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Vasectomy reversal success??

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terrier141 · 13/05/2008 14:40

Does anyone have experience of this? Hubby has just had it done and we are nervously awaiting the outcome!

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sorrento · 19/01/2009 18:30

Sneaks in, it's me Katiedd [waves]
Dh has just had his pre op consultation ie paid for the sperm aspiration and he's all set for next Monday.
I had such cold feet today, nearly backed out of the whole thing, I know I sound like a brat but I do not want to have to go through this I really don't.
I am so disorganised i'm terrifed i'll forget to do something vital and we'll end up with no baby because i couldn't get my arse into gear.

pinkmook · 19/01/2009 18:51

Hey sorrento (aka katie )

Wow things have moved on for you! I have an app for 27th Jan but am currently on clomid as a kind of oh well it might work give it a go thing!

How exciting for you!!! When do you go in then?

xxxx

sorrento · 19/01/2009 18:58

Still a long way off the two bluesline
They need to get his sperm out next week, take further blood tests from me on 30th and then start me on the drugs to stimulate my ovaries. Once they've collected the eggs, it's still another 6-8 weeks before they go back in to cook.
Am hoping it/they can be in for June, I have decide how many to implant too which is a nightmare.
you might have twins with clomid, I've known that happen to two people, imagine

pinkmook · 19/01/2009 19:55

Twins! I am finding it hard to believe I will ever get pregnant ever again to be honest although DH's dad is a twin and my grandmother is a twin, and a fortune teller told me I'd have twins when I tried to concieve agian after my first child!

But I just cant beleive I'll ever get Pg. Ive not even had so much as as chemical pregnancy since the vasectomy was reversed in july 07!!!

Please keep me informed and what its all like as it'll be me soon!

xx

sorrento · 19/01/2009 20:11

I know how you feel hun, I cannot imagine it being real either in all honesty, I keep reading the assisted threads with all the self injecting and hopes being built up and cannot believe it'll ever amount to an actual baby.
as you know my fortune teller said it wouldn't happen so if theyare both wrong and we get a single baby each that would be ok wouldn't it ?

pinkmook · 19/01/2009 20:24

Yeah that would be fine with me !! I know what you mean about the assised conception threads...I try not to look at them at this stage as they get me really depressed. Maybe when I'm further into all this they will be a source of help and comfort but right now they just too depressing for words. Whoever would have believed this could all be happening eh! I certainly never imagined it would be this hard to get pregnant again.

WelshChristmas · 23/01/2009 11:09

hi all, hope everything goes well for you at the consultatns pink. Congrats Sorrento, seems like your well on your way, will keep everything crossed for you.

Pink, things are fine thanks. Have a scan in 3 weeks to find out the sex of the baby can't believe how fast it's going. I'm 18 weeks already !!

I noticed Terrier hasn;t been on lately..Hope things are ok x

sorrento · 23/01/2009 11:33

Oh wow, Linzi I am so excited for you, can you feel any movement yet ?
DH has been offered a job interview for 2 days after his surgery and now wants to put surgery back to MArch, where's the sobbing smiling

pinkmook · 23/01/2009 12:38

Sorrento - oh no! One step forward and all that how frustrating.

Linz - God you'll have had another before I even get pregnant! LOL! Its going so fast !

Terrier - are you there? we miss you xxxxx

WelshChristmas · 23/01/2009 13:36

Oh no sorrento, how frustrating !!! Yes, I have been feeling movement ( bubbling )since around 14 weeks but getting stronger now and starting to feel little kicks during the day occasionally.

Pink, don't say that. I've got ages left yet and I'm sure you're going to get a BFP soon ! But I agree, the time does seem to be flying which has suprised me loads.

pinkmook · 23/01/2009 14:37

Cn I just say I have MASSIVE clomid boobs just been round at my friends and she screeched "oh my god look at your beebs!" when I took off the scarf I was wearing LOL! I'm not pg as temps have been dropping but its fun having big knockers lol!

sorrento · 23/01/2009 14:40

So it's not all bad then Pinkmook ;-)
Have told DH he'd better get the bloody job, no pressure then !
I'm not going to do the egg sharing unless it's somebody I know I can't bear the thought of a knock at the door in 18 years with an unhappy person wanting me to be mum to them so I'd rather know where all my eggs (babies) are and looked after. But of course that now adds £2k to the bill

pinkmook · 23/01/2009 15:35

why can that happen!? I didnt realise that was the case - I had planned on egg sharing! Oh bolleaux

sorrento · 23/01/2009 15:43

Well by law you have to register your details when you donate eggs and up date them with every move, so basically your children don't marry in years to come.
The downside is that the person resulting from donated eggs can request your address and be given it (but not the other way around), whilst you wouldn't just get a knock at the door you could get a letter saying Miss/Mr x has requested your address and maybe in touch and there's nothing you can do about it.
No wonder donations have plummeted.
I would not like it if somebody had been abused or had an awful life and then arrived on my doorstep expecting me to put it right or help in someway, but i'd feel I had to so I'm not going there.

pinkmook · 23/01/2009 16:37

Although I wouldn't do it some could be tempted not to update their details - I presume they cant force you to do this?

pinkmook · 23/01/2009 16:42

just done some reading up on this and you have no legal obligation to any children born from donations and are protected by law. So presumably you cannot have contact forced upon you? They may be allowed your details but have no right to meet you?

sorrento · 23/01/2009 16:42

Well it's the law so I assume there are penalties for not doing so, if they can find you I just felt totally uncomfortable that my eggs could be given to a drug addict or a person who might harm the baby, I know you can't control it but if I didn't know then I wouldn't worry and it seemed to me there was a very real chance that you be told.

sorrento · 23/01/2009 16:47

Sorry hit return, well no you couldn't be forced to sit down and have a coffee but they could knock the door or watch you for weeks and confront you in Sainsbury's or tell my other DC. All just hassel I don't need for the sake of £2k (I think am still hmm and ahhing as I do).

My Aunty had her son adopted in the 70's, he went to a great family but was a bad person, criminal and drug addict and my mum and others welcomed him into the family and looked after him for a few years until he got back onto the drugs and then tried to kill my aunt, uncle and 3 cousins.
Now I know that's extreme but it just worries me if you've had no say in the upbringing of a person and then the appear and claim you as their biological mum you'd want to help them (I think I would anyway) but it could all go wrong, am worrying needlessly no doubt

pinkmook · 23/01/2009 17:14

Its unlikely your eggs would go to a drug addict or anyone like that though isn't it? Most peeople who go down the ivf route, with all the heartache and costs associated are unlikely to be massively unstable types (of course there are exceptions to every rule). And I presume the eggs used at a private clinic would be used with other private patients not packaged up nd used in nhs fcilities?

Plus - when I just filled out my forms for CARE fertility before my appointment next week, part of that was a disclosure form where they can seek info from social services and gp's about your history including any domestic violence, social services involvement, criminal history etc as the new act also means they have a duty to ensure any child born as result of fertility treatment must reasonably be assumed not to be being given to people/families with domestic/social problems or any history of criminality, drug use, abuse, or violence.

sorrento · 23/01/2009 17:18

I assumed that too pink, but no apparently they cannot discriminate against people with all sorts of backgrounds so the eggs could literally go to anyone and again the private eggs can go to the NHS patients, certainly at the Hewitt centre and I would have no control over that.
I'm not trying to put you off because no doubt I am worrying about nothing.

pinkmook · 23/01/2009 19:49

ah but they can discriminate in much the same way that they can discriminate when choosing people who are potential adoptive/foster parents.

The Human Fertilisation and Embryology Act 1990 states that before carrying out fertility treatment a clinic must ?take account of the welfare of any child who may be born as a result of that treatment, (including the need of that child for a father), and of any child who may be affected by the birth?.

This means that before starting fertility treatment the clinic will ask you a number of personal questions, including your age, proof of identity and the medical histories of you and your immediate family. In situations where the child will have no legal father, the clinic will pay particular attention to the prospective mother?s ability to meet the child?s needs throughout childhood. If you refuse permission, this will be taken into account by the clinic in considering whether or not to offer treatment.

I cant see clinics being neglectful because of the huge potential for legal action that must surely exist if anything goes wrong. At least I hope not!

sorrento · 23/01/2009 20:00

Blimey well I shall bring that up with the counsellor who has frightened the life out of me.

kellykateneedsaholiday · 26/01/2009 22:30

Hi
I posted ages ago on this thread and should have been going for consultation for dh op last july, but first appointment was cancelled by cos consultant was ill, then dh changed jobs and didnt want to have to take time off straight away, then i got cold feet about the whole thing.
So now we have saved up the money for op and dh goes for consultation on the 6th feb and im def not changing my mind this time.
now i just need to stop looking at baby clothes etc. dh talked to his boss today and told her he had to go for minor op soon but doesnt have enough hols to take 2 weeks off afterwards (he does a lot of heavy lifting for his work so doc says hell need to take the time off) His boss says that hes to take the two weeks and not come back till he feels ok. he just needs to fit his time off round the other guy he works withs hols (small company, only two of them in his dept)

Im trying not to think about it but theres so many people getting pregnant just now that its not easy.

Congrats on the pregnancy welshlinz and hopefully itll not be long before theres more of us with a bump.

pinkmook · 27/01/2009 18:37

hey girls, just got back from my initial consultation with a private fertility clinic. Was in there for 2 hours, got spend 1 hour with the consultant going through evrything and asking q's, dh had a sperm test with results done there and then (amazing - takes months for same thing on nhs) and basically we are going to have to go for ivf with icsi as DH's sperm are knackered LOL! I am going to egg share so process takes a couple of weeks longer, but omg I cant believe we are moving on. Consultant said for me to stop taking clomid as its not going to work (DH has 100% anti sperm antibodies -ASA - this is from having had a vasectomy - now reversed - his body has seen his own sperm as a foreign body and developed anti bodies which bind to the sperm preventing them from swimming - so at 100% he said its highly unlikey to happen) The nhs consultant told me that the ASA test they did was fine ! Ha! How wrong can you be!

So ladies wish me luck and hey katiek glad you are back on the old reversal train and welcome back, keep us updated !!PM xxxxxxxxxxxxxx

pinkmook · 27/01/2009 18:38

Sorry that should have been KellyK! You know what I meant LOL! xx