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Vasectomy reversal success??

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terrier141 · 13/05/2008 14:40

Does anyone have experience of this? Hubby has just had it done and we are nervously awaiting the outcome!

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pinkmook · 24/12/2008 07:16

Hi Purpledazzle - you must feel devastated but I am pretty sure that t can go from zero to ok. It is something to do with the swelling of the vas following the op which can take a good long time to go down sometimes. My Dh's 1st sperm test at 3 months was about 4.5 mil/ml (i know more than zero) but his subsequent ones were about 11mil/ml at 6 months ish then 15.7 at about 12 months. We are hoping it will increase again.

I do know you have to wait anything from 12 months to 2 years (I think depending on the consultant) to have the op declared a failure - which tells you it can take time sometiimes.

HTH

WelshChristmas · 24/12/2008 15:03

hi purpledazzle, so sorry to hear your news. I used to find a site called ask doctor on vasectomy reversal really helpful. Just type that into google and it should come up. He answers a lot of questions on low / negative sperm counts etc.. and I found most of my answers through that rather than our own consultant ( who was a waste of time ! )

One thing I think he does suggest is if you have had the results done before the 6 month mark, you may be able to improve the swelling of the vas tubes by taking anti inflammatory drugs but PLEASE check it out first to make sure I'm remembering correctly !!

Just remember it's still really early days and we were told by our consultant that some people can get a negative count at 3 months but then go on to have something at 6 months so try and stay positive xx

purpledazzle · 29/12/2008 21:10

thanks for that i need to stay optimistic and not get down about it. have given my boyfriend his marching orders about speaking to the doctor. i know gp's can be rubbish and not know a lot so i have advised him to speak to the consultant aswell. hopefully they can recommend something. I will also do a bit more internet research about it. hope everyone else ok and feeling relaxed after christmas. it goes so quick all that preparation and one day and its over. think i will get vouchers for everyone next year as have been in the shops today and all half price. typical!!!

pinkmook · 30/12/2008 19:54

Glad you're feeling a bit more optimistic purpledazzle - its a bumpy ride isn't it?

Well girls, I went bck to see the consultant today and after I rang up and complained about the horrible guy who I saw last time who shouted at me and they promised not to book me in with him again....guess who walked in when I went for my app!? Yep the horrible doctor I asked not to see again! I can only guess the consultant I did want to see was off for some reason and Ive ended up with him, but it scuppered any chance of getting the questions anwered he wouldn't/couldn't answer last time so I had to make do with getting him to do me a referral letter to private clinic for the next stage...IVF...scary! He also gave me clomid so I'll give that a go and see how mental I can make my hormones (s if they need making any worse LOL)

He lso said DH's anti sperm anti bodies were f9ine i.e there were none - which frankly I dfind very hrd to believe as whats the explanation for the poor morhpology/motility if not antisperm antibodies (and apparently 70% of men with vasectomy reversals have anttisperm antibodies) so it seems ve

Any way hows everyone else?ry unlikely. But I guess I'll have to wait til my appointment with a private consultant in order to get some proper answers He was so annoying this consultant - when I asked for a copy of DH's latest sperm test results he refused to give them to me so I asked him stright - why not and he wouldn't answer just kept shaking his head and sying "no, no,no,no no" arrrrgghh! So I said well Mr Abdo (the first - and nice - consultnt I saw let me have a copy. Then he said OK then I'll let you write them down - and read them to me

pinkmook · 30/12/2008 20:06

why did the second half of my "very" in "very unlikely" end up there!!!?

pinkmook · 04/01/2009 19:03

hello (echoes) where is everyone???????

sunshineday · 04/01/2009 19:11

Hi pink hope you had a good Christmas and new year.

I'm driving dh mad talking about having another baby! ( and baby names) I have even asked him to ring the clinic to see if there are any cancellations he just laughs at me being so inpatient. March seems so long to wait.

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terrier141 · 05/01/2009 11:52

Hi girls, hope you all had a good xmas and new year!

Sunshine - sorry i've not kept up with where everyones at - what are you getting done in March? Is it the VR? If so then March does seem an awfully long time to wait for a private op - think I would be chasing it! Or are you having other tests? Sorry i've just lost track of everyone (how rude of me!)

Well its official ladies - i am well and truly,never ever in a million years gonna get a BFP cos even if the VR has worked (which by the way we STILL dont know cos DH hasnt bothered to have his sperm tests!!), I will never ever get pregnant because you have to have SEX for that to happen!!
Why is it that dh is a randy old goat for the rest of the month, but when it counts, he cant, or cant be bothered (Have experienced both this month!)to perform the necessary!
I have tried not letting him know when Im due to ov - but he seems to know.
We have been down the "do you really want a baby?", "Well do you think I would've gone through the op!" route of arguing, I've cried, I've tried all the tricks of seduction I can possibly dream up (I mean REALLY pushed the boat out!), but he cant (sometimes), or wont (other times!) do the business!
Can you tell im just a little bit pissed off at the moment?!

Sorry girls - rant over!

Hows everyone else bearing up? xx

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sunshineday · 05/01/2009 14:59

I'm sorry terrier this is happening to you. Maybe hubby is reluctant to get a sperm test done in case it confirms his fears of having a low/no sperm count and is worried it will hurt u to much by getting this result? as for bd maybe a week or to rest then try again. lots of positive thoughts and baby dust sent your way

dh vr op is on the 3 march and yes I agree it seems a long wait for a private clinic. dh has been offered a reversal on the nhs just before Christmas but it could take anything from 6-12 months for the op appointment to come through and they dont do the micro surgery. I did a silly thing on ebay to day and got a £5 psychic reading done. she told me she could see no children for me especially over the next 12 months.
not something I would normally do and I have learnt my lesson wont be doing it again, still left me felling a bit flat though.

sorry about the long waffle.

pinkmook · 05/01/2009 16:08

Hi terrier - I have been through very similar times with DH and I got very depressed but then all the other stuff happened with him getting made redundant and it kind of got forgotten about and seems to be ok (fingers crossed!) at the moment. I think this has to be one of the hardest things Ive ever been through and I am guessing you feel similar! Theres no easy answers to any of it I dont think. The only thing I could suggest is completely forgetting about TTC for say, 2 months??? Could you do that?

Well I am suffering the worst headaches ever whilst tking clomid I dont htink it'll work, why would it? But I guess I have to at least give it a shot. DH and I have decided we must now put a time limit on TTC. I really thought i was pregnant this cycle just gone and was really devastated when af came and I just cant go through this indefinitley. In fact I am pretty sure its probably not going to hppen but I will do everything possible before we give up (i.e IUI/IVF) We have decided on no more than 2 years from now - probably more likely 18 months. Then I am going to get a dog instead!! Sounds stupid but it helps me cope.

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terrier141 · 06/01/2009 18:15

Thanks for your support girls - it has really helped cheer me up!

Pink - I know you are feeling quite down about the whole ttc thing, but try to stay positive about the clomid - its definately worth a shot - does sound rather awful though. I can totally understand the time limit thing too and think you are very sensible as it could end up destroying your life if you let it dominate everything forever. I would get a dog anyway though - dont wait - I find my puppy takes up so much of my time and "motherly love!" that it takes my mind off the ttc for much of the day. Im also getting lots of exercise from walking her for 2 hrs a day (have lost a stone since getting her!).
As for the advice you gave me about forgetting about ttc for 2mths - its not gonna happen - cant forget for a day! Though Im less obsessed than in the begining. Dh has returned almost to his usual randy self as he thinks hes in the clear for this month. Probably is anyway as I ov'd on Sat.

Sunshine - chase that clinic!! Surely they cant be THAT busy - make a nuisance of yourself!

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terrier141 · 06/01/2009 18:17

Thanks for your support girls - it has really helped cheer me up!

Pink - I know you are feeling quite down about the whole ttc thing, but try to stay positive about the clomid - its definately worth a shot - does sound rather awful though. I can totally understand the time limit thing too and think you are very sensible as it could end up destroying your life if you let it dominate everything forever. I would get a dog anyway though - dont wait - I find my puppy takes up so much of my time and "motherly love!" that it takes my mind off the ttc for much of the day. Im also getting lots of exercise from walking her for 2 hrs a day (have lost a stone since getting her!).
As for the advice you gave me about forgetting about ttc for 2mths - its not gonna happen - cant forget for a day! Though Im less obsessed than in the begining. Dh has returned almost to his usual randy self as he thinks hes in the clear for this month. Probably is anyway as I ov'd on Sat.

Sunshine - chase that clinic!! Surely they cant be THAT busy - make a nuisance of yourself!

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terrier141 · 06/01/2009 18:19

Dont know why thats on there twice!

Wheres purple?? Hope shes okay xx

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pinkmook · 06/01/2009 19:38

ah well at least he's randy some of the time! I didn't think you'd be able to do the stopping for a couple of months thing Xmas Grin I can very easily remeber how I felt half way into all this (about 9 months ago!) and stopping for 2 months wouldn't have been an option! Its funny but it doesn't seem too hard a thought now...I guess thats good, shows I am moving on a bit and coming to terms with the worst! xx

purpledazzle · 07/01/2009 21:25

sorry havent been in touch lately.
My boyfriend went to the docs yesterday to discuss results but all he said was he has no expertise and to speak to the consultant who did the op. Will try and get him to do this soon. It might not be a total failure as op was only 2 months ago and have heard can take up to 12 months for sperm to return. Might be clutching at straws but i think thats what we all do.

hope everyone else having more luck and terrier men do tend to get scared of being a dissapointment and find it hard to perform under pressure just let him come to you and try bot to let on or tell him you ov just before your af that might fool him.

scotslass82 · 09/01/2009 20:59

Hi all, I've just come across this forum while trawling the net looking for some help and advice on trying to conceive after my hubby's reversal. He's been married before and had a vasectomy when he was 29 and his youngest was under 12 months old. He had his reversal a year and a half ago and we've been trying for around 6 months as the consultant said it would take around 12 months to get back to normal....still no luck I've read loads of websites that say not to worry until you've been trying for at least 12 months but I guess I'm just a bit impatient.....and there seems to be babies everywhere I look! My husband keeps telling me to stop worrying about it so much and just relax...any advise on how to do this would be much appreciated as all I can focus on is how much I would love to get pregnant for both me and my other half!

purpledazzle · 10/01/2009 11:16

hi scotslass

I know how you feel, every time i see a pregnant woman i feel gutted its not me. You say you have been trying for 6 months but it doesnt sound as though your hubby has had a sperm test. they are frre if you go to your local doctors and ask for one. my boyfriend had his reversal 2 months ago and his first semen test came back negative but he is still healing so am not giving up on it just yet. Hope this helps.

scotslass82 · 10/01/2009 14:56

He had a test 3 months after the reversal which showed that it had worked and he had a high sperm count, but they were a bit lazy and swimming in circles...like typical men! We haven't had one since then but if they're free from the gp then I might suggest he goes and has another one done if we've still not made any progress in the next couple of months. It's just so frustrating!

I wouldn't worry too much about your boyfriends results as our surgeon said the same as yours that it could take up to 12 months for things to start working as before. Our surgeon also recommended not to have the first test done before 3 months as it takes around 3 months for everything to have settled down so maybe have another test done in a couple of months time. I'll keep my fingers crossed for you both.

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terrier141 · 12/01/2009 10:26

Hi scotslass - just wanted to say I know how you feel too - so frustrated! I get really upset and irrational and just feel like it will take a miracle!

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LucieLucie · 12/01/2009 12:54

I found you all!

Thanks Terrier and wish u good luck for the results, we will be in the same boat as you very soon.

x

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terrier141 · 12/01/2009 13:32

Hi lucielucie and welcome to the rollacoaster ride that is "vasectomy reversal"! xx

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scotslass82 · 12/01/2009 17:04

Hi Terrier, That's exactly how I feel..totally irrational! Isn't is crap how one quick operation can cause so much worry and upset when peoples life's change. I guess we're all just keeping our fingers crossed for little miracles. Since I first met my husband I've gone from not being sure I wanted a family to not being able to think about anything else...I even have the nursery planned (talk about obsession)! A woman I work with is pregnant at the moment and is less than chuffed at what she calls 'her little accident' I have to bite my tongue to stop myself shouting at her and telling her how lucky she is! I now just avoid her like the plague

WelshChristmas · 16/01/2009 14:29

hi all, hope everyone is keeping ok xx Thread has been a bit quiet these last few weeks so thought I'd drop a line.

Hows everyone getting on ?

WelshChristmas · 16/01/2009 14:30

p.s apologises for the xmas name still

will get round to changing it but for now, I am far too lazy !!

pinkmook · 16/01/2009 15:57

Hi Welsh, goin OK. Got an appointment for private fertility consultant on 27th January so thats something I spose. How are you going on? xx

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