The Grapefruit drinking knicker checking ttc brigade

[yellowflowers]

Hello,

As Nelix has a bfp (yay!) and she started the last one I thought I'd start this one as a continuation of this thread

Here's hoping we all get BFPs this month but if not then let's continue the thread until we all graduate

Heeby great to hear you got the advice you needed at the doctors!!

I ovulated late last month... I think I am dpo7 not sure though.

Have no more stomach cramps so am now thinking that I am not pg! guess I will just have to wait until next week to know for sure sigh

Oh Cindy, you WILL get pg - even with all the tools and the DP it's not guaranteed straight away, but every month we carry on spotting ov and BDing at the right time the odds are more and more in our favour - you will get there, I know it! Just hang in there hun... And you may be pg this month after all; there's just no way of knowing at this stage that you're not... Sending you a ((big hug)).

Hi all and big hello to Bigbaubleyes. I see your AF is due Dec 2nd which is same as me. We can go mad together in the days running up to it!!

Sorry to hear AF got you Pezzina.

Villagemum, I didn't go up on Friday. DH wouldn't have got back to where he was staying til late and I was beginning to feel very down about the whole ttc business. Instead, I saw a friend and poured my heart out / cried my eyes out. It felt good to get it out of my system and I felt a sense of calm afterwards.

I'm still a bit down though and convinced I'm not PG this month - so C1ndy, very much like you! It is shit isn't it. Me and DH had quite a lot of sex between CD 9 and 17 and pretty sure I ov'd somewhere around CD 15 - 19 but my cervix is now very low and hard, and I don't feel PG at all (currently CD 22) no matter how hard I try to look for symptoms. I hate the way ttc takes over so much...

Hope some of you others are having a better Monday.

x

Queenie, maybe you just needed to vent on Friday, as you say, and to take a break from the intensity of ttc... see what happens on 2 December? You never know! Hope you start to feel a bit better soon hun. x

Queenie don't get too down, you could still be pg with a hard, low cervix they say that some womens cervixs down move up until quite a few weeks after the pg has been confirmed, so I don't think its a sign to pin your hopes on. Its so good to vent every now & then, god knows we all go through it month after month, a good blow out clears the air puts everything back into prepective & helps you to start the next month all fresh & determined

oops that meant to say don't move up

managed to get online - excellent!

Fertility Friend says:

"Observing your cervical position after ovulation will not provide any clues about whether or not you could be pregnant. Whether or not you are pregnant, the cervix usually returns to a non-fertile position in the two weeks following ovulation."

I am fine today except when I sit down I feel odd when it's time to get up - not dizzy exactly and definitely not faint, but a little discombobulated certainly. Now where are my combobs.

Cindy - sorry you are feeling so down. Big hug.

Queenie - if you have been having a lot of bding at the right time you are in with a chance. It's probably good to have a good cry and let it all out though.

And a wave to everybody else.

I'm on CD 13 but have not had a smiley face on my ovulation predictor yet and I havn't had EWCM yet either but have been basically bding every two days. Hmm I want to get that smiley face. Hope it appears before I run out of sticks. I'm sure last month I got EWCM on day 12 or something. Anyway I'm just being stupidly impatient.

Anyway the very best of luck to those in the 2ww?I will be doing that next week.

Hi All, Queenie VillageMum and the rest of you who have said a few words. I am just feeling a bit low.. it must be the 2WW

I am thinking to go to the doctors as I am worried that I may never be able to have another baby - as I will be 40 next year gulp Time is running out for me and I just want to be sure its nothing to do with me... do you think I could try being on Clomid ... would that help me??

Has anyone tried the fertility thing, which tests how good your eggs are - Boots sell it?

villageMum have you started yet the DP yet?

Thanks for all your insights about cervical positions - makes me feel a bit better / more hopeful!! Oh the rollercoaster of it all. I guess there really is no way of knowing until AF is late...

saying that, great to hear you feel dizzyish yellowflowers! Sounds very promising

C1ndy - can't answer any of your questions but do try to keep positive. (I know that's easier said than done!!). But I would go and see your doctor. It's good to get them involved and on board as soon as possible. Also don't they say you should get in touch with doctors after six months of trying if you're over 35??

Cindy, tomorrow is cd6 for me and we'll start the DP on cd8 - it will be a long haul though as I have a 33 day cycle and only ov on cd18! I feel exhausted already just thinking about it...
I am 39 too so I share all your fears about time running out, hun - but try to keep them in perspective. We know that we can get pg because we have before... And if you ov regularly then Clomid isn't necessary... worth talking to your GP about it all, just to set your mind at rest? I went to mine a fortnight ago and poured out all my fears about never having a successful pg again and she basically told me: 'look, you know you ovulate, you know you can get pregnant, now go and do your damnedest but don't stress if it doesn't happen immediately'. How long have you been trying? I think I'll keep on ttc for six months before going back to my GP. Haven't thought of trying the Boots test, but who knows? If nothing happens in a few months then maybe... Sending you a ((hug)), don't give up! x

bugger - 11dpo and spotting started. Am sure not implantation as feel like period does when it starts except rather than bad mood I have been in great mood for past few days and also feel fine about it started rather than bitterly disappointed like last few months. all so odd. will move myself to bottom when period starts proper

Queenie Having time now to read email proberly as I am feel sh*t right now, feel like I have a hangover... no I am not pg just think I have caught the awful bug that has been going around. I am normally so positive but have been feeling a little down lately... battle with the weight is not going too well and I guess I am just feeling sorry for myself. BUT I know we will get there, the support we all get from here is amazing. I will back to my normal self soon. But it is awfully when you do everything right and still do not get anything to award you for your efforts. Oh well... roll on AF...

VillageMum just am so weepy at the moment, so forgive me. I have only been trying for two cycles really... first we can't count as it was the MC cycle ... in some ways it better that it takes a bit longer so that my body gets back to were it should be. The problem I have is that my doctor would proberly say the same as your doctor says... but its hard when the clock is ticking... Goush, I can't believe I am like this today, I am normally so up beat. I think I am getting a cold.

I am thinking about the legs in the air thingy... don't think I did it correctly this month. Thinking I may devise something which keeps my bottom in the air (TMI ! hehehe). I think the pelvis needs to be at an angle and i may have had my bottom on the bed with the legs up and think that perhaps this was not a good position. Last time I got pg (actually I had my DD doing this and my last MC) I placed my legs high on the wall... perhaps I need to do this again. I could perhaps tape three or four pillows together to ensure the bottom is raised. Now am I ranting... has anyone any tips.

Wow - didn't realise there are at least 3 of us TTC at 39 ! That actually makes me feel better I hope it does you too Queenie I think the biological clock is responsible for a lot of the TTC anxiety - tell it to take a hike and let you relax till after Christmas ! I conceived when I was a bit tipsy - am sure that meant I was more relaxed

As for legs in the air - I've never bothered - but have always laid in bed quietly for at least an hour afterwards and not showered till the next morning

I had a major wobble last night - something in the air perhaps ? - saw loads and loads of EWCM and had pain on my left side - not as pronounced as my usual ovulation pains and went away pretty quick, but I did think I should pounce on DP, then got all worried about the crap I've been eating since MC, the weight I've put on, the fact I want a baby desperately but can't see myself as a mum of a teenager - and didn't pounce

Of course, this morning I wake up knowing I was being stupid but DP was already up and getting ready for work

Oh well, maybe it wasn't OV. It is normally CD16 for me and today is only CD15 post MC, so hopefully not and I have a chance to get my head together and do this properly.

Sorry I meant Cindy

I haven't been out of bed this early for nearly 3 weeks - still half asleep I think

Cindy, give yourself time - as you say your body is slowly getting back to where it should be, and when it is, you'll fall pg. It's very early days still - certainly nothing to be worried about! Plus you are probably down because you have a cold coming. Be gentle on yourself...

yellow, great that you are so chilled!

Jools I'm 38 so another older TTCer to add to your list
Feeling good today, wishing for next wk to hurry up & get here so that I can either test or start again, the not knowing is the worst part. Wouldn't it be great if that dark line you get when you are at least 6 months pg, the one that appears from you belly button down would appear the moment you get implantation...god wishful thinking but it would put a stop to all this 'am I, arn't I'

hi village - feel less chilled today as pretty certain it's my period. grrrrrr.

How's everyone else? Pezzina -= sorry not your month either but pleased you'll be around to wait with me this month.

jools - are you feeing any better?

cindy - hope you feel happier soon.
xx

smiley, ha, yes, a clear dark belly line would be helpful! Or maybe your wee could turn purple or something as soon as you were pg. 'Oh look - I have pg wee!' No more weeing on sticks then... Clearblue would go out of business. And we would all be asking each other 'have you gone purple yet?' Oh no must stop this flight of fancy... yellow sorry to hear it's AF!

C1ndy About the legs in the air thing. Basically I can't see it would hurt (well it depends what position you are talking about) but I have read that if you are going to put a pillow under your pelvis it should be a little one and not lift you up too much otherwise the sperm goes too far back.

Hello to all!

Yellow sorry you think AF has got you but glad to have your company back at the bottom. I had a rubbish day yesterday - was really grumpy - but feeling fantastic today - our hormones really do have a lot to answer for!

Jools I will be 37 in January and am certainly feeling my body clock ticking - but as you say, the best thing is to ignore it, relax and don't get stressed.

VillageMum SmileyCat I LOVE the purple wee idea - you made me LOL

not got access to laptop at the mo so am quickly logging on at work. Haven't got time to read all postings in last week but will scroll later to see if any bpf are around. Its like coming back to old friends logging in again!!. I am doing DP this month and its hell!! i really do not feel like BD on CD8. I have to wait until halfway through the month before i can have any interest in BD!!! If it doesn't work this month i am not trying again, its like a chore!! Anyway on CD15 and no pos OPK yet so keeping on the every other day. Two firends just had babies last week but i am pleased to say i didn't get depressed.I am going to Dr tom to ask for tests to make sure everything is working well. Anyway gotta go, will try log in again later in the week. 7-10 days for laptop to be back then i will be back to gossip. x

Hi ladies, i have been suffering with a horrible cold all weekend and off work today so have tried to catch up with you all.

cindy i hope the next week goes quickly for you, try very hard not to analyse and look for symptoms, it will just drive you mad. Chin up honey, it will happen!

jools sorry you're feeling blue honey, i remember wanting to get back to it right away after my mc and almost as if there wouldn't be a gap between pregnancies, i didn't for 7 months (but for other reasons) but it did get easier, the emotions are very raw and you have to take each day/week as they come, you are bound to be feeling all over the place.

How is everyone else doing? sorry if i have missed any chats?!!