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Conception

When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Making a baybee

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nybor · 10/06/2008 14:42

I am trying to conceive and have found it difficult to not smoke when drunk. I only smoke when pickled but love to get pickled once a week, which I guess is binge drinking. (Yes... I know that both are really bad when trying for a baby)

I am coming to terns with having to give up both which is scary. I enjoy a lively social life, especially during the summer months. I am also 39 so even more serious.

Anyone got any info to divulge? Top tips?

BTW I this is my first message, I am a newbie so if I make any mistakes please be kind.

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RibenaBerry · 10/06/2008 15:04

Lots of people will say you shouldn't drink at all, etc, etc.

Me, I am pragmatist and I have one summer word for you "spritzers".

Low alcohol = not pickled therefore less likely to smoke, but equally you won't feel too deprived and blow all your good intentions.

thewiltedrose · 10/06/2008 15:06

i do belive i was both pissed and a chainsmoking junk food eating drug taking fool when i concieved ds1 and at least half of that when i had ds2

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nybor · 10/06/2008 15:39

Thanks I may go down the spritzers route, but as I like to feel drunk I cannot really see the point. Having said that it would be good for a relaxation drink every now and then.

I am the kind of person that is all or nothing I am afraid.

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RibenaBerry · 10/06/2008 15:40

You know the answer then...

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nybor · 10/06/2008 15:40

Forgot to mention that I am 39 and my hubby 46 so we need to take care.

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nybor · 10/06/2008 15:42

Yes, I do know the answer, it is quite scary tho'. But having said that, having a child is life changing and I guess it starts now.

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lulumama · 10/06/2008 15:43

you both need to maintain a healthier lifestyle, binge drinking and smoking will affect sperm and egg quality. binge drinking can affect foetal development and smoking does too.

at least cut down / give up when TTC and at least for the first trimester

make sure you take folic acid and eat well

your GP might well have information about smoking cessation for pregnancy.

good luck!

nomoremagnolia · 10/06/2008 18:18

It really comes down to how bad you want a baby. As you say it's life-changing, but moderating your drinking (and therefore cutting out the smoking) is just the start of what will change with having a baby. You need to decide for yourself what's most important. You'll have to give up when pg anyway, so see this as a trial run.
ps If you are an "all or nothing" kind of girl who "likes feeling drunk" have you asked yourself why?

MrsTittleMouse · 10/06/2008 18:22

If you imagine yourself in five years time and you hadn't conceived and you hadn't maximised your chances by having a healthy lifestyle, how will you feel?
Would you think "that's life and I had fun" or would you think "I've blown my chances and I'll never know if I could have conceived if I gave up smoking and drinking"?

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nybor · 10/06/2008 23:51

Thanks again RibenaBerry for the top 'Spritzers'tip.

For those of you in a similar pickle I enclude a response received from a friend today, I found this to be helpful.

"AHH I feel for you and TOTALLY understand! I found stopping drinking REALLY REALLY hard and had a few nights in tears as I was annoyed with myself and thinking I should be able to enjoy myself without drinking and wasn't etc! It's still hard but it does get easier! Honest! I think I coped by not
going out on nights that I knew people would get pi**sed and tried to do more sociable things like lunch etc! Of course it's really hard when everyone is drinking and enjoying themselves around you and you can't!
But of course you don't want to not ever go out again, one piece of advice is to try and keep temptation out of your way as much as pos or limit it, like going home early or going out for lunch etc!!!! It's SO hard - now it's easier as I obviously can't sleep in or lounge on the sofa all day with baby around! But now is probably harder for you until you get pregnant because once you are you will have the willpower!

I still have real cravings especially when hubby goes out drinking and having a good time and wish I could but I'm just too knackered at the mo....

Don't give yourself such a hard time!"

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nybor · 10/06/2008 23:55

Mrs TittleMouse wrote: If you imagine yourself in five years time and you hadn't conceived and you hadn't maximised your chances by having a healthy lifestyle, how will you feel?
Would you think "that's life and I had fun" or would you think "I've blown my chances and I'll never know if I could have conceived if I gave up smoking and drinking"?

I think that it would be more a case of me making a decision now because I would not try whilst leading an unhealthy lifestyle.

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