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been ttc#1 forever (and a bit longer) ....

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nomoremagnolia · 15/04/2008 19:00

Thought it was time for a new thread - we're almost out of room on the original one

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gillydaffodil · 24/07/2008 20:24

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nomoremagnolia · 24/07/2008 20:43

Rah that's nothing (your DH's driving 'offence') I was being cagey in case he'd been drink driving / driving excessively fast (which both make me ) but what else was he meant to do??
Gilly so glad you're getting an extra go - and no need to worry about getting BFP just as you start your new job either
Hi to everyone else

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Ready · 28/07/2008 20:41

So much catching up to do? I?m sorry I have not been about much lately, I have been busy with work, which is good because I was worried that it wouldn?t be challenging enough. My concern is that it?s only busy because people are off sick/on holiday ? but I am not going to worry about that now, but enjoy being busy, busy, busy!!

So how is everyone doing? How great is the weather?

Herbaceous, congratulations on your new job!! Perhaps this is the start of a wonderful run of good luck for you? ? Very intrigued as to which magazine? do you accept copy from freelance writers? I am doing a creative writing course at the moment, and it would be totally freaky if I will be sending manuscripts to you in the future. Eek.
Not sure what to tell you about your periods really, in my experience, as I have got older, my periods have got shorter ? but my mum said that the same happened to her, and it seems to be normal for some people. I usually have a couple of days of full on bleeding, then it slows down to light flow for the last 2-3 days, sometimes not a great deal.

EachPeach, how are you flower? I hope you had a lovely holiday? When do you see your gp? It?s great that your dh wants to go with you
My PCT only offers IVF, as a rule, it offers IUI in cases where patients have a strong issue with IVF, so it is something to think about. The only problem with that is, if I push for IUI because of an IVF phobia, I doubt that they would then let me go on to have IVF if IUI failed. Time is on our side though, we don?t have to make any decisions yet.

Nomore, big hugs chick! How are you feeling? Please don?t give up. You just don?t know what life is going to throw at you next. I totally understand what you mean about the cost of IVF. That is something that I often think, it?s a hell of a lot of money for something that has such a low % of working ? it is hard to swallow. Me personally, I am not sure I would be willing to pay for IVF privately. I might feel differently when the time comes, but right now, I don?t think I could. How much is IUI?

Rah, oh babe, it breaks my heart to see all the in your posts. I really hope that we all get our babies soon, we certainly deserve it. I hope that your IVF in September is a huge success ? it has to be!! Make sure that you are mentally prepared for it, just forget about everything and everyone else when you are going through the treatment and just focus on the goal of Baby Rah. I know that things are not proving easy for you and dh at the moment, but just remember you have each other, and that is the most important thing! Hang in there

Gilly, I am sorry that you overproduced eggs, and the cycle got cancelled - how are you doing? It?s good that your consultant is so thorough though, and good news about the good ovarian reserve.
When do you start your new job? All the best for that chick! I just know that you will be a great manager of your staff. I?d love to work for you! I always think that working for crappy managers makes you a better worker, and it will definitely make you a better manager!
Of course we know that you don?t begrudge others their pregnancies/babies, we get where you are coming from. Don?t beat yourself up for having mixed feelings.

Coggy, if you are lurking, hope you are well. Hope you had a fantastic holiday.

Has anyone heard from Chocolatedays, I am pretty sure she was due a week or two ago? and I really hope that all is well with her and baby choc.

Evergrounded and Lottie, Rattling, Kd? did we lose you all? How was your hycosy Evergrounded?

Who have I missed?

RahRah1 · 29/07/2008 09:18

HI all

Hope everyone had a good weekend.

Mine was a bit of a blur as drank Fri, Sat and Sun and recovered yesterday...

Well there is no chance of BFP for me this month as we had no sex.. unless god has blessed us with a miracle baby, which is highly unlikely with our luck . Hubbie has been too stressed for hanky panky... GRRRR
MEN!

Ready - hope your not too busy at work

Nomore - Yep it was not a naughty driving offence but believe it or not it holds a higher penalty than drink driving! The officer is trying to prosecute him for dangerous driving, which also holds a custodial sentence, but obviously that would be worst case scenario and I don't think they could send someone to prision for a bad three point turn! The police man was just doing his job, but extremely excessively and the whole thing has caused us both so much more extra stress, on top of everything else. But our solicitor has written to the magistrates with all our mitigating circumstances and basically it was just a one off stupid mistake, which it was. He has totally learned his lesson and would never do anything like that again, but if it goes badly in court we could lose his job, our house etc.... for one really stupid mistake that he did not know was against the law. There was lots of other people doing it as well, so I don't think he will be the only one done. I spoke to a barrister and he said the whole driving thing has gone crazy and it holds the highest prosecution rates and revenue as the targets for prosecution are all employed people who need their cars for work and will pay high fines to prevent lose off their jobs. Basically they have you by the short and curlies... RANT over! But last word on the matter is that it sums this country up! GRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRRR
I should of just had a baby at 15, lived off the council and claimed benefit and did what I wanted and did not care about the law... then maybe I would have 5 kids by now!

Well hello to everyone.. when are all the new jobs starting?

Gilly is it this week you are going to your consultants?

gillydaffodil · 29/07/2008 10:16

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nomoremagnolia · 29/07/2008 12:56

((((Rah)))) I didn't know it was illegal to do a 3-point turn and when the road was closed anyway?? At a loss to explain how frustrated I feel for your DH

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RahRah1 · 29/07/2008 15:26

Unfortunately Gilly (although really good idea)DH did not stick around to talk to any one.. he was slightly embarrassed by being arrested... something that has never happened to him before! luckily one of our friends/neighbors were there and they saw the whole thing and can confirm where his location was when he turned round, something the police man could not confirm as he did not see, but speculated on where he had come from as he advised the courts that he had calls from other car users that people were driving the whole length of the slip road the wrong way. DH only did two car lengths! TYPICAL!!! but they always take the word of the police man! The police man obviously was in a determined mood, mainly because a week before my DH being an idiot there was lots of deaths in the area on the roads, including one man that wiped out 6 people and seriously injured two children over taking... so I can see why he was being hard... it must be a hard job seeing people dying for no reason, especially children. So I see it from both sides, but I do think its about balance and not being excessive!

Anyway I am soooooo nervous I have phoned the courts 2 times already but his case has not been heard.... GOD for once please let us not have to take the HARD lesson!

gillydaffodil · 29/07/2008 15:49

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RahRah1 · 29/07/2008 16:11

Thanks Gilly .. To be honest he should just behave himself and then things like this would not happen. Its common sense really... which he lacks in big time!
I don't think he can feel any worse that he already does though!

herbaceous · 29/07/2008 16:38

Gilly... I'll have to keep you in suspenders for a while longer (as I'm not sure the staff of the mag know the editor is changing and I wouldn't like it to come out via mumsnet!) but it's more crafty than gossipy. It's a little bit home improvement, little bit DIY, little bit building... You're not all that likely to have heard of it, to be honest.

Oh, and it's not Razzle. Or Fiesta. Or, for that matter, Knave.

nomoremagnolia · 29/07/2008 17:13

Rah Everything XXXXXXXXed for you DH

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herbaceous · 30/07/2008 09:39

It is a notoriously badly paid profession for the amount of work and responsibility. But it's fun, and the occasional freebie trip and having your name in lights seems to make up for it!

I met up with new boss last night, and now I'm scared! But at least it's taking my mind off FTC: now, when I wake up in the night instead of thinking 'OMG I haven't got a baby and I'm really old and I'm going to die of loneliness', I think 'OMG how the hell am I going to manage this new job'!

gillydaffodil · 30/07/2008 10:37

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RahRah1 · 30/07/2008 14:55

Hi my lovely mumnetters!

Good news from the Rah camp... DH got 3 points and £340 pound fine.....WOOOOHOOO!

Thanks for your support and kind words. All that stress! Oh well over and done with now and never want to go through that again!

gillydaffodil · 30/07/2008 15:48

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kd73 · 30/07/2008 16:57

Hi everyone

Sorry, I've been lurking but not posting. Kind of feel abit out of sorts really as not TTC anymore (infact more gagging for a shag!) but don't feel like the "fantastic expectant mother" either.

Anyway good to hear everyone's spirits are high, Mr Rah got away with a slapped wrist and Herb has a new job to concentrate on. All is good

I'm off to the cinema now to see Mamma Mia, so apologies to all those that I think off, but haven't mentioned.

KD

RahRah1 · 30/07/2008 16:59

Thanks Gilly... it defo is.. thats it the wheel has begun and it can't stop now. In all honesty I think the judge must of taken pity on DH as the solicitor wrote all about his stresses, including IVF and losing Bertie.... He must of even felt bad giving him 3 points after reading about how shit our lives have been for the past couple of years. I was also going to write last week to add in he had been put at risk of redundancy, but I thought they had enough to read

RahRah1 · 30/07/2008 17:04

Hi KD... fab to hear from you!

I'm dying for a shag too... DH has been too stressed for shagging . I found when I was pregnant and could not have sex I was dreaming about it and thinking about sex... and I'm not normally like that at all.... I think when you can't have it, it makes you want it.

I went to see Mamma Mia the other day,,, it was brill... so funny.

Have fun and I hope expectant motherhood starts feeling a bit better soon. I know I felt much better about 16 weeks and I started to be able to show my bump off. Are you in maternity clothes yet?

Love to all.....

nomoremagnolia · 30/07/2008 21:25

Rah What a relief

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RahRah1 · 31/07/2008 11:18

Thanks nomoremagnolia...

I'm sat here with my cat eating a packet of sour cream and chive crisps and I have to share them with him ... he has enjoyed them so much he has dribbled on my laptop...

Hello to everyone... XX

nomoremagnolia · 31/07/2008 12:25

Are crisps part of his special diet? My cat used to love crisps but he's not allowed them anymore

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RahRah1 · 31/07/2008 17:09

Its not the one on the special diet, however he has probably eaten most of the other cats 'special' food as he's like a bloody dustbin

I have a ginger cat called TC (he is the special one!

and another younger cat called Jak. He is a pest and follows us everywhere and starts from the moment we get up. He also loves to cuddle up to TC...but not sure if TC likes it but he's given in and Jak just puts his arm round TC's neck so he can't get away.... ARRRR (poor TC, no wonder he is special!)

nomoremagnolia · 01/08/2008 09:49

Now I'm thinking of your cat like Jose Mourinho!

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kd73 · 02/08/2008 22:03

Hi everyone,

Sorry to rant but the sex ban continues, I didn't get to see Mamma Mia as all 3 local cinemas were fully booked by the time I arrived (approx 1 hr before showtime) and having spent the weekend before last at the emergency dentist having a tooth removed, I have broke another one today . Can life get much better?????

On the positive, yes I am now in maternity clothes which is based largely on "oh will that fit" as opposed to "do you think this is nice?", none of my shoes fit and my feet and ankles look somewhat freakish...

Finally, I have my 21 wk scan this week and frankly I am petrified of the results particularly as the 12 wk scan came back with an elevated risk of downs syndrome.

I wish I was either brave enough to deal with all of the above or simply someone else...

Rant over...