TTC September/October 26

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I couldn't see that anyone's started a thread for September yet. Seeing as it's tomorrow thought I'd start one now. Seems AF arrived for a few of us at the same time so looks like we'll be in sync over the coming months.
How is everyone doing?

Oh okay thank you. We normally do every other day from period ending till peak, and then that day and the following 2.

Sounds like you’re following it p much exactly already 🙂

Joining from the August thread - AF came today so back to cycle day 1. This will be second month of TTC, but I've actually got a thermometer for BBT this month rather than just relying on Flo app/CM. Wishing everyone the best of luck for this month 🤍

Yeah my cramps ramped up a lot today and I think it's finally starting, 4 days late which isn't earth shattering but is pretty weird for me. Oh well onto the next cycle then I have my hycosy next month if nothing happens. Best of luck this cycle to you and everyone here 💛

Need to nail that final intercourse though, we are normally sick of the sight of each other by that point 😂

Where did you get the thermometer from? I've never done BBT but maybe this is the month to start! Tell me everything you know 😃

Sorry to hear about your potential chemical.

Yeah that’s a difficult one. My best friend is pregnant and sharing all the happy stages and news and it’s difficult when you’re still trying. I’m just trying to seperate my happiness for them and my sadness for me and remember other people can have happy times whilst I’m struggling. I felt the same when I lost my dad in regards to other people being happy on Father’s Day, etc.
im dropping my dc off at her first day tomorrow! Hoping it goes well for her but I feel so sad. Especially when she’s my only and it feels like the first and last time I’ll experience all of this.

cross my fingers this cycle is your cycle!

I have a question. I'm on CD14 and I just had a smiley face on a clearblue test. That means that I am covered if I have intercourse today right? I have never done a second test after a positive. And I wonder if it's possible that my ovulation happens in 2 or 3 days after the positive.

Ooh I am not sure, I've used the OneStep ones and once I get the 'peak' (I use premom app) I tend to have sex that night and the following 2 days.

Hey, can I join? First month TTC and I'm CD13, but no positive OPK yet, I usually ovulate late. Just looking for some company really from you ladies while I wait!

Ive been in this situation too @Olivia2024 and it was all i could do to keep my face in a smile.
I went home and had a wee cry and my husband was upset as well. They are really close friends and due dates would have been days apart.
All in all the pain eased over time so be kind to yourself. And its ok to celebrate their joy when grieving yourself.

Sorry to hear you've had a wonky cycle, hopefully you don't need to hycosy but I've heard it can help even if nothing's picked up with clearing microblockages in your tubes. Do you mind me asking how long you had to wait to have it scheduled after your first appt with the fertility clinic? I'm assuming they'll offer me one as well. I'm on cycle day 3 today so think it's maybe optimistic to think I'll be offered one for this cycle.

I'm really struggling now tbh, we have our first fertility appointment tomorrow and I think it's all becoming a bit real that things aren't going as planned. If I didn't have a chemical in January I would have been giving birth this week. Instead we're going to start the process of finding out why it's just not happening 💔😓

Sorry lovely I missed this. Glad to hear that you think its on the way! Fingers crossed for this month 🙏

Yes I have heard quite promising things about hycosy too. I do have symptoms that quite strongly suggest endometriosis which is one of the reasons I think they've put me through for this next although it might be typical for anyone trying after the initial tests are done. Our first appointment was in July and the hycosy is early October so not too long luckily. We are in a major city as well so it's quite lucky the wait isn't super long. I am dreading it a bit as at this point it's quite likely I may have a significant blockage or two and apparently that is usually what can make it more painful but I will do it wince it might help us.

Sorry to hear you're feeling down about the appointment and the significance of it. I can definitely relate to that, I was expecting it might take a while but not that it would reach a worrying time frame. It must also add an extra layer of difficulty knowing your chemical would have been a baby now if it had continued, I'm so sorry 💐I really think it's important to remember that it's actually quite normal for conception to take up to 18months/ 2 years especially once you're more into your 30s and older, and it doesn't necessarily suggest an issue but at the same time you're giving yourself the best chance by going in.

Another thing to bear in mind if you do have hycosy is that you usually can't try in the cycle leading up to it as the dye they use might impact an early pregnancy. Some clinics let you try following the procedure but some say don't start again until after your next AF. The silver lining of my period coming late this month is that it means my October ovulation should be bumped to after the hycosy now as previously it was expected just before it.

Best of luck for tomorrow and let yourself be emotional if you need to, there's a lot of strength in letting yourself feel your worries. Thanks for the kind words 💛