Almost 43, am I too old?

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I have a child, and am thinking I want another....I will be 43 at the end of this year, realistically speaking, I will be at least 44 when a new baby is born. Can I have some positive (or not, as case may be) stories please? (First pregnancy was at 38 and was a dream)

hi, i dont think having a new baby at 44 is too old!

if you are cycles are still regular,etc, you're healthy, settled, why not have another one?

goodluck

No No no!

My sister had her first one at 43 and my boss had hers at 20 then 22, met her new partner and had her baby son a few months ago and she is 43 (she says that she enjoys it so much more this time!

Good luck to you!

I had my third last year after a 21 year break,I was 42.I love it so much that I am now ttc again.Go for it.
GOOD LUCK

If it feels right for you, go for it, and good luck when ttc, me, no way,no how,never,I was very young when i had my dc and found their teenage years quite exhausting, having to go through that lot again in my late 50's early 60's would finish me off, but perhaps i am just a wimp

My 3rd pg was at 41.

Loved it, easiest pg of the 3, felt great, coped better than ever with the sleepless nights.

There is another great website called Mothers35plus.co.uk, which I used to frequent before I found MN. (They do have tickers, unfortunately!) As the name suggests its for older mothers, and it tends to focus on the concerns we may have - particularly around conception/pregnancy.

I had my first at 38 and my second at 41, but we had a number of mums on there conceiving in their mid forties, and lots of positive stories.

I have a friend who had her only baby at 45 - bit of a surprise for her, but all has gone brilliantly. In Victorian times, of course, it was not unusual for women to continue to have children well into their forties - it's a fairly recent phenomonon for birth to start later, but end earlier too - something that tends to be forgotten.

My only reservations about being an older mother is that our dss have less time with their grandparents, who aren't so active these days. Otherwise - no regrets for me. I am more tired than some of my younger friends, but also more settled in life than I would have been 10 years earlier.

Hope that helps.

Thanks so much for your replies, have been reading the website you recommended all afternoon......am thinking I might go for it!

Just had my 6th at 44 and she is perfect! Go for it!

Had my 4th last april at 43 after an 11 yr gap. She is wonderful and much loved by us all. I was tired during the pregnancy (slept incredibly badly) but after she was born I found the nights easier than I had when I had my 1st baby in my early 20's.

I am now approaching 45 and last month conceived without really trying; unfortunately I have just had an early m/c at 5 weeks. However we have decided to have another go and see what happens.

I think the negatives depend on your outlook on life. I certainly don't feel old, I look after myself (that means good food and good wine!) and I think my children keep me young (ish). You can find negatives in having a baby at any age.

There is a pregnancy over 40 thread going at the moment you might like to have a look at. Good luck!

I was 44 when I had my last baby, she was number 6 and everything perfectly normal,dont even feel that old at the school gates