@BunnyLover92 I think like most scenarios in life, there isn’t a right or wrong answer. As most of the comments have shown, everyone and each situation is different. I think it ultimately depends on how much you want to have a baby. I agree with other posters that if you don’t feel happy to wait that long, i would speak to your husband and try to find a compromise. I had a friend who’s DP said he wasn’t ready and convinced her to wait until 35 to have their first. She would have been happy to start trying at 30. It happened within about a year of trying for them, but by that point she had wanted it for a good 4/5 years. I think it made her feel like it had taken longer than it actually had, and she did get very upset watching other people announcing their pregnancies during that time. I’m not suggesting that this is how you feel (or would feel), it’s just an example that springs to my mind.
If you know you definitely want a baby but it’s more a case of being in your 5 year plan (and you both agree), then it’s better to wait until you feel like you’re in the position you both want to be in than rush to have a baby because others around you are. Everyone’s timelines are different. I think it’s more about the person than their age when it comes to being a parent. However, I don’t think any job/holiday is worth risking waiting and not knowing if/how quickly it might happen when you do try. If there were issues (which hopefully there won’t be), i would always be wondering if it had been easier if I’d been a couple of years younger. I feel a bit like this myself tbh. IVF is also a tough process that isn’t always successful. Age also has an impact on the success rate.
As far as fertility goes, unfortunately there are no guarantees at any age. Again it is so individual to each person/couple it’s almost impossible to predict. I think statistically fertility starts to decrease after 30, then again after 35. I had my 2 DCs in my mid and late 20s and was lucky enough to fall pregnant very quickly. We got married in 2023 and have been trying for a 3rd ever since with no luck. I am 34 now. Although i don’t know whether it has anything to do with my age, it’s the first thing that’s crossed my mind. All of my hormone tests have come back normal so far and my periods (although long cycles) are fairly regular.
I don’t personally know anyone in my close circle who has had a baby after 35 apart from my SIL. She was 38 when she had her 3rd and got pregnant within 3 months. My MIL also had her 5th at 40 but i think he was a happy accident 😂
I think the fact that you are posting about this shows that you have some concerns about waiting. Women do have an internal biological clock that men don’t have. In reality men can have babies in their 70s if they want to, so I don’t think they feel the same pressure that we do. Go with your gut instinct. If you factor in the time it takes on average to TTC then the 9 months of pregnancy, you’re looking at nearly 2 years anyway x