Performance anxiety

[Sara1988]

Hi all,

Partner has started getting performance anxiety. We sometimes manage in the end but I'm worried about things getting worse the more we push. I'm worried about the effect its having on him. Last night it didn't happen for us. Has anyone had similar and found ways to cope?

Thanks!

Hi!
My husband is the same, any whisper of the word ovulation and he can’t… so we don’t talk about it now! And it’s absolutely fine… in fact I’m ovulating now and he has no idea :-)

My partner doesn't have performance anxiety but struggles to finish from penetrative sex. So all TTC activity is done through home artificial insemination. It means our sex life remains for fun and intimacy and we don't miss chances to conceive. Wouldn't work for everyone but works for us 😊

I don't tell my DH anything about when we are TTC. We've agreed that we would like another child and I take it from there in terms of knowing when ovulation is happening etc. Currently TTC number 3 and conceived number 1 and 2 without him knowing any of the details. My DH would really struggle with the pressure of TTC and thinking that our sex life was anything other than us having fun.

Same! It's not getting started that's the issue but finishing!

I got some pre-seed and that's helped (big fan of lubricant anyway but obviously a lot has spermicide in.) So relieved.

Good luck in your journey!

@Sara1988 you too! 😊

Similar to others, I don’t tell DH it’s ovulation time. Maybe he guesses though! I really try and not get annoyed or upset in front of him though.

I'd be amazed if my DH doesn't twig something's up! 😂 I think not really knowing for sure helps him by making things less pressured and clinical.