Long time trying club

[Stillwinston]

Welcome to the club that nobody wants to be a member of....just looking for others who are in a similar boat to me and fancy a safe space to moan and get some support.

For my part, we're currently TTC no.2 but have now been trying for 3 years, I had a MC in August 2022 but haven't had even a whisper of a line since then. Even though every month I know my tests are going to be negative I still stupidly get my hopes up and then feel crushed all over again - I'm the personification of that quote about insanity, doing the same thing over and over but expecting a different result 😂 we had a chat with a fertility clinic last week so are likely starting treatment in the next couple of months though I'm hoping beyond hope that we can conceive before then as it's so crazy expensive!!

Anyway, hopefully there are some others out there that can relate and understand the pain of the never ending 2WW 😩

@Beginningless I'm totally with you on the scepticism and I'd be thinking the same as you tbh - I really wish I could get into things like acupuncture but I just can't relax myself enough to just go with it. Maybe forgo the supplement they've given you but continue doing the acupuncture and see what happens, you've got nothing to lose from that point of view 🙂

Ah, so sorry to hear AF also arrived for you @curliegirlie, hope you're looking after yourself ❤️

Realise that this thread has been quiet for a while but just wanted to update - received our test results today and it's not good news. Husband's sperm count was almost 0 and of the few that were identified, most had extremely poor motility and morphology; consultant has said that ICSI is our only option but we need to go for genetic and hormonal tests to try and identify the cause for the low sperm count. Absolutely gutted but at least we now know there's something going on which is outside of our control - hoping the rest of you on this thread have better news and luck on your TTC journeys ❤️

It's great you have a answer yes! Unexplained infertility is such a mindfk. Your partner could have a Varicocele or Antibodies attacking his sperm, you will sort this issue out don't worry xx

@Stillwinston I'm sorry to hear this but also glad for you that you have answers and something can be done. Have they given you an idea of how long to wait until the next steps now?
How do you feel about things now knowing this?

Still no bfp for me, I have had lots of tests now and everything has cane back good and I am definitely ovulating every month, so no clue why things haven't happened but we have decided we are going to have a cut off where we stop trying (maybe 6 months).

until then we are doing the relaxed thing bunoproperly not trying for the first time ever, I mean not just stopping opks and bbt, also not tracking when my period is or using apps or anything, so although I could figure it out if I needed to, I have no idea what cd I am on exactly and that's how I am going to do it each month from now, it feels good so far and hoping it really pays off in the 2 weeks before af where I would normally be up to high dough analysing what dpo and what imaginary symptoms I have. Lol.

How is everyone else doing? x

@Stillwinston sorry for the result, but also glad you got some answers if that makes sense! Hopefully you don't have to wait too long for the additional tests. How are you feeling now the news is settling in?

I'm just coming off my period, onto my 4th cycle since my most recent miscarriage. I'm feeling pretty anxious and deflated. Even the nurse at my HSG said they are always hopeful for people in the months following the procedure as it seems to solve the issue for a lot of women. This will be month 3 since, just doesn't feel like it's going to happen. I'm also doing some really deep soul searching around IVF. I am getting close to confirmation that I just don't want to go through it, especially if no cause is determined for my losses as I'd be too afraid of another loss as I have no proof it won't happen again. Which I think I can deal with if I conceive naturally but not after doing IVF.

So yeah, feels like a big crunch time currently. This month we should also get our genetic blood test results back which will tell us if either of us is a carrier of any issues causing the losses. It's unlikely to be the case, but at least it's another test ticked off.

Feeling particularly jealous currently of those who have an easy ride to parenthood. As if being a parent isn't hard enough without having to go through all this first just to even get there!