Long time trying club

[Stillwinston]

Welcome to the club that nobody wants to be a member of....just looking for others who are in a similar boat to me and fancy a safe space to moan and get some support.

For my part, we're currently TTC no.2 but have now been trying for 3 years, I had a MC in August 2022 but haven't had even a whisper of a line since then. Even though every month I know my tests are going to be negative I still stupidly get my hopes up and then feel crushed all over again - I'm the personification of that quote about insanity, doing the same thing over and over but expecting a different result 😂 we had a chat with a fertility clinic last week so are likely starting treatment in the next couple of months though I'm hoping beyond hope that we can conceive before then as it's so crazy expensive!!

Anyway, hopefully there are some others out there that can relate and understand the pain of the never ending 2WW 😩

Stupid autocorrect - hubby is taking proxeed

October will be 2 years of trying for first baby. Total of 24 cycles now. I conceived in December but miscarried in February. I’m on cycle 7 since then and 3dpo today. I haven’t been even tracking ovulation because I’m exhausted from all of this.

Hi @emmatcc1 and welcome. So sorry to hear about your struggles, it took me 2 years to conceive our son and tbh I'd completely resigned myself to IVF and that's when I fell pregnant so hopefully your relaxed attitude will help 🤞🏻 have you been for any tests? Sending lots of baby dust your way ❤️

@Stillwinston agree about the clomid!

My colleague said acupuncture is the only thing that helped her. She was on the waiting list for IVF with her first (no idea how long she was TTC but assume well over a year) and she fell pregnant. She then got pregnant really quickly with her second.

No, no point in any tests as we can't afford the private IVF route....ultimately this one's down to nature (she's obviously telling me loud and clear it's a waste of time and I'm clearly not listening...).

I might try and gather my strength to get rid of the outgrown clothes if I'm not successful this time round. I'm CD22 but no idea what's happening this cycle as never got a proper positive OPK. At first I was thinking maybe I ovulated early as I got a couple at 0.2 something (so looking like it was creeping up or down) on CD13, but nothing darker and negative cheapies and Boots tests so far. If I ovulated early I could be due on Thursday, or a week's time if it's my more standard cycles

Oh I feel you @curliegirlie, we're committing to one round (and we're going to have to live off beans on toast for the next 5 years to pay for it) and then we'll be done as it's just too painfully expensive to justify.

Tbh, I wouldn't place much against those ovulation tests anyway, the consultant told me that she always has women tell her that they've had a positive OPK and the when they scan them they can see that it's completely incorrect and they've either already ovulated or are days away from it. Hopefully being a bit more laissez-faire about it will help 🤞🏻🤞🏻

I had Hycosy, AMH and SA back in April, everything was normal, other than my ovary. AMH 11 which a little low but seems normal for my age (38).

I've also been having acupuncture in the meantime, so far no results but it has definitely helped me with stress and plan to continue with it through IVF.

Hey ladies!! Can I join? I’m a mum of a 13yr girl. Swore I didn’t want anymore as it was so traumatic in various ways and I had to do it all alone.
then last year things started going weird and I got scared I was going into early perimenopause. so we decided to start trying. No answers from the docs on anything "because I’m only 33 and of course I could not be" also used to have a copper coil that I had for combined time of 12 years. Been trying a year without even a sniff of a line.
always had super heavy periods and now next to nothing since having coil removed. OH sperm count is low and I’m not sure there is enough of a lining in me for anything to implant anyway. Feeling lost, alone and a wreck. This has been harder than anything I had imagined.
currently 8dpo but feel already out as I think we missed the window due to ill health. Got one heart in on estimated O day but I think by then it would be too late.
worry for all the Info 🙈 good to get it all out you know

Hi, took me 7 years to conceive my second which I finally did at 41. Wishing you all the luck.

Spotting has started so I'm almost certainly out once again 🤦🏼‍♀️😭 large glass of wine needed tonight methinks!

Amazing @Imalittlewitch 😀 thanks so much for the positive story, it's always nice to hear about success; you must have been so overwhelmed after waiting all that time ❤️

Welcome @Duckgirl - wish you didn't have to be part of this club though 😕 your journey sounds very tough and it's so frustrating when doctors dismiss your concerns because you don't fit the stereotype that they're working to 🙄 I also have fears that I'm perimenopausal so hopefully will get some answers in a couple of weeks when we go for our tests. Have you looked into fertility treatment at all?

Sending lots of positivity and baby dust your way ❤️

Think I'm definitely going to look into acupuncture though I can already see myself disbelieving it and not being able to relax 😂🤦🏼‍♀️

@Stillwinston thank you for the welcome!
i feel so silly, i said to my best friend this time last year that we would be starting to try and by this time next year i could be preggo or even have a baba. I didn’t say, maybe if he loosing my mind day by day. it’s such a drain. And every month I swear I’m going to play it cool and just take it as it comes. Aim to focus on my good health and working towards being even more healthy and yet the second we get to 6/8dpo boom!!! 💥 I’m right back in the emotions.

Sending love to all you on here. It’s a rough road to walk x

I think this is the one place where we can all relate to the perpetual urge to test and subsequent disappointment, why we do it to ourselves I'll never know 😂 hoping that this thread magically becomes super lucky and we all get our BFPs soon ❤️

@Stillwinston

In terms of relaxation I found it to be the same as having like 10 massages. However it could simply be just having 30 mins lying on a bed with no one expecting anything from me. I'm on my 3rd cycle since starting it now.
I don't believe in it much either but it's feeling like I'm doing something. Also as I'm 99% sure my issue is physical rather than egg quality or hormones it probably wouldn't make a difference whereas IVF certainly will.

@Stillwinston sorry to hear spotting has started. I hope you had lots of wine! I think I'm 10DPO and I have all my usual AF symptoms plus burning up so pretty sure I'll be joining you on the wine soon!

Hi OP! I am 38 too and have a history of unexplained infertility. We were TTC 7 years before doing 2 unsuccessful and 1 successful IVF rounds.

We are thinking about TTC no.2 now too and I am excited, anxious and slightly terrified as 1st pregnancy took a massive toll on my mental and physical health. So before we can actually start, I need a health MOT, better food and rest and build up some strength. Anyone else here have a toddler with broken sleep & have fatigue from it??

Hello, hoping I can join too 🙂 ttc #3 for 2 years next month, had 2 mmc in that time, am currently 6dpo on cycle 13 since the last loss. I am 3, find it funny typing my real age because in real life I have been telling everyone i'm 26... been 26 for a long time now must change it to 27 soon 😂)

Still very hopeful all the time but also have a feeling of "after so long, could it ever really happen" x

Please can I join too? Also secondary infertility.

Trying for 18 months. I'm 36 and DS has just turned 3. He was conceived naturally but took almost a year.

Have recently found out DH has a low sperm count and poor morphology so waiting to find out if the recommendation is go straight to ICSI or we can do some other things first.

I know its not the same as Primary but Secondary infertility is so hard. I constantly stress about the age gap/ him being lonely when he's older!

Also my period is 3 days late but I've had horrible cramping so sure it's just my body playing up.

@Fairy0708 Will keep everything crossed for you 🤞🏻I think it's the fact that the whole thing is so visceral that it's that much harder to deal with every month. Hope you're doing ok ❤️

@Wobblyheart @Ladyinpink1 @Allswellthatendswelll welcome 😁 really glad you've joined us though sorry you're all having to go through this too.

@Wobblyheart how amazing that you got you LO after such a long and difficult journey ❤️ I completely understand why you must be nervous about this 2nd time round, especially with a toddler - fortunately my son now sleeps through so I'm afraid I don't have any tips. I would just say to try and relax and rest whenever you can.

@Ladyinpink1 so sorry to hear about your MMCs, have you had any tests or investigations done at all?

@Allswellthatendswelll your experience sounds exactly the same as mine, we're also just about to start tests to determine whether ICSI or just standard IVF. And I completely understand what you mean about how hard secondary infertility is, you feel guilty for feeling so upset about it when you've already been lucky to have 1 child yet the yearning never goes away. Sending lots of positive vibes your way - have you tested at all?

@Stillwinston I'm so sorry re the spotting, it's rubbish isn't it? Sending a big hug your way and lots of luck to everyone here 💕

Thanks @HappySquid - strangely though the spotting has stopped and now I'm 3 days late. Tests are negative so it seems my body is now playing tricks on me 🙄

How's everyone else doing?

Same boat as you!! Ttc for 3 years now also for a second! My dd is 5, secondary infertility is so tough 😫 2 failed ivf rounds aswell, upped my doses of ubiquinol and mnm in hopes I'll fall pregnant naturally before we go off and spend the last of our savings on round 3..
How old is your 1st?