Month 13

[GiveTheGoblinsSnacks]

Hi all,
month 13 here. How do I balance optimism and realism. I’m trying to think positive but it’s so hard now we’ve passed a year.

That 12 month marker is a real kick in the teeth, I agree. You’re not alone x

I feel all our friends and family had stories that were like “it took us almost a year” as stories to help as relax but what do we do know we are past a year?

Have you seen a doctor? I’m 35 and have been ttc for 15 cycles. I did see my gp who made a referral to a clinic but I’m very hesitant to go down that route as I know they’ll say ivf and I know too many people who it has just ruined. I’m plodding on trying something new each month and hoping that something will work one day. For now.

I had some initial blood tests which came back fine but I have similar feelings to you about IVF- it’s not the silver bullet it is sometimes perceived as.
We have hired a fertility nutritionist and have met with her twice. Her website says success within 6-9 months but time’s arrow marches on and it feels very lonely. I have turned to co-pilot as my friends must be very bored of the subject.
hoping you get get your baby soon ❤

Hi just thought I’d drop a message as I’ve been there myself and I know the total takeover off your life ttc has. Have you tried using a conception cup? I have 4 kids now and with the first 3 have fallen pregnant the first month trying but when it came to number 4 I had 6 months and nothing, I then read about fertility lube and the conception cup so just got a cheap one from Amazon and i fell pregnant that month after using it twice. I really had no faith that it would work but I was desperate and feeling like I’d lost my mind. Whether it was coincidence or it did actually work I have no idea but that was the only thing I done different that month x