TTC Sept 2024

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Moving over from lurking on TTC Aug 2024, as AF just arrived yesterday. Anyone else joining?

Was supposed to say but during my fertile window not hit

@EagerBiscuit yup totally feel this - cycle 4 of TTC again since my most recent MMC in May.

It's the worst. And I know it's really early days. Some have been on this journey for years but in struggling this month. Feel like everyone is pregnant or has a newborn.

I've began looking at events/dates and think.. will I be pregnant then or will I have a baby then. Heads all over the place.

I actually thought I was being stupid feeling like this 🙈

I need to get my mind occupied on other things..and maybe get a nice surprise ✨️🤞🏼

@HopefulSS Makes sense! That’s essentially what I’m doing this month. Just every other day/whenever we fancy.

@EagerBiscuit I know how you feel! We have booked 2 gigs for Jan and March because most I would be is 6 months pregnant but now we want to book a festival for June but we could be full term/with a newborn. But also we might not… and could just be disappointed with no plans

I’m so sorry, that must have been especially tough after seeing a heartbeat. Even though it’s early, you’ve already imagined a life for that baby and it’s hard to let go. I found it was an emotional and hormonal rollercoaster… I’m so sorry you had to go through that twice.

@EagerBiscuit thing is, no matter how long your been trying it still cuts as deep when you get your period!

I'm the same, I keep looking at my calendar thinking oh will I be drinking on that holiday or on that night out! It's hard not too.

My only bit of advice I can offer is to just book everything you want regardless of whether you may be pregnant or not. I tried to conceive a few years back with an ex, he had sperm issues & it never happened for us (thankfully now) but I put my life on hold, didn't book things, didn't drink, didn't want to commit to certain activities just in case... it was 18 months of pure torture.

This time with my partner who I know is my life partner, I have booked lots of things in and I will attend everything and book anything I like.... because it may not happen & id rather not have put my life on complete hold for a year or so.

@CosmoMango exactly. I may try the SMEP method but il see how I feel, I just don't want to try too hard as il obsess more I think 🫣

@HHopefulSS @CosmoMango

Thanks for your support. I definitely need to start living and see what comes my way. 💖😊

I tried for Oasis tickets and when I didnt get them thought...oh well maybe I'll have something more special to look forward to 😅 took the sting out of not getting them after queuing for hours.

@EagerBiscuit Haha exactly! You have to find the small wins. I've spent the last hour researching statistics of getting pregnant at 35. Well apparently 45% get pregnant in 3 months and 65% get pregnant in 6 months and 82% in 12 months. I suspect I have a few months is disappointment yet before I get my BFP!

Hey everyone, just jumping on this hope that’s okay. I’m TTC #2 first baby conceived very easily - this time round doesn’t seem to be that easy. The dreaded time of the month is due tomorrow (according to app) and i am feeling the odd slight period cramp 😓😥 never had this the first time as i say it just happened to it feels disappointing. I struggle with worry and anxiety too so i’m really trying not to get too worked up about it and just go again next month!!

Sending lots of love to those struggling this month with TTC. I weirdly found last month (our 1st cycle trying for #2) really hard. Which was weird because it took us 4 months to conceive #1, and I thought that was pretty fast! This cycle I feel much more myself and able to distract myself. I’m also just continuing to live normally and enjoy myself during this TWW. We’re on holiday this week which helps, and when we get home I’ll be 11dpo. Debating testing that day or waiting til Monday which will be 12dpo. I got my BFP at 12dpo last time

@MrsKurz thank you! I hope you have a good holiday and you get your BFP when you land! I'm away as of Saturday and AF is due Sunday. I pretty much know there's not hope this month so I have started to mentally move on from this cycle. Cycle one for me has been hard so onwards and upwards for cycle 2. Strange how the first cycle is so hard?

its weird isn’t it! I think it was just my brain being so hyper focussed on this “new” thing, and now it’s a bit more of a normal nervous/excitement. I’m nowhere near needed to worry about anything yet, so trying to not let myself go down that path

Welcome @AmberM223! Have you experienced any other symptoms or tested at all during the TWW?

Hello All,

I wanted to join in on the TTC community. I joined back at the beginning of the year and fell pregnant in April. Unfortunately lost the baby at 19 weeks after a year and a half of trying 😣. I wanted to join in with you in the TTC conversations as it definitely makes you feel less lonely and more bareable ❤️ everyone always supports each other which is so nice.

i hope you all get your positive results soon I really do. I understand how torturous the 2WW is xxx

@MrsKurz yeah I think you are so right! It's like it's a novelty to start with and you obsess over it and then you eventually calm down. I'm looking forward to starting my next cycle and feel a bit more positive now. I agree, before 6 months there is no need to even consider going to see anyone and the nearing a year is when you probably want to think about it. Il have been trying 6 months come Jan and because I have a slightly lower AMH I will get my OH sperm tested straight away if it's not happened in 6 cycles as I don't have time on my side if we want a couple of kids

I am so sorry you went through that, that is so cruel and so sad. I hope you are able to carry on TTC and you get your BFP asap!! ♥️

I hope AF doesn't show for you x

@EagerBiscuit I feel this! It's so hard to plan for the future when you have no idea if you'll be pregnant!
We have usher (lol) in April and I'm like will I even be able to go?
And we want to books Nashville for my partners 30th but I'm like I can't go if I'm pregnant! But then if I don't book it and I'm not pregnant then we've missed the opportunity to go! It's so hard

@rebecca199 I've started just booking absolutely everything because so far it's been a 7 year journey and I refuse to miss out anymore because of "what ifs" 🤣 still annoys me when I do miss out, for example I was meant to be doing a fitness competition but couldn't because of one of my miscarriages happening, but I think you just have to carry on as though you won't be pregnant to avoid missing out on the fun stuff in life. Just have good travel insurance lol

Hi can I join. I'm TTC number 2 I have a 4 year old. I had a miscarriage at 10 weeks in August. I conceived on the first proper cycle after stopping contraception but it took 8 months to change my meds so that I could TTC so it feels like we have been planning number 2 for a life time!

I'm currently cd7 after my first period post miscarriage. Previously I have been test averse. I have a tendency towards obsession so I have avoid tests and only ever done a since pregnancy test both times 5 days late. I am trying to stay all cool and relaxed about things but there's the temptation to diving into monitoring everything that can be monitored! 2 weeks before my period I noticed egg white like discharge and an increase in libedo so I think I might have ovulated then. I'm hoping to spot the same this month.

Thank you to everyone who responded yesterday. I retested this afternoon with a stronger line (first pic shows 10 dpo and 11dpo AM/PM progression) and 2 BFPs on digitals. Cautiously optimistic at the moment as it’s still very early on. In disbelief that it’s our month to share the good news.
Things we did this cycle:
tracking bbt & ovulation tests
bd’d 3 days before ovulation, day of and day after ovulation
used preseed for the first time (I have a feeling this helped us as I don’t produce much EWCM)
I stopped drinking after ovulation

This is my first time being pregnant so feeling a bit overwhelmed. The only family I have close to us in are my brother and sister in law who had a miscarriage recently so my heart is breaking for them and I’m somewhat dreading when we need to share the news with them :(

hoping everyone on this forum gets their bfp soon xxxxx

@Renee33 Hello!! No i haven’t tested at all - was trying to hold off as long as i could! I don’t seem to have any symptoms, apart from an horrific spotty chin?? never get spots and i look like a teenager!!
First time round i had bad bad ache and really sore boobs :( - but not sure if your bound to get the same symptoms each time!!
Really praying!

So sorry you went through that