The Grapefruit drinking knicker checking ttc brigade

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Hello,

As Nelix has a bfp (yay!) and she started the last one I thought I'd start this one as a continuation of this thread

Here's hoping we all get BFPs this month but if not then let's continue the thread until we all graduate

Hi all, everyone sounds very positive today welcome queenie
I had a + OPK yesterday but didn't manage to BD till this morning then did another OPK this afternoon & it was - I hope we didn't miss it. We did bd the 3 nights before & hopefully will get another one in tonight just to incase the egg is still on the way down, so I guess I'm now on my 2WW, roll on the next 12 days

sounds as if you have covered your bases smileycat. I'm hoping I can persuade DH to go one more time tonight or tomorrow morning before he goes away (but would have to be 5am so not likely!!!). But come what may, looks like we're about the same point in our cycle.

I keep telling myself I won't symptom spot this month but it is IMPOSSIBLE not to. I'm already thinking / wondering and I'm not even sure I've Ov'd yet!!!

This is going to be a long two weeks...

Hello Queenie, I'm a very recent joiner too. It's very nice here.

I am cd 8 so planning bding tonight. Not in the mood though...and my DH will probably try and talk me into going for a run when he gets home...sigh

I'm also getting some cold feet...Sometimes I wonder if I really want all the responsibility and possibility of tradgedy. I know this is probably the wrong forum for that sort of thought...but it's honestly my fear.

Then again I think a life without kids seems kind of lacking...I don't know. Just in a funny old mood. One of my brothers has mental problems and it's really made my mums life sad and hard. Having children opens me up to the possibility of that sort of pain.

Sorry if raining on parades.

Massive grapefruits wasabi, are you being personal about me? . Sorry to hear that you've had such a crap cycle and I hope that your boddy makes up it's mind soon.

Welcome queenie, pull up a cushion and get stuck in!

Heeby - good luck with the scan.

Ooooh, there are some very good sounding symptoms out there. I feel a bumper load of Christmas bfp's coming along [overly excited emoticon].

Massive grapefruits wasabi, are you being personal about me? . Sorry to hear that you've had such a crap cycle and I hope that your boddy makes up it's mind soon.

Welcome queenie, pull up a cushion and get stuck in!

Heeby - good luck with the scan.

Ooooh, there are some very good sounding symptoms out there. I feel a bumper load of Christmas bfp's coming along [overly excited emoticon].

Eh-up, my computer has got over-excited too!

OK feeling a bit better now after a cuddle with DH and explaining fears. Sometimes just voicing worries makes them a little better.

I've run out of grapefruit and I'm a bit annoyed that corner shops don't seem to sell it. On a positive note I have big round grapefruit in my fruitbowl - it's a very positive fruit.

Wasabi good luck for next time!

And Villagemum I'm excited to see how things turn out.

Oh sorry Villagemum I think I misunderstood your post. You seem to be waiting for AF not anything else. Apologies if I've been a clunkhead.

Hi Heeby - I have just moved down here from Manchester so haven't got a doctor yet. I'll be getting one this week and will ask them if they will refer me for an early scan. If they agree and I can get one on the NHS that'd be great however wanted to cover all bases.......god - I'm obviously a control freak!

Jools thanks for the tip - I just looked up the one in St Albans and that sounds like it'll be nearer and cheaper so thanks.

Cindy in answer to one of your earlier questions - you can only do a pregnancy test the day your period is due. Any earlier may produce an unreliable test or even worse a positive result which doesn't 'take' and then becomes negative. It's best to wait :-)

Big temp rise this morning so def OV'd now. 2WW here I come. I've told myself I'm not going to symptom spot this month or at least try not to put every little niggle down to being pg. The last 2 months I've only had a 12 day LP so have updated my dates for a week on Monday as my AF due date. I'm off for the wkend now so can't post again till Mon have a great wkend ladies, baby dust to anyone due this wkend & fingers crossed for all on the 2WW

Mylittlebubble AF due 10th - 15th Nov
VillageMum AF due 19th/20th Nov (DP after this AF!)
Whitebeaches AF due 17th - 21st
Pezzina AF due 24th Nov DP
Elligant AF due 27th Nov DP
Yellowflowers AF due 27th Nov
JClaire AF due 28th Nov
Sans04 AF due 28th Nov
BoosieBoo AF due 30th Nov DP
Cindy AF due 1 December DP
spats due 7th-? nov
Smileycat AF due 1st Dec
Queenie1 - AF due 2nd(ish) Dec
Pinkie08 due 5th dec
Deeja AF due 9th Dec DP
Wasabi AF 11th dec
Wanabemum AF due 18th/19th Dec DP

Heebychick BFP
Becky McG BFP

Becky - if you're new to the area and want some pointers / a chat, just let me know I am only 20 mins walk from that clinic I recommended

Good luck 2WW'ers. My mc bleeding has officially stopped, so I'm drinking Waitrose pink grapefruit juice and keeping my fingers crossed that I will OV on this cycle - usually CD16 for me but I've got no idea what my cycle will do this month.

First day back at work today and I've chickened out - am working from home

Jools - go easy on yourself. miscarriage is awful and a really big thing to have to cope with. Don't rush yourself. Work from home (or not at all) for as long as you feel ready. In the past I've told my line manager what was happening to me and he was really supportive. Told me to take the time off I needed and that he would cover my workload for me if necessary. (And how do I repay him? By spending my working day chatting on MN!!!)

smileycat or others who may know...I don't temp (thinking I should begin next month?) but just go on CM. Can you tell from any body signs whether or not you've Ov'd?

My boobs were tingling Tuesday and yesterday, had EWCM (though not as much as previous months) and still here a little bit and had a few twinges around the ovary area over the past couple of days. Does this sound like I've Ov'd yet or am about to? (Anxious as didn't BD last night or today and now DH is away til late Sat night and scared I'm missing my window!!)

Sorry for borderline psychotic obsession.

Hi queenie i didn't temp either and only went on CM really, i found that my (.)(.) would be sore/tingle just before i OV'd and during as well. The CM would turn EW for about a day and then i think i OV'd the next day, i felt it this time as well (have suffered with a cyst previously) so that helped. I would suggest you probably ov'd around the time of the pain and EWCM, but don't worry - did you BD the night before? because if you BD'd when you had the EWCM (even just a little) the swimmers should survive a fair while.

smiley have a lovely weekend away hun, and yes try not to think about the 2ww - easy for me to say hey! i think this is your month tho secretly!

deeja if it helps i totally know where you are coming from, when i was expecting our DD i had mixed emotions, we fell pg on our honeymoon and when i came back and started to tell everyone i was so very scared of how it would change us, change our lives, everyone was so pleased and although i was too i still had doubts. but i think it's totally normal and by week 10 or 12 i really changed and i have to say she is the best thing that has ever happened to me, i cannot put into words how she has made me feel complete as a person, a wife and a mum. she is truly the best thing i have ever done in my life and in so many ways my life is so much better for her being in it (in fact there isn't one single way that my life isn't better now). so my advice would be to embrace your fears, they are normal, my sister too had learning difficulties and i worried about things like that, but i know now i would love my DD no matter how she turned out - i know the meaning of unconditional love now.

It's so difficult to explain and put into words (hence the ramble) but until you've had them i think it's hard to imagine how much tummy wrenching love you have for this little person, everyone said it but i just didn't know until that first breath and first cry.

Ok i'll stop now! x

Qeenie my boobs get really sore just before I OV & stay tender right upto AF. I do get wet CM upto a couple of days after I OV so don't know if this sign is that helpful to determin the day you OV. If you check your cervix position that could also help you to see if you are near OV. It rises up high almost so you can't touch it & goes soft although I'm sure I OV'd yesterday & mine is still high & soft this morn..might have to have another go tonight just incase . I like temping as it does tell you that you have OV'd, although too late to time BDing but at least it puts your mind at rest that you did OV & when. If you have problems keeping to a waking time they say your temp rises about 0.1 every hour in the morning so if you normally take you temp at 7am but at the wkend you don't wake up till 8am, you just add 0.1 to whatever it reads & record this but put a little mark next to it to say you have adjusted it so that it makes sense in a few days time if temps are a little out

Thanks Heeby - we did do it yesterday morning so hopefully we've covered the essential time. Now just to wait for two long weeks...Big congratulations on your BFP and developing bean by the way!!!

heeby I couldn't have put it better myself I felt the same way & still do about my DS, no one can put into words that bond you feel when that little person appears. My biggest fear now is can I love another child as much as I love this one. I know I will, but until he/she is there in front of me I guess that fear will stay with me

Hello everyone, AF has started so I'm updating the list:

Mylittlebubble AF due 10th - 15th Nov
Whitebeaches AF due 17th - 21st
Pezzina AF due 24th Nov DP
Elligant AF due 27th Nov DP
Yellowflowers AF due 27th Nov
JClaire AF due 28th Nov
Sans04 AF due 28th Nov
BoosieBoo AF due 30th Nov DP
Cindy AF due 1 December DP
spats due 7th-? nov
Smileycat AF due 1st Dec
Queenie1 - AF due 2nd(ish) Dec
Pinkie08 due 5th dec
Deeja AF due 9th Dec DP
Wasabi AF 11th dec
Wanabemum AF due 18th/19th Dec DP
VillageMum AF due 23 December DP

Heebychick BFP
Becky McG BFP

Yay, I am on my ttc cycle at last now!!

Deeja, don't worry, you're not a clunkhead, there's just so much to keep track of on this thread! I waited the last cycle out as I'd had a mc in September and wanted a bit of healing space. But I'm ready to try now... Know what you mean about the ttc niggles (or rather the having kids niggles), I have a lovely ds as well as a wonderful step dd, and what you say is true - being a parent opens you up to the negative as well as the positive. But if it's any help, the positive always wins out and the love you will have for your child will be the biggest thing you have ever, ever felt. In fact it will be just impossible for you to imagine life without your dc once he or she has arrived. All life involves risk and so does anything worth having - go for it!

so any news from mywlittlebubble and whitebeaches?

hey everybody funtimewincies happy birthday!!
passes everyone a virtual slice of my birthday cake-hope you all enjoy.
well am on cd5 so only 3 more to go til i start all over again

Oh Heeby you managed to bring a tear to my eye this morning in the office. What you write in so lovely. Thank you so much for shareing that with me. It does make me feel better. I think it's just one of those things that you can't really understand until you have just taken a running leap into the unknown. I'm a bit of a control freak and I'm just getting the wiggins at the idea of loseing control. But I do want to do this. I just need to keep doing what I'm doing and then (hopefully ) at some point there will be no way back.

And Villagemum you are also making me feel all emotional this morning! Thank you for rescuing me from clunkheadedness. Last night I must admit I was feeling like a self obsessed fool. I'm so sorry about your MC. But it is very good that you are back and trying again. I think I said that I have a funny shaped uterus and so I have a feeling I might be headed for a MC at some point. I know that sounds gloomy but I just think if I am realistic maybe I'll cope better if it does happen. That is also one of the things that is scareing me.

But I have to say that coming on to MN this morning has just been lovely. Everybody is so nice. I really want to give everybody a group hug.

Also Jools be kind to yourself. It really is a good idea to take it easy.

Onto the more usual stuff I bd'd last night. I was a little tired but DH was all positive and it was lovely?I mean to just start the process. I'm really grateful DH is all for this because I have quite a few friends with partners that are resisting or saying no to children. It's heart breaking for them. I'm very lucky. Also tomorrow is going to be first time I have used a Ovulation Stick. I'm quite excited.

I suppose I better work now.

Happy birthday Funtime

Deeja - I've had exactly the same wobbles as you, and in the last week they've got worse - not just the "will I be a fit parent / can I do this" type of stuff but also can I get through those first hellish 12 weeks of worrying about every twinge and terrified of another deluge of blood (sorry if tmi

Heeby and VillageMum - you both put things very well - better than I could . I know I'm going to do this - just need to put the fears aside somehow.

Not sure how DP feels right now, but I'm just going to be vague about things and not push the issue of TTC - that is what I did last time and it worked ! What man can resist when his partner is in the mood and he is mellow with wine / a Liverpool win :roll:

I think you are supposed to abstain for 2 weeks after an mc ? That means I can't start till Tuesday and will just have to watch my body carefully to see if the usual signs of ov appear (usually CD16 but I don't know when is CD1 at the moment [hmmm] Caught the egg on the night of CD15 last time and OV'ed the next morning It makes things sooooo much easier when you can feel what is happening.

My wallowing finishes today I think - have got one last choccy bar in the fridge and just had a big piece of my fave - Jamaican ginger cake Healthy diet and exercise starts tomorrow, baby-making commences on Tuesday

Bloomin 'eck heeby you've turned me into a snivelling wreck at work. What lovely words xx

Deeja, don't apologise, your feelings are all normal! Better to be upfront about our doubts and worries so that we can work through them... I remember you writing about your uterus (I think you said you had a bicornuate uterus? sorry memory isn't great, correct me if I've got it wrong!); has someone medical told you that it brings a risk of mc, or are you maybe worrying about something that's not the case? Worth finding out more, just so that you can be reassured?

Jools, hello! ((waves)) good to see you on here, hope you're doing OK! x

Jools, crossed posts... good luck with your new project! I ov'd 3 weeks after my mmc and ERPC - it must have taken my hormones a week to settle down again before the whole ov chain fired up. Yes, they say abstain till all the bleeding stops, which is usually about two weeks. But basically don't worry if your ov is later than usual.

Thanks whitebeaches and many happy returns to you as well . Thanks for the cake (sends back a lovely big glass of champers).

Off for lunch with dh as ds is at Grandmas today. Planing to stuff myself silly? I should coco!

Hi Jools, as the others have said, take it easy. We were advised to wait one cycle, although I ovulated later after the late mmc (about 3 weeks after) than after the earlier ones (about 2 weeks, so near-normal cycle). I also found that the later one 'ganged up' on me and made me cry at odd times for much longer, probably as I'd let myself begin to relax. Hugs and choccy and just take things at your own pace.