that wagons getting roomy - a TTC and waiting TTC thread

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ha ha no names mentioned this time

Evening!

I work from home and, as much as I struggle to find the time/motivation sometimes, it keeps me sane and brings in the bucks! I'm lucky to have an ok paid job which translates well into part time hours - any less would not have been worth it tbh. Part of me longs for the 'escape' of actually going to work and having colleagues (that aren't miles away!) but I know I am very fortunate.

TBH I think the betterware/avon/as are more work than money IYKWIM?!

My very, very good friend is staying locally this week and I don't knwo whether to tell her about baby...she didn't tell until 11 weeks (although I knew from about 6!!)...what do you think?

Hello!!! Fianlly, I get a chance to get on mumsnet!! Busy busy day, though not actually done that much. Went to town this afternoon, and then have been trying to do bits of 'work' work, and finally giving up and going to be now as my contact lenses are now so dry I'm almost blinking them out!
Teuch, I think I'd be tempted to tell your friend if she is very close. It might also help to nake it feel more real, and is such good goss too .
Agree with Teuch about the avon/betterware thing. Think (from speaking to friends who go down that route) it can be good to supplement income (ie, a friend works in a nursery and gets lots of avon orders by putting the book in mums' bags etc) but thinbk you would need a good potential client base to do well out of it? Not sure on the bettreware frontn - all I know is it gets dumpoed outside my front door the second it lands inside!
On the job front, I'm very lucky to have a good, well-paid job with a company that's relatively child-friendly. I do enopy my work, and am quite ambitious too, so doing well at work is something that hasn't disappeared after having my 3 dds. In fact if anything I'm more motivated to do well, perhaps because the stereotype is for people to judge you more when you have LOs?

Fingers crossed for testing this coming week for all 2ww-ers!! Hopefully if not this cycle then the next Glaskham, although this one's not over yet by a long stretch!
Right, that's it from me! Speak tomorrow hopefully

morning all... cant believe im the first on ehear!went to bed at one am, tested just after 5! BFN havent lost hope thos cos may of just been to early, will give it another week and see how i feel, or if AF has arrived!

Teuch i wld tell but then im too impatient!! thanks for answering my question Kays and all, i dont realistically think we could afford childcare for more than two days a week, that would be about 320 a month, add that to the cost of getting to work etc, im really not sure it will be financially qorht me working where i am, which is a shame because i love my job... oh well i spose i can cross that bridge wen i come to it, will have to go back for a bit to keep enhanced mat pay!

Morning BB! Aww, bad luck on the bfn, but as you say could be too early...I've never got a bfp until 4/5 days after af due with all 3 dds, it really does vary .
Maybe by the time you have to consider work plans etc your situation might have changed a little? Would it be possible for your dh/dp to work more flexibly, or for relies to do a bit of (cheap ) childcare? You do have to be creative, though not always possible I know. We've used a nursery since dd1 was 4 months (I actually cut my maternity leave short ) for 4 days a week, so have given them good repeat business (you get 10% deduction on bills after the first).Lucky we can just scrape by (still worht us both working) although we also have to factor in childminders for dds at school.
Hope everyone is ok this cold and dull May morning! Looking forward to next weekend - am away woth a friend for a few days in YOrk, then have my birthday on 27th. Dh is already wingeing about it, though he has selective memory as regards weekends away...

morning diege!

am currently not too bummed about BFN, and wont be until / unless AF arrives, as ive never had a 28 day cycle anyway so think i tested far too early and was getting myself at it!and i really do feel PG, which of course could be setting self up for a fall...

as for back to work - we will be a bit better off next year as DP will qualify giving him a gd payrise, so in that respect we will be able to survive with me part time,and this would help with nursery costs too, unfortunately my lovely mum works full time and although DP mum doesnt work full - time hours, she works school hours (despite DP sister being 15 ) she would never offer... not that id expect her too, given our relationship and her views! so childcare will be all on us! I dont really mind tho, as i dont have a problem with nurseries, and think id need the adult convo!! it just means because of the cost, i would really only be able to do either work from home (unlikely) or 2 days a week, i think in all truth i wouldnt want to do anymore, god i am rambling!! just feels good to get it all ya know? basically i spose given what happened (Made redundant, had MC i think due to stress) last time this all relates to my nerves at telling work!! i know deep down it wouldnt be practical for me to do my job from home, but as obsessed organised as i am i have a plan!! ahh talk about cathartic!

just sold my bike on ebay! made quite A gds return although not as much as i paid for it, obviously!

sorry that was a very me me me post, where are you off to diege?

LoL BB, no v.good to get it all out! Think you do have to plan to get a work-life balance, and something has to give! For me, I have great career and lovely dh and dds, but what's got lost along the wayside are my RL friends. I have 2 or 3 good ones that will put up with me not ringing them etc, but I have turned very mucnh into a homebody and enjoy my own compnay more and more these days (and those of my MN buddies ). Away to York next weekend, with good friend for many years - I think the Eurovision is on then, so we will thoroughly enjoy it with a pizza!. Not much doing today - I need to work (essay marking - great WL balance eh )and dh has taken older dds to a party. Great going on the E-bay!! I'm also listing more today, and waiting for a few slow payers so I can transfer to account!! I need to do some clothes shopping!!!

of many years. Much as I'd like to, we are only there Fri eve to Sunday pm

wow sounds a gd weekend coming then!

i think i know what you mean, about loosing RL friends , i must admit im lucky in that my long term friends are happy to text rather than meet all to regularly because we all work and they have kids, i think when im on mat leave ill see much more of them as for me its all about time, it is nice to know that they're still around tho!!

ive just eaten a toffee crisp yum!

BB maternity leave is a great time to make friends . Having said that, it was hard to throw myself into mother and baby groups etc knowing that I wouldn;t be able to continue with them after returning to work. Again,. a case of making your choices and accepting that something has to give, but then just getting on with it!
dd3 has just come out of the worst tantrum she's ever had , over nothing of course Wathcing a bit of Shipwrecked on C4 now . A toffee crips sounds goooood!!!

OOOH Diege will be just up the road from me!!!

I'm feeling terrible today. I have gone to bed at 9 the past few nights. I'm just so tired all the time. So sorry if I'm not about much. I'll catch up on everything tomorrow.

i just read my chat magazine, i do love a bit of real life gossip

Good to hear from you Kay, and sorry you're feeling very tired.I remember how draining it is! At least you can look forward to the blooming stage perhaps?? .
A bit narked as was just checking my work e-mails (ok, my own fault) and found a request from a student asking me to look through her essay...arghh, why did I look??? And why do they expect me to respond at the weekend?? [maybe cos they know I check??). All done now though, so coffee then out with naughty dd3 I think to get 'goodies'

Me too BB...it's Chat, New, Heat and Now every week for me . Any new goss??

nah notreally...just the usual murders lol! i bpought it cos i had a voucher for extra clubcard points! how sad resourceful of me

LOL, we would be the old ladies knitting by the guillotine years ago eh

lol yeah totally! arg i really dont know whats up with me...one minute im hungry then i eat and feel sick! and im SOOOO tired!!

Hmmm...[diege nods wisely..]. When did you say af was due???

hi ladies

sorry had to nip off!

see thats the thing diege ive no real clue! last cycle was 65 days but i thinkt hat was to do with coils, i think although cant be sure cos i chucked out calendar (doh!) that my previous cycles were around 30-35 days, so not yet.... i just dont want to get too excited!! i am like either starving or cant eat!!! im driving myself loony!

hi tink how are u?

OOOOH BB Im like that at the minute. I'm completely starving but can't find anything I want to eat. Its so annoying.

lol il take it as a gd sign then kays? im having those thoughts tho...REALLY want it!!

how was ure dads visit kays?

It could be a good sign, I haven't felt like this for more than one day in a row before. Its normally just for one day.

Dads visit was good. We had a great time. DS enjoyed himself.

I think DH has forgotten I'm pregnant, he just asked me to go and put DS's highchair away despite it being quite heavy.

Hi TINKS, how goes it?? Ooh looking good then BB; you must be excited! Glad you had a good time Kays - how was the railway?
DD3 has been in and out of tantrums constantly all afternoon, so it's bedtime I think (for her, not me!)...I had forgotten how exhasutuing an tantrumming toddler can be

lol men are like that arent they! im so sleepy do you ever get that dread about work? i get what i like to call the sunday night dread!