Dieting and ttc

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Just wondering if anyone else is doing this or how it’s gone?
I tried to lose some of the weight I gained being pregnant from my last dc, but with breastfeeding and ttc I was told my body would likely not want to get pregnant again.
I’ve stopped breastfeeding now and I’ve been trying for a while but no bfp yet.

I keep stopping and starting with a diet (I just mean no junk food and careful portions) One month I try and then I don’t get pregnant and I convince myself it’s because I was dieting, and my body didn’t have enough calories or was stressed, the next month I don’t try and tell myself my bmi is too high and that’s why. I’m just trying to be healthy ish and exercise where I can (not easy!) but I’m just not sure of the right thing to do. I’m 39 and been trying for a year, so time isn’t really on my side to take 6m+ out and get in shape. But I’m worried about going into another pregnancy already overweight, if I can get pregnant at all. Plus I’m just unhappy in my body really.

im not sure what I’m asking really, I just can’t talk to anyone about this irl because no one knows we’re trying.

Hi I am currently dieting and ttc, I don’t have a choice really as my blood sugars have came back as pre diabetic. I’m also 39 and they advise having stable bloods for 3 months prior to getting pregnant.

My situations a little different in that I’m under recurrent miscarriage clinic, they advised to get my bmi down to within a healthy range. I’ve had 3 pregnancies within 18months none of which were successful.

i would keep going with the not dieting as such but eating healthy. I’m cut out all sugar and processed foods. I’ve upped my steps and started to lift weights. I’m not on a diet as such but definitely protein and veg heavy. I want my body to be in the best possible shape, it’s so hard! My periods have been irregular since I gained the weight. This month is the first month they’ve been within what’s classed as a normal cycle. Sorry not got much advise per sa but I 100% get where your coming from.

I'd focus on nutritional foods and movement, rather than dieting per se. Lots of veg, iron rich foods etc. Look on it as a change for life rather than short term diet. Have you spoken to the GP? Although I don't know if they will do tests given you have a child already.

Tbh I already eat pretty healthy, I was just also eating biscuits and cakes sometimes too and sometimes my portions were a bit too big, I haven’t gained really since dc were born though it’s all weight I put on in pregnancy.

I’ve just tried to focus on sticking to my healthy (regular sized) meals with no snacks. It’s just very slow progress then on the weight actually coming off and I’m just a bit unhappy in my clothes, but I don’t want to do too much and lower my chances or pregnancy even further.

@tryingoncemore im so sorry for your losses. Well done on your weight loss and your hard work, it sounds like you’re doing everything you can be

I have spoken to the gp yeah and a private specialist, they said dieting is stressful and stress makes it harder to conceive, so they wouldn’t worry about it too much but also yes a higher BMI may also make a healthy pregnancy less able to achieve… so that just puts me at the same conundrum.
They’ve done day 3 and 21 tests and they’re fine. They said they’re not worried since I’ve got dc and I’m with same dh (his tests seem fine too) they think it’ll just take time. They seem to be mainly suggesting it’s stress but there’s not a huge amount I can do.
at first I thought I’d just get pregnant quickly and then worry about trying to not gain more in pregnancy and then just lose it after. But I’ve been trying a year now, I’m still not pregnant and I’m still overweight (although slightly less so) so I just feel frustrated about the ‘wasted’ time and fed up being this size.