TTC after loss part 5

[Ella31]

Just continuing our old thread. I've added anyone who has asked to stay on here. As always, anyone who is trying after a loss is welcome to join and those who have been lucky since are welcome to encourage those who are still waiting for their rainbow (if you want to stay of course )

Also for the next thread, I'm going to let someone else take over creating the new one if people don't mind. I've a lot on at the moment with tests and I'm back to work in the next few weeks after my bereavement leave with my boys. So if anyone would like to take the mantle, feel free.

Im 2dpo today and have another ultrasound on Wednesday to see if follicle has burst followed by pdg blood test.

@Onthedouble123
@DonnaWhat
@moosey89
@Bellebg
@Lovedatforme
@Ncl31
@PearlCat
@LucyCL
@CadoAvo
@ThelastRolo20
@Figtree11

@Ncl31 ah thank you. It does add so much more stress when you’re testing and it has to be NOW etc!
What meds are you on?
I always ovulate within my fertile week normall y days 14-16 so it’s almost a waste of money to do OPKs tbh.
When I spoke to the GP she told me that just having regular sex especially around my fertile week was enough and that timing sex to a specific day is probably just adding stress and is clearly not helping me conceive. She has referred me to the fertility clinic though, any ideas how long the referral process takes? I’m guessing months.. sigh.
I don’t mean to whinge, sorry girls but it’s just nice to speak to people going through it too.
Although still bummed I am going into this next cycle with a different outlook and just gonna have sex when we feel like it rather than forcing it because im in my ovulation window and with all the romance gone like it has been lately. I’m also on annual leave for the next 2 weeks so I’m hoping as I’m more relaxed and not permanently tired from working nights that my body might not hate me as much.

Thank you ladies! It is comforting to be able to chat with you all knowing we have all felt the same things - although I wish we didn’t all have to know what it feels like!
I’m hoping EPAC, will get the ball rolling quickly for me, I don’t want to have to be scanned and wait a week and be scanned again - I don’t know which route is the best option to take, I feel like the risks with general anaesthetic now I have a little one is a scary thought, but it does mean it’s all over quicker.

I’m sending you all positive thoughts for up and coming cycles/TWW

I'm 12 weeks @Beanie14 getting there. Good days and bad. It's my twins first birthday next month and their 1st anniversary since their passing so I'm bracing myself. I hope you can relax this week and treat yourself. I know it's hard xxx

Hi everyone. Not been on here in a while. Update - I've had two early losses in June & August this year. I got another bfp yesterday. I'm currently 3 weeks & 5 days. Fingers crossed this wee one sticks! 🙏

@Beanie14 I’m on letrozole. I have PCOS, so I’ve been given 6 months of it to try before we go down the IVF route.
Our fertility referral took a couple of months to get an appointment through, it was a couple of months for the appointment, once we were seen initially they were very quick to get us in for all of our tests though. They scanned me and done bloods at my initial appointment so it felt like we were getting somewhere.
i know exactly how you feel so don’t feel like you’re moaning - it’s frustrating I know.

Congratulations- let’s hope this is a sticky wee bean

I can't believe you're 12 weeks already, how exciting! Have you had your 12 week scan yet?? I think about you often and hoping you're doing okay 🥰

I've been quiet recently but still checking in on the thread. Had a month off last month and currently in my fertile window, ovulation should hopefully happen this weekend/early next week. Then we are off on a sunny holiday in 2 weeks 🥳

Getting my hopes up a bit here at 2 days before AF is due with a rise in temperature and heart rate increase like last time and twinges but not the usual PMS cramps. I'm determined to wait until I'm late to test, sounds silly but if it's a chemical I think I'd rather not know 🙃.

@Fletchasketch oh this sounds so promising!! When will you test?
I totally get not wanting to know if it’s a chemical though. We had a Chemical in July i didn’t test early we were 3 days late, I wish I hadn’t gotten excited though. I have everything crossed for you!!!

@Ella31 12 weeks already! That’s gone so fast! Wow. Have you had your scan yet? early pregnancy is such a worrying time, sorry it’s a bit rough. oh and with the added pain of your twins birthday! I just can’t imagine :(

@EmTTC2 congratulations! I hope it’s a sticky one!

@CadoAvo exciting! Hope it all goes well, and at least you’re on holiday during the TWW so you have a huge distraction.

@Ncl31 Oh thanks I assumed it would be a long wait because the GP said most couple get pregnancy while waiting for the referral…
im not sure if there’s anything they will actually do for us though as we already have a 3 year old. I just worry that because we have had no pregnancies at all since TTC this time apart from a chemical back in July that’s I am now unable to conceive.

Hi! I have avoided being on these threads for a few weeks. Lost my fourth in Feb and fifth in June and decided to take a break from it all. Back now with my fragmin, aspirin and cylogest. Fingers and toes crossed it all goes well. Resuming TTC later this month

A familiar name! How are you?

I too had two early losses in March and April. So it must be scary and exciting at the same time for you to get a bfp. Congratulations and try to concentrate on the things you enjoy!

Sorry for your losses. I just keep waiting for another loss. I feel like I can't get my heart set on it yet, but praying it sticks. My line is darker today so fingers crossed 🤞

Thank you. Fingers crossed 🤞

Pray for superglue! 🤞🤞🙏

Sorry for your losses 🤍

"Keep waiting for another loss" - that is understandable and it also breaks my heart a bit but please have more faith in your body. I was like you and it didn't help me at all. Because I became anxious and scared, I even continued to measure BBT and RHR, and even became obsessed about the line progression (testing twice a day). Please don't do what I did. Be positive and I know it is hard to believe it yet but you will eventually believe that it is actually happening. x

I'm still tracking BBT. I'm just waiting for it to drop. I keep watching line progression too, terrified that it will disappear. I did 4 tests yesterday & 1 today. I'm not going to test tomorrow & just enjoy being pregnant for as long as it lasts. I have one son who is almost 7, so my body is capable x

I am relieved to know that you still feel confident that your body is cable. You have a better attitude than me. My confidence has been affected greatly by two early losses and so far I have no living children. As you can imagine, it is still a bit difficult for me to believe my body is capable of carrying a full term viable pregnancy.

Have you had any tests to look in to any possible reason for your losses? Sometimes they just happen. It doesn't make it any easier though.

My cousin fell pregnant with twins. Unfortunately, she went in to early labour at 24 weeks pregnant. One lived for 3 days & one lived for 8 days. She then fell pregnant with twins again & lost them the day before her 12 week scan. She then fell pregnant with twins again who are now 18. She then had a single boy who is now 14. She then had another loss & then one more girl who is now three. Sometimes it just isn't meant to be & the next one suddenly sticks. We just need to live in hope

They should still offer you tests I’m pretty sure of that. Then give you private options to pay for; that’s what they’ve done for us. DH has a son to a previous marriage even though we don’t get to see him we still have to pay.

This was me back in 2020 - one missed miscarriage and another anembryonic pregnancy. I was also worried I would never go full term. My LO just turned 3 this week - I’m sending positive vibes that your story is similar to mine!
We are trying for a sibling but have just had another loss - I sometimes feel it would be easier if you could make sense if it all, but it feels so random. My main comfort is that it isn’t anything we are doing wrong - I hold on to that hope so I don’t beat myself up over things I ciuld have done differently! X

I have done all kinds of tests such as fertility tests, female hormone screening, general health check up and two ultrasounds to see if my body was not good for pregnancy in some ways. I kept doing the tests between March and August and I even let my hubby do sperm analysis until I finally gave up because all test results showed that there was nothing wrong with my body. I kept finding causes of the two early losses and became obsessed with doing lots of tests. Then I realised that it was not emotionally healthy and I had to let it go. It has been really difficult especially my first two BFPs ended up in losses. That is why I can understand the OP a bit because mine is like nothing compared to hers then she said that every loss mattered even the early losses.
I do believe everyone here is really brave and strong because they still have the courage to embrace pregnancy. They are superwomen. Your cousin is one of them and I am glad that she kept going after losses. Sometimes I just wish I could be more hopeful and I am really trying to be positive every day.

I am sorry for your two losses and I was stuck in the limbo for 5 months. Thank you for sharing your story and it was the randomness I couldn't accept. I kept doing tests for 5 months and at the end there is really nothing wrong with my body. I decided to let it go and I am learning to be a bit more positive every day. It has been helping me so far. I hope you are and will always be hopeful! x