TTC in 30s

[Mummysparrow]

Who else is trying to conceive in their 30s? I am trying to conceive number 2 and I am rapidly approaching 35. Had my first at 31 who I conceived easily but since having her my cycles vary from 28 to 34 days and I now get spotting a few days before my period. I am about to start the 3 month of trying and I am starting to get in my own head that my hormones are not where they need to be

@Figtree11 yeah I am in hospital and thankfully it is in the bereavement ward not the labour ward and they said there is plenty of pain relief choices though they said it was like strong period pains which I think is probably unlikely. Having been in labour I hope it is no worse than early labour pains.
Is it bad that 8 weeks seems like such a long time to have to wait to be able to try again?

@Mummysparrow I'm so so sorry to hear this and for what you're going through. I don't think there are any words really but I will be thinking of you and hope you have love and support around you to help you get through this.

Also @Figtree11 so sorry to hear of your loss. It must have been a terrible shock. I can see why you'd feel in such limbo.

I don't know why life puts us through these things, I only can have faith that the good things will come at the right time and everything else makes you stronger.

My thoughts with you both 🪷

@Mummysparrow ive never been in labour before, but the pain to me felt like what I imagine early labour would feel like. So if you’ve done that before & you’re in hospital with pain relief options I’m sure it will be fine ❤️ I hope it goes as well as it can do xx
I know I really struggled with waiting 8 weeks for a period. My cycles weren’t regular after either, but I think everyone is so different, there is no normal. Hopefully you won’t have to wait as long as I did

@m00ngirl thank you, I was feeling really positive with the pregnancy, thinking the first MC was a one off. So when I found out I was devastated. Still am. But learning to put one foot in front of the other again

Taken my first tablet today. Pretty uneventful though I have an extra level of tiredness this evening. Back in on Thursday for the main event 😭
@m00ngirl thank you. How are you doing?
@Figtree11 I have a daughter who is nearly 3 who I had at 31. It has taken me this long to get over her labour to try again and I was not prepared to go through it again so soon but hoping that everything goes smoothly and there is no retained products 😖 have you started using LH strips as you might get a LH peak peak before your period restarts.

Will be thinking about you @Mummysparrow I hope it all goes as smoothly as can be. Even though I waited a while for cycles to return after, the medical went really straight forward for me so I hope it does for you too.

I’ve not, no. I feel like I need a bit of a break from tracking & actively TTC I think. I’ve spent around 3+ months being pregnant & feeling ill with nothing to show for it along with the emotional turmoil 😩 Plus I’m still getting positive pregnancy tests. If still positive by end of the week I have to ring up EPU

Hi all
I'm 33 and trying to conceive for 1st time.
Been trying for over a year but been tough as lost my dad and gran in july and August last year which hasnt helped with stress. GP said if no progress in early September get in touch to do tests etc. So guess wait and see.
Any advice welcome.

Hi @Niclags I am TTC again after my loss in May. Do you take any supplements at the moment and are your cycles regular?

Ah im so sorry to hear that. Grief is one of the hardest things to bear.
Yes taking regular supplements well woman conception vitamins and cycles pretty regular now. Took awhile to get there after coming off of contraceptive pill. Been testing via ovulation test kit and I'm definitely ovulating.

I'm a similar age and did eventually get there after about a year (during which I had a bereavement also) - I'm 12 weeks today with first ever pregnancy and it's all fine and healthy. My advice fwiw is -

• do a private blood test and sperm test (if NHS won't provide) now anyway to surface any immediate issues and for peace of mind. Hertility is popular for at home blood testing.

• use ovulation tests but don't live by them, they are v unreliable (my midwife said BBT is the only way to really know but huge faff imo), just keep DTD throughout broad fertile window. This is obv the most important thing. Just keep going. I think the advice is every other day (too much can reduce sperm quality) and then every day during fertile window. I also raised legs after DTD!

• everyone says "stress less" and it's SO annoying, especially after what you've been through, like no one deliberately gets stressed! I can only annoyingly say I did conceive when I was less stressed. I was clocking in and out of work on time and doing less overtime, had a less stressful work month, sleeping better, eating better, drinking moderately (although not totally dry as I was in earlier ttc periods). I do think this all helped hugely. If you can at least have a good sleeping and eating routine it may help.

• I did preconception vits also

Good luck xx

Hi all 👋

I've been TTC baby 2 since July 2023, I turned 35 in Feb 2024. I've had most of the tests offered and hubby had a SA and everything is normal.

Baby 1 was concieved at 31 on cycle 1. I was very fortunate on that front, though he had open heart surgery at 4m and a few other surgeries/procedures for other health issues. I suppose what I'm trying to say is that its easy to fall into the trap of comparing to ladies who fall pregnant quickly, but it doesn't necessarily go without other hardships and hopefully everyone will get there eventually with healthy bubbas🌺🌺 baby dust to all xxx

Hey ladies,

im 38 and just stopped the mini pill to try for baby number 4.
youd think I’d be a dab hand at all this baby making stuff, but truth be told, it’s been a long time! My kids are 17,15,13, and if I’m honest I caught really easily without trying when my body was young and fresh! However , with me being 38 now I can imagine I will hit some hurdles this time around, so I’m doing as much “ research” as I can now 🙈 oh how times change!