Vasectomy reversal success??

[terrier141]

Does anyone have experience of this? Hubby has just had it done and we are nervously awaiting the outcome!

Oh let me know what they say about egg sharing hun, I still have steam coming out of my ears following my bloody counselling session.
DH's sperm aspiration didn't happen on Monday as he has a job interview tomorrow, have told him not to come home if he doesn't get it so we're back to March for his bit which is cutting things fine to say the least.

Kelly if you find away of stopping yourself looking at babygrows do let me know, I've even been known to buy a few despite knowing I never dress my babies in white once I know what flavour I've got I saw a new Bugaboo in the sale and had to physically remove myself from the shop to stop me buying it

will do sorrento - the consultant was acually quite positive about egg sharing. he did a cost gains thing with me about doing it/not doing it and on the plus side was saying - its a "good" admirable thing to do as well as the obvious financial benefit. Me nd DH dont have any prob per se with someone turning up in 18 yers and have discussed it a bit last night - we would tell DS and any dc that came from ivf when they were old enough that we egg shared and the possibility they have biological siblings somewhere - but the consultant made us feel really good about doing it. It costs the couple having donated eggs and ivf closer to 10 grand so its a really big undertaking for them. xx

hiya i'm a newbie to this site, i've read all through the posts and it sounds great. My partner alan has just had the reversal on 26th jan 3 years after first having the vasectomy done. We already have 2 sons damion who is 8 and michael who is 6. like a lot of people we're regretting having the vas done and really shouldn't taken a rash decision. well thats it about me. Alan is doing well after op he's really sore, really bruised and walking like john wayne lol. Anyway i just wanted to say hi and i hope your all doing well Lv Tessa xxx

Hi Tessa, welcome to the thread, its not terribly busy on here but we re very friendly and check back in on here every few days. Glad your DH's op went well. Good luck TTC

linz and terrier where are youoooo?

Thanks pink, just got letter back from op saying that under are circumstances we have excellent chance at restoring his sperm count. also it says during the operation i was able to rejoin the vas tubes in a very satisfactory manner.the testicular secretions were rather thick and creamy but did contain a lot of dead sperm. the hope is that the fluid will become thinner and allow live sperm to come into your ejaculate when we test it in 3 months time. don't really understand that bit does anyone know what that means... lv Tessa xxx

Hi girls,
Sorry I havent been around lately, but tbh im in a real state at the moment.
Im getting really down about the whole ttc and dont know how much longer i can carry on. Every AF brings with it floods of tears and dh isnt really one for talking about it which doesnt help.
However, dh has FINALLY agreed and committed to have the sperm test done. So after a really stressful time with my gp (who is crap and gave us all the wrong details!) I have booked him an appt at lab for next wed, however we have to wait til Fri 13th (cant mean good news!) to see the gp for the results.
Really dont know what i'll do if its bad news, we cant afford IVF and dont know if I can cope with the reality of never having our own child.
Im experiencing the same issues this month as last with dh i.e in the bedroom and dont know if the excuses he makes are valid or just mean that he doesnt really want a baby. He is now blaming it on alcohol (although he doesnt drink much), but is reluctant to avoid alcohol around ov time. he also smokes which I know cant be helping. Just feel soo frustrated as theres nothing I can do to improve our chances.
Sorry for the depressing rant, but just need to get it off my chest.

Pink - Im glad things are moving forward for you.

Tessa - good luck, sounds promising.

Hi to everyone xx

Oh terrier sweetheart you sound almost exactly like me 6-9 months ago. sex problems - yep, devastated everytime af coomes - yep, obsessing about it and reserching ways to help - yep, feeling hopeless - yep. Its soo so hard to go through this and as you can see I have eneded up in the situation none of us want to be in on this thread - i.e being told it will prob never happen naturally. It's difficult but the oonly way I have founf to help me cope is to set a time limit on how long we will try for and to try and get my head round how life will be without any more dc's.

As for ivf - dont dismiss it out of hand - with egg sharing ours will only cost about £1500. helf the cost of a reversal.

My dh is crap about talking about stuff too and its been very hard with him being made redundant and having to take a very low paid job. he bottles everything up and could tend to become snappy with me as he projected all his anxieties onto to me but try and gently talk to him, you might be surprised. Will he not even consider ivf with egg sharing? It saves so much money and is an amazing thing to do for a woman who cannot produce her own eggs for whatever reason.

Please keep talking to us on here, we miss you and you can rant away! I feel for you i really do as you sound almost exactly like me - I dont give them out much but (((terrier))) have hug xxxxxxxxx

oh god it looks like I cant spell at all in that last message but my "a" key isn't working properly! (researching clearly has an a in it )

Terrier please talk to us and let us know you are ok xxxxxxxxxx

I have to say Terrier this is why I fast forwarded straight to IVF, would he could that as most of the treatment is done to you, I guess he just has to provide a sample.
My thinking was if it didn't work at least I knew there was a end to it, I could have 10 treatments where as this could go for years and years for you guys ?
As pink said egg sharing brings the cost down dramatically.
Skip the mortgage payment for a month that's my plan lol

would he *consider i meant fingers typing faster than brain

Thanks girls,
I think im just being far too impatient and shouldnt even be considering other options yet. Had a good chat to my friend last night and shes really helped me put things into perspective. We had both been ttc for roughly the same length of time and shes just got her bfp! Think thats what got me so down However, she got me to realise last night that it has taken her this long and she is 24 with no fertility issues, so maybe I am being a little unrealistic when the consultant had told us not to expect anything until at least 12mths!
Im just not a very patient person, and because our linz got her bfp after 3mths, just thought the worst because Im still waiting. Think the fact that we havent had sperm analysis done yet and that my dh didnt seem that bothered was just all too much for me and I became an emotional wreck!
I had a good heart to heart with dh last night too and got him to open up a little bit (it was like pulling teeth!), but I feel we are on more common ground now.
So this morning, you will be pleased to hear , that i am now feeling a lot more realistic and less desparate about things.
I have decided to stop looking too far ahead and just wait for the sperm test results (2 weeks) before deciding where to go from there. At least me and dh are talking about it now so thats real progress, although it did take me to have a mini-breakdown for it ti happen!
Anyway, it looks like I should ovulate either today or tomorrow and we managed to bd on wed, thurs, fri, and fingers crossed we will bd tonight and tomorrow too. That fits in quite nicely with his 2/3 days abstinence for the sperm test on wed .

Thank you for your support, its really encouraging. I havent been able to face coming on mn for weeks, but think im back on track now xx

So glad you got to talk to dh and a sympathetic (and very sensible sounding) friend. I really missed you on here (and I'm sure the others did too) and I know how you felt about linz's bfp as it did the same to me.

I think you are right you need to see what the sperm analysis tells you - you might be pleasantly surprised! Make sure you let us know what happens either way xxxxxxxxx

Hi all, subtle name change again !! Wow, lots of developments on the thread. Tessa, welcome and hello again KellyK x

Sorry I've not been around much lately but all is well

Pink, that is fantastic news about the IVF. Bet your really excited and it's great to see things are finally moving forward for you

Terrier, glad too that you're feeling a bit more upbeat x I know my BFP was a blow, even though I know you were all happy for me. Think it made matters worse because my DH was the last to have the op done which doesn't seem fair I know

I have everything crossed that the results come back great for you Terrier. I'm sure you will be much more settled after you just know what the results say. Keep us posted please xx

Hi welsh! glad everything is going well, I was thinking about you the other day and wondering how you are - whens your due date?

Thanks pink - I will be posting the sperm analysis results on here for your opinion as I feel after all you have been through you will probably have a better interpretation of them than my gp - who is quite frankly crap!

Think all this ttc business has left its mark on me though as Im still very tearful and flying of the handle at the slightest thing - Im very irrational still, even though Im feeling more realistic - does that make any sense! Think Im just a bit fragile at the momement, im sure it will pass xx

I have read that much on sperm analysis, I think I knew more than the GP, the consultant and everyone put together LOL! I will happily have a look at them for you terrier. When are they due bck? I will make sure to look on here that day.

I understand what you mean about feeling ok but still fragile, it's process this whole thing and although logically you may have become more relaistic your emotions some times take a bit to catch up! If you get what I mean ??! Its really like a greiving process and sometimes you will get through a stage and then end up going back again and repeating that stage before properly moviing on. Its very hard as well cause you cant really talk to anyoone about it and people dont get how deep the pain is (like they would in bereavement) but keep talking here and we'll all keep listening xx

Oh and Hi welsh! good to see you back xx

Hi

Terrier, I'm fine thanks

My due date is officially 29th June but should be around 22nd because of the c-section. Should find out the exact date at my next consultation appointment though.

Hi welsh, bet you cant wait! I'd love to have a summer baby, cos my 2 are both december babies (one is actually xmas day!) - come to think of it maybe Im only fertile around March time! Lol!

Thanks pink - you are my rock! We get the results on Friday 13th Feb (and my af is due 14th Feb - Valentines day - nice!). Will probably not be one here til the Saturday though cos the gp appointment isnt until 4.50pm and will have dh here. He's not that keen on sharing our private lives with strangers - I dont think he understands the benefits!
I had one hell of a blow out on him yesterday, really let it all out, and now I feel really sorry for him because I realise he is trying his best. Unfortunately I cant help feeling this shit, and sooner or later he needed to know how low Im feeling, so he can try to help me through it. I think that I've just felt like I was doing it all on my own and that he wasnt making an effort or concerned about things. We are united in our misery now - so thats nice! Lol!
Possibly TMI here but any ideas whats going on here? We bd'd last night (cd16) and this morning I have woken up to find myself and my bed (new linen too!) completely saturated in blood. I am still bleeding now though it is quite light. I have suffered cervical erosion in the past (though not for a few years), so Im hoping it is just that. Not very nice though, will have to see gp if it continues.

Hows the weather with everyone? We have a very small spattering of snow, but hardly anything really, but the car wouldnt start this morning and I had to walk the kids to school.. Its a half an hour walk and my dd was almost crying with th cold, bless her. Just hope it doesnt get worse and I have to walk them back home in it!

Slight development here hubby has a new op date of 23rd Feb.
Terrier keep us posted, good things come to those who wait (I'm convinced of it).

Hi sorrento - thats excellent news - things are starting to move forward for you (i'll bet it still seems like a long time away to you though). Lets hope its the start of some good luck for all us deserving ladies on this thread!

Well, today is the day that my dh has to provide his sample. We have had really heavy snow and the schools are still closed. So I've been really anxious (not like me I know!), about will we make it to the hospital, will the appointment be cancelled etc etc! With the school still closed it means dh will have to go alone (I can hardly take 2 dc's with me!), but now hes been called into work!! I've phoned the hospital and the appointment is still on, and my dh has promised me he will make it there!

Hey everyone

Terrier ooooh good luck for you and DH with the test - at least you will have a better idea one way or another whats happening and can act accordingly - thats what Ive found - its better to just know what you are dealing with.

Sorrento - not long now then! Have everything crossed for you.

I am awaiting results from all my tests done on the NHS being sent to CARE and then I have to ring the "egg sharing team" ! eeek and the whole process will begin! Should get a phonecall from nhs consultants secretary by friday to confirm this has been done then its all systems go! Wish me luck girlies!

xx

Yay pink! Thats great news, good luck! xx

hi everyone,
well we went to see the consultant tonight and she said she was happy to do the op and there was a good chance of it being succesful as it was done less than 3 yrs ago etc . then she examined dh and she is pretty sure that it was done with clips and the tubes havent been cut which makes it an easier op.

the appointment for the big day has been made for the afternoon of 11th March. I cant believe its really going to happen but im not letting myself get excited.

Ive just got to phone and check the exact price etc on MOnday as it was too late to do it today and the consultant only deals with her fee, the hospital does the rest moneywise.

terrier- hope your hubby made it yto the hospital for his sample on wednesday.

kellykate thats fantastic news! You will be counting down the days now! Sounds really promising too!! Wont be long!
Yes my hubby made it to the hospital and delivered his sample think he was too scared to come home if he didnt! lol!

Hey Pink - any news?
xx

No news s yet - nhs consultants secretary didn't ring as promised by friday so will have to chase that up on monday ho hum nevermind.

Glad your dh made it to give his sample good luck with the results.

kellykate - sounds great, good luck x