THE DINO CLUB #1

[Lila34830]

Follow up of the two following threads of TTC Baby number 1 🦕🦖

You're all so nice 🩷
I have not tested girls, I am 10 dpo I think, day 30 of my cycle and AF due Saturday. I am waiting for the pre mom tests and holding my wee 😂

@Lila34830 eekk that’s willpower!!! Hope you see 2 pink lines when you manage to test 🤞🏼🤞🏼. Xx

Well it's not so much will power as my tests haven't arrived 🤣🤣🤣
I'll let you know. I will try and hold off until tomorrow if I can !

@Lila34830 yeah im hoping that by seeing the EPU they will see this kinda thing all the time and maybe not be to brash! I actually cried when he told me the test was negative, I didn’t understand how it could be and obviously thought in that moment everything was over and the spotting was about to change to normal flow😢

@Gemmaemilyx thank you that story is actually reassuring as I wondered what would happen when chances are my scan won’t show anything as I’ll only be 5+1 on scan day from ovu and 5+5 based on LMP.

@Toppstileslover So pleased to see your two lines!!! Congratulations!!

Thank you ladies 🩷 I don’t think it’s sunk in! I wanted to come and tell you immediately when I did the FRER one last Saturday but I know these things aren’t always guaranteed and have to manage my expectations!

So this month if you remember I didn’t track at all because I wanted a month off / we were on holiday on the week before Flo thought I would be ovulating (which I thought was always a bit late). I only did the CB Smiley tracking the month before and was much earlier! We (very unusually!) DTD every day - OH is convinced it was this extra effort.

In short, don’t know how many dpo. I was 3 days before I was due on AF… so about 12? Maybe you should try tomorrow? ✨✨✨✨✨✨ really want this for you!

@Lila34830 oh no I didn’t realise you were totally out of them 🤣🤣🤞🏼🤞🏼🤞🏼 when you do one xx

Morning ladies, thank god it’s Friday!!

@Lila34830 have you tested this morning?! Holding out hope over here for you 🫶🏻

Happy Friday ladies 🩷
Haven't tested yet as I felt a bit poorly last night and this morning I had to rush to work as I was late so I shall let you know this evening or tomorrow !
Tomorrow AF is due so I guess a test will be more relevant too now !

I also wanted to touch base on something, has any of you felt very conflicting emotions at the thought of being pregnant ? As in pure joy but also worries such as finances (we are comfortable so idk why I worry that much), or the thought of not being just the two of you with your partner ever again and being scared of it ? Or thinking would I be strong enough to handle a baby ? I have beaten myself up for having thoughts like this popping up in my mind thinking that I am a bad person. And I just wanted to get it out there as I know our group is a judgement free club.

Fingers crossed!!

Yes, definitely. The fact our whole life, routine ect will change forever is very overwhelming to me.. I worry how my OH will also manage this too as I feel men don’t always understand the gravity of it. Don’t feel bad for these feelings it’s completely normal, there’s not much else that could have such a huge impact on your life!

@KT199 I am so glad that you are feeling the same, although obvs you are pregnant and not me, but I feel like as women we are expected to embrace something like this without flinching or second guessing when in fact it is massive. It makes me feel better because I have been battling with this from the start of my ttc journey. But I guess there is no such thing as readiness when it comes to having a baby. No one is ever fully ready !

@Lila34830 your feelings are totally valid. Even now with baby #3 hopefully en route I worry about finances and the strain with my husband and if we’ve done the right thing(obviously I’m so happy and love it already but it is a worry!!) . I know for a fact though when we all have our little dino babies in our arms all those worries melt away 🥰🥰 xxx

@Lila34830 hope you’re feeling better today!

I totally get those feelings, I worry all the time that I won’t love the baby as much as I love my OH even though I know I will once it’s here. I think because we are such a close couple it scares me the change in dynamic but I think everyone must have those feelings!

finance is deffo a big thing too, we’ve worked out so many times how we are going to afford it etc but then I also think there are people in a lot worse position that we are that have children and live a great life so surely we would too.

Try not to beat yourself up too much about it! Xx

I feel you on this one 🙋🏻‍♀️
I've always had conflicted feelings about starting a family, I'm an only child and I've never grown up around babies/children so I've always struggled with feeling like I lack that maternal instinct. I'm really not a fan of kids 😆😆 I like my own space and independence, I don't like having too much responsibility, I have two cats and even having to get them looked after when we go on holiday is a headache 😅
I love that DH and I have the luxury of freedom. We had a big conversation about this before we started trying. I also have Bipolar disorder and so I was always worried I would have to cut meds etc. Or that my hormones are going to run exceptionally wild and put me in a dangerous position mentally.
I also have struggled back and forth with the thought of birth defects and genetic abnormalities due to my age, I don't know if I'd be a strong and patient enough person to cope with a child that had really in depth additional needs.

So yes there have been a few times I've asked DH if he'd have a happy life just the two of us (and his response yes ofc) - I think he's just very the same as me, he'd like to have a little mini version running around but if it doesn't happen, for whatever reason, he's happy with the other path we take too. Both great adventures just different! 😊

Sending 🥰 to everyone and their different stages! Still lurking watching every moment 😁

@littlebluu thank you for being so open and honest ! 🩷
It makes me feel good to see that for some of us it feels equally exciting and scary !
I think I'm out this cycle as I feel AF coming ! I will take a little break from the club for a week, have a bit of a breather and come back more positive than ever 😌 x

This is very normal and after telling you guys yesterday I did have our first headbutt over this already! I am such a raging feminist and I’ve worked so hard (plus I’ve just been offered my dream job) — I just don’t see myself having anywhere like a year off (I have a lot of very close colleagues in America who are back at 12 weeks! I’m up for that) I also have no plans to breastfeed and want to book in a c section asap 😂

I do really want a family, I know some will find this selfish. I respect earth mothers (lots of my friends are), but it’s the reason we’ve waited until we are 37 to even start trying. I totally empathise with @littlebluu - I feel the same.

know this sounds silly but I think for us having our dogs helps as we do have to think about something other than us (and they’re the same price as nursery 😂)

anyway hubby is very supportive I just think about it a lot. Holidays are the main one - I’ve accepted no long haul anywhere in Asia or America for a very long time but it’ll happen again one day. I also have horses so that’s a huge personal sacrifice as I’ll need to stop riding (and carry on paying for them) modern wo-man!

I appreciate this sounds precocious but everything we have we’ve worked for. Im not from money and im always afraid of losing it (or being dependent on husband!)

You’re not out until you’re out! Will keep checking in on you (also I have no idea what to do and want you all to come with me 😂😂😂) I actually think I’m going to wait until after Xmas to have a blood test with the doctors (prob won’t get one before)

@Toppstileslover I have quite a big career too, am not attracted in breastfeeding at all and won't take a year off because I earn way more than my husband so we couldn't survive 😂 ! 6 months would do ! I totally get you ! Do whatever feels the best for you !!!

I feel like finances on maternity leave is SO hard. I’m on a good wage but maternity pay is so poor. I work in the NHS so it’s much better than some people’s maternity pay but it’s still not great so I wouldn’t blame you going back pretty sharpish!

We currently live in a 2 bed flat (12yo boy and 3 yo girl sharing with baby due in August) and we’ve just been accepted for a 3 bed house today 🙌🏽🙌🏽 it’s made my year! We get the keys on Christmas Eve! But at least there’s going to be more room 😮‍💨

I think there’s so many worries and tbh everyone has them and none of us should feel guilty for that.

No amount of planning could ever prepare you for the way a baby changes your life is what I truly believe. There will be some adjustments you can make prior and saving money which will help.. but honestly I don’t think anyone has a baby and just thinks “ah yeah so easy”

As women we’ve got careers we want to go back to, along with the fact our bodies will have been through so much and the mental side of it all too.. but despite all that I do think it truly will be one of the most rewarding and amazing things in the world to give birth to a baby and raise it with my OH 😊

I agree with all of you, at the end of the day what truly matters in a journey like this one is doing what's best for oneself ! And you're all doing fab 🩷

AF showed up right on time on my side, so I'm gonna take the week to rest and do some much needed self care before I get back in the game !

Have a fab weekend all 🩶

Aww @Lila34830 I was so hopeful for you. Hopefully a bit of a break and a nice Christmas will do you good and give you a distraction xx

@Lila34830 sorry to hear AF showed. Some self care sounds good, take care of yourself xxx

Sorry AF arrived! Sounds lovely to unplug and relax for a week and then it’ll be almost Christmas too!! ❤️🥰

Hi Dino's! Hope everyone is well and it's smooth sailing thus far!
No trying this cycle for us, between DH working away and me developing some sort of flu we've missed our window over the weekend.
Still haven't ovulated but had alot of CM this morning so I'm assuming it'll be happening in the next 24hrs, however DH is currently up in the Highlands until Wednesday and by then I'm sure it'd be too late, even if I was healthy by then 😅😅

In a way I'm glad we didn't force it between us being shattered/ill/had a night out in Edinburgh with lots of drinks and food so on Sunday we were burst and I think sex was the last thing on our minds 😆 It gives us a little break at least over Xmas, which I think is a good thing because my TWW/test day would have been Xmas day 😅😅 Nothing to put you in a bad mood like a negative test on Xmas day!!

So our next trying cycle will be Jan, although we'll see how that goes since we'll be in the throws of moving into our house 😬
I'm kind of at the point I really don't want to force it when we have other things to deal with, I'd rather focus on baby making when we're both feeling relaxed and at ease.

Also, went for a smear on Friday and the nurse had asked me if I was referred to the pre-conception team due to me previously having T2 diabetes (now pre-diabetic) and having high blood pressure (because of my weight no doubt) and also with my age etc. So she's gone ahead and referred me, she says I should meet the criteria to have bloods etc taken. So that was a real weight off my shoulders because I was planning to ask about all this after our 6 months of trying! I think I've realised I have either a long follicular phase or short luteal phase, from what I've gathered on Google I think it may be my progesterone levels. So let's hope I can get all of that checked in the next couple months!

Thanks for reading my novel 😅
I just wanted to check in and catch up as I've been lurking and probably will continue to be since this is a no trying cycle.
I'm so excited to see all of your progresses tho! And 🤞🤞🤞🤞🤞 for those of us still trying!

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Hi @littlebluu ! I read your novel with interest haha
We are in the same boat funnily enough I have decided to take a little ttc break of a couple of months just to focus on other things and relax for a bit !
I also want to get a couple things in order before ttc again and amongst that my mental health as I had a very tiring and of year with a surgery and an infection on top of it, it makes sense for me to relax and take a step back! I guess my eggs aren't going anywhere 😂😅

I'm glad you've been referred ! I'm also aiming to getting back to my fitness level in Jan ! I've missed the gym so much !
Let us know how the bloods go !

Sending love to you all 🩷

Hey ladies! @littlebluu @Lila34830

I would have also taken a break this month if we was ttc!! So good to reset, recharge and come back afresh.

I can confirm seeing them two lines is more stress inducing than even ttc, which I couldn’t have imagined when we was ttc!!

Following my bleeding last week I had a scan with EPU Sunday, they think I am measuring behind where I thought as they could only see a gestational sac and potentially a yolk sac but it was too small to confirm. I can’t understand how my dates could be behind when I had ovulation confirmed on an ultrasound and based my dates off of this not LMP.. I’ve to be rescanned Xmas eve to confirm whether or not it is progressing as expected so currently not hopeful at all as I was certain on my dates and don’t know how I’m going to function on Xmas around family if the scan does give us the bad news. Gosh what a journey 😔

Anyways, I hope you have a lovely Xmas and that 2025 is the year you become dino mums! Sending love ❤️