We messed up.

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My fiancé and I don't want any more children, we have 3. The youngest is 2.5 and our home is full our car is full and our budget is stretched to its limit. Tonight just as I was turning over to go to sleep he tried it. I initially wasn't feeling it and said I was too tired, but I changed my mind and we did. Except the condom split. I'm not on any contraception because I have blood pressure issues.

Now I'm awake 3:33 in the morning stressed because our budget is already at breaking point this week we could really do without having to go and get the morning after pill but our third child was not planned and we can't risk waiting to see, I told him I'd check my period app to see the likelihood and it says I'm ovulating and have a high chance.

Not only the cost, but I feel like it's embarrassing going to get it too, especially at my big age. I just wish I'd gone to bloody sleep 🫠 guess I'm just looking for somewhere to write down my thoughts seen as I can't sleep

Oh of course and I'm going to do it, It's just annoying I could have saved myself £30 and a lot of embarrassment if I'd just gone to sleep 🥲 I blame the traitors

I’ve known the Ovulation dates to be way off for people on the tracking apps so take it anyway as you don’t know for sure. If you’re embarrassed do as others have suggested and order it online. You can also choose the unbranded version which is a tenner opposed to £30.

It’s not embarrassing, I got it in my mid 30s.

I've just been having a look, I may need to go to an actual clinic i had a look at ordering online but I weigh more than 13 stone and it says online it may not work if you weigh more than that.

hey OP, when you go to get the MAP i’d see if they have EllaOne specifically, supposed to be more affective + look into gettting the copper coil/iud fitted asap, it’s another form of emergency contraception + doesn’t have any hormones. good luck!

They give you 2 rather than one pill if you are this weight.

Non hormonal coil?? Works fine for me.

I'm so sorry this has happened, how stressful. Not sure why anyone thinks you've been foolish when you used a method of birth control which is 98% effective!

Obviously get the MAP, but if it fails, you have the option of a very early abortion. And DEFINITELY send your fiancée for a vasectomy!

Go to the counter and ask to speak to the pharmacist in private. They normally have a little side room where they do injections. If they ask what it's about say it's about medication but you'd prefer not to say in front of everyone.

OP the morning after pill won't work if you've already started ovulating or already have ovulated!!
A copper coil is the best emergency contraception, suitable for up to 5 days after sex. Not sure where you live but can you get free contraception where you live?

Your partner needs to get a vasectomy ASAP if you're both certain about no more kids. Don't listen to so and so's Mum who's a GP receptionist, get your partner to actually speak to his GP! I have a friend who had a vasectomy recently, not yet 30, and no children.

why dont you get sterilised if you are so sure? I had 3 kids and was sterilised when I was 25, never regretted it for a second

I think your friend said they don't recommend it under 30 because of this in the official guidance:

You can have a vasectomy at any age.
People under 30 are more likely to regret a vasectomy.
Your doctor will talk with you about your situation and can answer any questions you have.

https://www.nhsinform.scot/healthy-living/contraception/vasectomy/
https://www.bpas.org/more-services-information/contraception/vasectomy/

So it's not that he can't, just that they probably recommend people to wait till 30 to avoid regret. But since he already has children it shouldn't apply.

Don't feel silly or bad OP, not your fault the condom broke. And the pharmacists are normally discrete giving you the morning after pill.