Are we too old to try for a 3rd baby?

[Zarah786]

I am 36/37, husband is 40/41. We have two beautiful children, one of each, 8 and 3. I have enjoyed the age gap and don't mind them at all. My eldest is very hands-on and loves helping and I think it would do wonders for the second to have a younger sibling. I also feel very broody, like the mother in me wants another to feel complete.

My two were both born full term, healthy and happy children. My worry is now our age and my husband smokes (not a chain smoker but either way smoking is bad). He has always smoked on and off, tried e-cigs then resorts back, but he always smokes outside, out of sight but obviously could be affecting sperm quality. Is it too risky? Will I upset the beautiful life we have now by wanting to add another?

Just thoughts flying around in my head although I know chances are low but you never know. Anyone been in the same boat and went for a bigger family?

@Zarah786 I had children young and now have a LO who is 21 months. Our children are 19, 12, and 21 months and we are trying for our last one. I'm 39 and my husband is 58. All healthy children. If this is a niggling thought in your head, it might not go away and you may leave it too late, I would get trying now as sometimes it can take a while longer to conceive in your 30's 😀

Try and encourage your husband to cut down if he can't stop and get him on some decent fertility vitamins.