyou I think I need you to come and nudge me every time I get miserable - you are the voice of reason !

C1ndy - I do a lot of aerobics and weights classes - spinning, body combat, body attack, body pump etc as well as Pilates and, when PG, I cut out the highest impact ones and took it quite easy in Spinning, sitting on the bike under the aircon unit ! My GP told me I shouldn't need to slow down at all and if I was going to MC, it would happen whether I exercised or not.

I believe it is the same with running - if you've been running prior to getting PG and your body is used to it, then keep going but do what feels comfortable - exercise to maintain fitness levels rather than get even fitter, so keep the intensity a bit lower.

I suppose it is natural to keep wondering what would have happened if I'd stopped exercising, but I think the reality is I'd have ballooned in weight, got quite depressed (exercise is a great antidepressant for me) and MC'ed anyway. Next time, I may take it even easier and swap spinning and body combat for swimming, but will see when the time comes. I've seen heavily PG ladies in my Body Pump (weights) and Spinning classes, so I know is it possible and the trainers would have refused entry if it was considered dangerous.

Well done on the running - keep it up

AF finally arrived today

4 days late - no idea why...

So roll on mid jan to start trying all over again... and at least this month I'll be eating healthily etc.

Sorry to hear that iggy - how are you feeling? It's so frustrating when you're late isn't it. I was three days late this last cycle and thought I was PG. Mother nature can be so cruel...

Jools - very impressed with all your exercise!! Hope that helps you to stay positive about the TTC. That you have conceived shows there's not a problem in that department so it WILL happen for you. I know what you mean about unco-operative partners though. Can be so frustrating. I think much of it is down to them feeling like sperm factories rather than desired-after-lovers. In my experience, post MC, it was also my DH's way of trying to protect me.

I'm actually feeling very optimistic and excited about this month (which will no doubt end up with a big crash back down when AF arrives!). I've got ov sticks which I've not used before as I'm determined to get my head round when exactly I do ovulate. I've also ordered a thermometer (too late, I'm sure for this cycle) and some pre-seed. The other night in bed my DH woke me up hugging me saying that he feels sure its our turn soon...lets hope.

On CD 6 today...

Thanks queenie1 - I feel more sad than usual because I had convinced myself that I was PG this time - other times I haven't been so optimistic. Agree that is cruel to be late when you trying so hard - you know what else is a real pain - the fact that sore breats are a symptom of both AF and PG - having them doesn't giove you an answer either way

anyway - am actually going to be positive - and am going to try the OPK sticks properly this month.

Glad you feeling positive - that's got to be the best way - hasn't it? Am trying to feel same.

Jools - am also continuing with all my exercise (Boxfit twice a week, horse riding twice a week and swimming)- so glad to see you thoughts on it - makes me feel like is better to carry on.

And group hug for anyone who needs one - cos thats how I feel today xx

awww Queenie your DP sounds lovely

Mine actually asked me what was the matter this morning as I've been really down and not really been talking - I nearly said "nothing" but in the end told him about possibly wasting an egg and how I felt about it - he was actually lovely this time - gave me a big hug and told me there is still time. I think he has been trying to protect me from another MC and wanting me to recover first. I keep trying to explain to him that I need to be TTC again in order to recover - hopefully he gets it now.

Really sorry your hopes were dashed this cycle iggypiggy - I've been there myself and it is the pits - I've felt both cheated and embarrassed. Wallow for a day and it will pass - we have to pick ourselves up and move on to the next cycle and somehow manage to do sol

jools - i know just what you mean about ttc to recover and the frustration of potentially missing 'the' month. But if it means that triggered a proper chat with DH it can't be all bad. Me and DH have had quite a bumpy road since ttc as the three MCs I have had have, to be honest, turned me into a bit of a nutter. But in the past couple of months, particularly the last month, things have felt better for me and better between me and DH and I think it's because we're talking so much more openly about how we feel about things.

DH, for example, over christmas said how good it felt to have me 'back'. It's very easy for ttc (and the pain of miscarriage) to make you forget what else is important.

iggy - hugs back to you. lets obsess about opks together this month and try not to succumb to the january blues.

yellow - want to do lots of obsessing with you too. I see we are near cycle buddies this month. How are you feeling today?

xxx

queenie definately - I have just bought a basal thermometer online too... and have started googling acupuncturists near me... although this is me just throwing stuff at the problem I think.. after all - this is only cycle #4 for me - I should maybe chill a bit.

Have updated list now xx

Mummy2olivia AF due December 23rd DP
Elliegant AF due 24th Dec DP
Sans04 AF due 26th December DP
Suigeneris AF due 1 Jan DP (intention to)
Ilovebeingamummy AF due 1st Jan
Funtimewincies - 8th Jan - hospital appointment to find out what the hell is going on!
Wanabemum AF due 8th-10th Jan DP
Funtimewincies AF due 18/19th Jan
Lovelymonster Af due 26th January
Queenie - AF due 28th / 29th Jan
Cindy AF due 29th January DP
Pinkie08 due 30th Jan clomid and DP
Yellowflowers AF due from 30th Jan DP
iggypiggy - AF due 2nd Feb

Heebychick BFP
BeckyMcG BFP
BoosieBoo BFP
Sn0wflake BFP
Villagemum BFP
Wasabipeanut BFP
Pezzina BFP
SmileyCat BFP

Sorry the witch got you iggy but you do sound very positive about this month, my DH kept saying it would be Dec for us even back in Sept & when I OV'd early I really though we'd missed it, but I guess being very positive last month made all the difference

Well I scared myself yesterday, I was surfing the net as you do looking for anything to do with pregnancy & the stage I'm at & I looked up early scans as I maybe having one on Friday if I can sweet talk the gyni into letting me have a sneaky peak.
Some of the scan pictures at 6wks were really clear in that you could see a sac & a very small thing inside, on another website girls were talking about having scans at 5/6wks & the sonographer telling them that he couldn't see anything in the sac & to come back in a couple of wks, but others were told that as there was no heartbeat or stork that there was no baby & they should get ready for a m/c in the next couple of wks
I've only got sore boobs as a symptom so I started to panic thinking the worst & that I probably just have a sac & no baby thats why I'm not sick...........stupid moment of girly sillyness, anyway I took another test this morning & the cross came up very strong & instantly even before the test line so I am happy my hg levels are high. I'll be glad to get to 20wks, it wasn't like this 10 years ago, I just got on with it internet can be devil as well as an angel

Congratulations to the newly successful mums-to-be!!!! been off here for such a long time! Christmas and new year has been hectic.

I'm having a bit of a weird month so stressing a little. Have been using my fertility monitor this month again and it has show "high" levels for the past 10 days! what's that all about??!! It's supposed to show high for 3-4 days then peak for 2 days then high for 1 day and then back to low. So far no peak and no low's at all!!
DH keeps saying "could you have caught which is why it's still high?" and to be fair I've thought about it as i did miss 3 days in total but not all together so could have peaked then. Grrr why are our bodies so frustrating??!!!

Sorry for the rant ladies but have to vent somewhere!

Sorry to hear you're a bit low Jools, try and stay positive, you know you can conceive so thats one positive right?

Oh yeah and I'm CD25 today.

Waves to wanabe (shyly offers some choccie she's saved for your return ).

I've come for a peek at the news as a break from trying to file my tax return - why have I left it so late ?

The bd-fest is going well. When I say 'fest', I mean every other day since day 10, which in our world is debauchery of the highest order . Ds seems determined to be the only one as he has a knack of waking up at exactly the wrong moment and it's not as if we're swinging from the light-fittings!

Sorry that you some of you are feeling so down at the moment . Oddly I'm the opposite, quite determined and upbeat, maybe something to do with the hospital appointment this week and ordering my vegetable seeds online at the weekend (delaying my tax again) - lol .

Hello!

I had acupuncture again today which at least makes me feel like I am doing something. Also even though me and dh both ill I have persuaded him we should bd later so we can try to have all bases covered in case of early ovulation etc. Which at least seems proactive.

Sorry about af iggy - I'm due same time as you (ish) so we can obsess together. Same for queenie.

Also waves to wannabe - good luck this month.

Hi Wincies - not done my tax return either - def going to do it next week.

yellowflowers - have you registered yet? I nearly got caught out. Once you've registered online they have to post you an activation code of some description which could take up to 7 days to arrive. REGISTER NOW IF NOT !

Good to hear that the acupunture went well.

thanks wincies - I registered last year so as far as I can make out I use the same code this year - will go online and check now though, x

yellow am so in the realms of obessing already we can def do that together, along with queenie and anyone else really

this acupuncture malarkey - does it hurt - I hate needles

can't speak for anyone else but I have barely felt the needles. Slight prick when they went in and one time it was a teeny bit sore on one foot when needle was in but that is it, and laying down you can't really see the needles i, especially if you keep your eyes closed.

Hello ladies,

sorry to have been quiet, have been extra busy at work (yawn) and have been doing lots of organising at home - bit of a control freak when it comes to getting things in order!

Good to catch up on all your news, it's great to feel the positive vibes, i will send you lots of baby dust from chilly hampshire!

becky lots of luck for friday, i think the exercise is a great thing and it certainly helped to feel better during my first pg, i haven't done much during this one yet but will start light running and swimming up next week. I think the rule is to just not do too much, do a little and often to keep the blood flowing like you say.

Well i am 13 weeks today! i had a scan on monday and all is well thank goodness, i really hate that bit (be warned all you first time mums waiting for 12 weeks scans!!)when they first lay you down and say 'i just have to have to screen turned to me to check all is well ...' then silence for what seems like an eternity!!!! then finally the screen turns round .. 'and here we are a perfectly formed baby ...!' Phew!

Have told almost everyone now, plus i am showing already (that'll teach me not to tone my tummy after the first pg!) so it's been hard to hide. I feel tons better and my energy is coming back - hooray!

Can i ask you ladies what your thoughts are on c-sec or natuarl birth after an emergency c-sec last time?

Hi heeby - great about scan.

A question about grapefruit drinking - when do you start drinking it and how much each day?

Hi all you lovely ladies,

I am finally checking in after weeks spent in the non web wilderness. First things first. Hoooooge congratulations to Pezzina and Smiley I am so happy to see the BFP list getting longer.
I'm also sad for all those whose AF's checked in over the festive season but am hopeful that 2009 will get off to a good start with more BFP's.

I've been rather worried because, like Smiley I have been noticably short on symptoms. I am more tired, hungrier and need to pee more than usual but I am sure that by this time when I was pg with DS I was sicker than I am now. Apart from the odd surge of nausea I haven't felt any of the perma nausea or vile dry retching I had before. I was kind of steeling myself as I heard it tended to be worse on 2nd pg's so am freaking myself out over its absence. Logic tells me that all pg's are different and that my hormonal make up is different since having ds but I can't stop fretting so have an early scan booked on Monday. It is also possible that I'm remembering it wrong and that it didn't kick in until later on. I didn't have masses of symptoms 1st time anyway - never had the sore boobs or anything like that. This is typical isn't it? As soon as you get a BFP the stressing over that gets replaced with a whole new set of neuroses!

Heeby, I'm so glad to hear you scan was all good. I am 7 weeks today and the 6 weeks ahead of me seems like a very long time!! As for your question on em cs, VBACS and that sort of thing, I had sort of avoided thinking about it yet. I had an em cs with ds following a failed induction and the whole process was pretty traumatic. My waters leaked and labour didn't start so I had to be induced even though I desperately didn't want to be. I was convinced ds wasn't ready and therefore it wouldn't work and 18 hours later got proved right. I've started dreaming about it again and wake up so upset that its just silly really. I'm certainly not looking forward to reliving it later down the line if all goes well. My heart tells me that I'd like to try for a VBAC if poss but not on an NHS timer - "8 hours and off to surgery for you" type scenario. If I'm going to do it then I'd like to feel that those looking after me were committed to it. If not, then I'd rather have an elective cs. I can't go through another failed labour, I just can't. Anyway, its all a long way off yet and I'm trying not to get even too excited until we've had the scan.

Anyway, loads of love and baby dust to all. I have a feeling in my water that its going to be a good year!

Good to hear from you Heeby and Wasabi Those first few weeks of pregnancy are just the pits for worry aren't they The very thought of going through that with the fear of another MC is terrifying me !!

Better news from me - DP and I have been talking a bit - he never opens up much - and to my surprise, he instigated BD last night - maybe trying so hard not to put him under any TTC pressure has worked Still not sure if I ov'ed on Monday or not - got the pains and the EWCM but my boobs are resolutely not swollen as they should be post OV, so who knows ! I'm secretly hoping that maybe I haven't OV'ed yet, or ov'ed late enough on Monday for the egg to still have been viable last night. Sooo, like before Christmas, I might be on a 2WW and I might not. When I had my CP, we weren't even trying and only BD'ed twice. The second BFP was after BD'ing only 3 times in the month - but the third of those was whilst I was feeling OV pains, so you never know - it only takes one little spermlet !!

I feel better actually having some hope and some reason to knicker check and symptom spot, plus the encouragement that DP is going to co-operate

Great news on scan Heeby. You must be so excited!

Wasabi - I know just how you feel. Hopefully the early scan will be reassuring for you.

Jools - so glad to hear you're feeling a bit better today. It's so important to keep talking with your partner about all this. Huge fingers crossed that you ov'd and caught it this month - but keep going just in case you Ov later!!

I'm now on CD 7 so the marathon BDing will shortly be commencing. I'm hoping to go a bit Deanna this month but we'll see how much DH is up for. I'm also having a month completely off alcohol which will hopefully help.

Hi Queenie - I am day 7 too (though my shortest cycle length is 30 days).

hey everyone,

thanks for the waves! ((waves back)) and the choccies are much appreciated thanks funtime (can't get out of the habit of calling you that!)

Well I finally Ov'd today according to my monitor (CD26!!), feeling wuite positive as managed to jump DH last night and he's well up for another go tonight so who knows, a 2WW i will start tomorrow! exciting!!