15dpo BFN withdrawal method

[ToeBeans24]

Hello

just looking for advice or stories from others really. My OH and I are planning on TTC this year.

last month was let’s say a “warm up” month where we used the withdrawal method. Yes I know this isn’t conception. A baby would be very welcomed.

i also know chances of conception from withdrawal method are slim.

however my period is now 2 days late (15dpo). No sign of her coming except cramps. I always spot the day before and nothing. 2 BFN (yesterday when period due and today). Came off the pill last July and been like clockwork with 28 day cycles on the nose.

what’s going on?! Would I have a BFP by now if I really was pregnant?

Anyone? :)

I’d say if your period is late then yes, a test would be positive by now. It’s probably just randomly late this month.

Were you on the pill before? Or any other contraceptive other than withdrawal or condoms? As it took a while for mine to settle after I came off the pill when TTC

@iwasgonnasay i was on the pill for about a year until July. After that condoms literally until last month. Periods returned within 4 weeks of stopping the pill and have been very regular since.

@Rosiiee thanks for replying. Typical isn’t when I want to get on with TTC Mother Nature throws a rouge cycle at me!

@ToeBeans24 ah I see, that is just a pain isn't it :( I hope it does settle for you soon!

@iwasgonnasay yeah I just want a BFP or AF so I know where I’m at. I have seen / read about people getting late BFPs though?! I’ll likely do another test in a couple days if still no AF!

You could have ovulated later. I would wait a few days and test again 😊

@rainbow616 thank you for replying ! I plan on testing Mon / Tues again if no AF. That’ll make me 4-5 days late !

Good luck, update us! X

Thanks all I deffo will. I’ve spent hours (days 🤦🏼‍♀️) on here reading posts that are pages long with no update and it’s frustrating lol so I deffo will.

what things delay ovulation?! I know stress can. Haven’t particularly been stressed. If anything the opposite as time off work over Xmas etc. I did have a cold and a 24hr sickness thing tho over Xmas / NY 🤔

Sickness can delay it. To be honest, it could be delayed just because! Even if you have regular periods, there's always a chance it could be out at least one month.

@rainbow616 thanks for your help 🙏🏻 I’ll keep you posted. Hopefully just a late random month. When I had the copper coil a few years ago, despite it being hormone free, it always effected my cycles and lengthened them to 30-32 days so perhaps this is one of those months despite no contraception at all

Me again. Another test today (not FMU). BFN. CD30 / 16DPO. Only symptom is occasional cramps but that’s it. Cervix remains high. V high ! I don’t know what’s going on. Pretty sure I ovulated CD14 based on EWCM and symptoms (and previous cycles). I just want AF now so I can crack on with TTC.

feeling really down today 😞

any chance of a late BFP?!

Eh I honestly don’t think so to be frank with you. But there’s always next cycle 🤞🏻

@Rosiiee dont worry I need the honesty. Never thought I say it but I just want bloody AF to come!!!

Any news from you @ToeBeans24? I'm in the exact same situation...

@blgld so good to have someone else I can talk to!

How many dpo are you and how many days late?

My period was due Friday so now 3 days ago and it’s still MIA. Thought yesterday would be the day as I had more intense cramps but nowt, nada, zilch !!!

Last took a test yesterday (not FMU) which would have been 2 days late / 16DPO (unless I ov’d later) - BFN!

No other symptoms.

Another stark white BFN 😞
Just want AF now. Starting to worry 😭

Try not to worry. This happened to me when we started trying. My cycle is 28 days consistently. It ended up being 48 days that cycle! I ended up going to the doctor. They said it could be down to anything, stress of starting to conceive (even though I didn’t feel stressed). It was very annoying. Happened again a year or so later.

@Wictc thank you for replying. It’s just rubbish timing. Got my hopes up and now can’t even move on with trying 😞

@Wictc did you have cramps whilst waiting for your AF to show that cycle? I think that’s what’s bothering me because it’s like it wants to start but nothing

I don't track with anything properly, but I'd guess about 15dpo. And I'm being totally dramatic, if it doesn't arrive overnight then currently only one day late...

BUT I feel like crap and that's what's making me wonder if something might be up. I also had ewcm for about 8 days straight, after I was confident I'd already ovulated. I can't find info anywhere that explains what that means?! And it was definitely ewcm.

So first ever month doing withdrawal, the weird extra cm thing, and feeling really under the weather, I'm starting to watch the dates a bit more closely 👀

I'm sure your AF will be with you very soon though - if it helps, last cycle I had awful cramps for quite a few days before, like it really wanted to start but couldn't, and then arrived and was perfectly normal

@blgld sounds v similar to me!

Are you planning on TTC soon too? Don’t feel you have to answer. Just be good to have someone in the same boat next month too 😂

i sometimes get EWCM before AF but only a small amount and not every cycle. But I keep noticing all sorts as I’m a symptom spotting mad woman !

i have health anxiety as it is so this has triggered me massively ! After the negative this evening I’m telling myself I’m not pregnant and I’m willing my AF. I’ve had worse cramps and feel grouchy and irritable so I hope she’s here tomorrow. May just be because of my BFN but hopefully she’s on her way and that’s the course for my bad mood!

@ToeBeans24 Oh bless you, I hope it's there soon! Hopefully yours will bring mine too 😆

Yes plan to TTC our first soon. We'd actually agreed to go for it from 1st Jan but have had a wobble so 'dipping our toe' as you put it and going by withdrawal for a few months (knowing it's risky obvs, and would still be happy either way). Again similar to you, had been using condoms and came off pill nearly a year ago.

So will you be going for it properly from next month do you think?