TTC FOR JANUARY

[starryx]

Af just arrived so I'm officially out for this month :(

But onto new beginnings!
Trying to conceive for 2024 <3

Everyone welcome to join and discuss :)

@Newmumwales I think you might still be ok if you try DTD tonight? If you managed Wednesday.. they do recommend every other day, and I've seen posts of women getting pregnant by dtd random days around ovulation, I think as above sperm meets egg plan it's called? Plus always remember sperm can last upto 5 days in the cervix! So don't lose hope 💖🤞

@SlinkMcSlink 1000xs yes! I've been totally like this, my whole Christmas has been great don't get me wrong but consumed & very tearful. My cousin announced her pregnancy on facetime Christmas day & I burst into tears. I had to call back, I am so happy for her but I couldn't breathe, my whole thought was why not me? It's like you don't want to be that person who's just looking at all these women who easily fall & pop babies out & feel the way you do.. But the wanting is just so so much! Hopefully this month is ours! 💖

@LuceNumberTwo i feel really emotional today and can’t even begin to imagine how I’ll feel New Year’s Eve and if I get pregnant again. Hope we all get our BFP in January ❤️ hopefully I keep testing and get my peak and DTD again.

@Newmumwales mumwales Big huge loves to you, its so difficult, especially as we've only got a certain amount of days to actually make it happen, it's alot of pressure! But you can cry, its fine to cry
Done my fair share this year 💖💖

I think I could have written this,christmas is hard for people ttc...
I got a negative teat today, due AF in 3 days...wish I hadn't a test in the house...

Hello all! Planning on starting to try for baby number 2 this January. I’m due to ovulate around 2nd jan.
baby (or not so!) number 1 will be 4 in April. Can’t believe how fast time goes we never planned to wait this long but here we are! Accidentally fell pregnant with them and then had another accidental pregnancy in June 2023 after taking all precautions which ended in abortion due to circumstances.
i hope I fall as easy this time again although I’m cautious after having the abortion that it may not happen so easy.
ive started taking some folic acid. I have to be honest I wish I could skip pregnancy and the first year as I found it really really tough. But needs must! :)

Hi everyone hope we all had a lovely Christmas

Just checking in on all the messages I'm sorry it's been so hard for some of you ladies. It's really hard to be joyous for others who are pregnant when we all want the same too, especially if they're family. Our time will come. Have faith and trust.

Trying to take the pressure off myself but told dear hubs MY OVULATION DATES ARE HERE very obviously so he knows he gotta step up 🤣

@LuceNumberTwo it is hard! We do put so much pressure and we’ve only DTD once so far. It’s so hard with our daughter here with us and she’s not going to sleep until late as nasty cough. Another day gone by. I’m hoping we can DTD tomorrow night and New Year’s Eve otherwise I don’t think the once will be enough :( Getting really frustrated. Of all times she isn’t sleeping

Hiya! Can I join you all?

I have an 11 month old (today) and am TTC #2, sadly suffered a MC on Boxing Day about 6 weeks along. Hoping my cycle goes back to normal fairly quickly 🤞🏻

Of course and I'm so sorry to hear :(

Thanks @starryx. I'm off to do the food shops soon and hopefully get some CB ovulation tests for a fiver at Tesco.

Hi everyone, I’m here from the Dec thread. Knew AF was coming but still feeling disappointed to be at CD1 today. This will be month number 4 of ttc baby #1 for us. Feeling very frustrated as I feel like we are doing everything right, I’ve cut alcohol and caffeine, clear ovulation signs and dtd loads around them, using preseed etc. Still, trying to keep positive for January! Good luck everyone!

@SMD16 welcome and I’m so sorry to hear your loss. It’s horrible isn’t it. We are all here.

@LuceNumberTwo im putting so much pressure on myself. I’ve not told DP that I’m checking ovulation so this morning when DD was in her bedroom on her iPad I was getting frustrated as we had alone time and he did nothing. He said all your caring about is a line on a pregnancy test and he said we thought we was leaving it to what’s meant to be and we are trying are we? I said well yeah that’s what we want and agreed. Men just don’t like the pressure do they! Feel really upset.

@Newmumwales MEN! They just don't seem to understand, I know it can happen if your just having sex randomly but it's more likely to happen when your tracking & know your ovulating.. Maybe need to sit down with him & speak it out. I've explained to my partner because he was always like it will happen, but now he gets it. But we also use a home insemination kit, as he suffers badly from anxiety & unable to always perform.. It takes a bit of the pressure off & I've fell pregnant 3 times so far, they haven't had happy outcomes but to have fallen I know it works! It then makes having sex fun & sexy again for us
It isn't for everyone but each to their own!
Big hugs 💖

Right so super mad mental psycho has come out again 🤣🤣 had my Static smiley on clearblue ovulation test on 26th December... have been tracking with strips & premom too... my strips were also dark & found my peak on the same day.. I think I ovulated the 27th/28th... I take the strips to make sure my LH goes down, but now the strip tests are dark, infact the surge line is darker than the reference line... Which usually happens with my peaks... I took a digital again, because I'm freaking out, it's come back as an empty circle.. I should be like 3/4 dpo right now

Do I just keep trying for the next week? I've never ovulated twice or not ovulated this is so out the ordinary for me 🙈🙈 x

@LuceNumberTwo just keep dtd for atleast another week. Atleast youre covered then! And dont stress about it, that happened to me when I didnt ovulate the first time but it could mean loads of things or nothing at all. Maybe youll end up with twins 😄🤩 🤞🏼

I done a CB today and got the empty circle, got no strips left (probably for the best) so now I will just wait and see 🙃

Hey everyone, been reading through the messages and can totally relate to the stories of people struggling and being emotional over Christmas. I had a MMC in March and haven't conceived since. Lots of pregnant friends and new babies at Christmas so it's been difficult.

I think I'm 9DPO today - trying so hard to not test!! I had some spotting just after ovulation which I read is a sign I haven't conceived so not holding out much hope tbh.

Wishing you all the best!

@H938 Honestly 🤦‍♀️🤦‍♀️ I would be super happy with twins 🤣! I feel like this is exactly what happened to you last time 🙈 guess we will just keep going at it. So really God knows, I think I should trust the clearblue more but I just don't understand why the strips would show a surge now... I don't even know when to test or anything now 🤣🤣 maybe should wait until the end of January to see if I AF comes..But I don't think I can wait that long!

I'm hoping that after today it starts to lighten!

How are you doing? X

@BussiBop23 Hey 🥰 I'm so sorry you've been through that, I've had 3 this year trying for number 2! it's just the most horrendous feeling!
Do you think you may have fallen? I'd have been on the tests since 7dpo so you are doing so well to have made it to 9! Hoping for your BFP soon 🤞🤞

@LuceNumberTwo honestly im so emotional today isn’t not even funny. I had a chat with him and he said let’s not blow this out of proportion and it’s just not the same for a man and he does want it but it’s just the pressure that men don’t like. He was like one morning and your acting like this are you sure your not already pregnant 😂😂😂 Us woman just get so transfixed don’t we. Still light OPK but all the apps say ovulate New Year’s Eve and today peak too 🤷🏼‍♀️ did I ovulate cycle day 12 aggghhhhhhh!!!!! That’s a good way to look at it just pop it in yourself then they don’t feel making love is just sex for a baby!

@BussiBop23 well done for holding out. I’m a raging maniac already and I’m not even past ovulation yet I don’t think lol. I’m so sorry to hear about your MMR I had a chemical years ago and it really affected me. Sending love.

At least we are all in it together as sometimes it feels like you’re the only one. My LH sticks are confusing me though. It says that this is high (see pic) but I’m only on CD8. Although I haven’t had a drink since this morning.

Do I just DTD as much as possible for the next week-10 days to cover all bases? Sounds exhausting bloody hell haha.

I don't tell my OH when I'm ovulating. He hasn't copped on that I initiate sex more often at a certain time of the month. I don't want it to stress us out. Just trying to enjoy it and hope for the best atm but it is early in our trying journey.

@SlinkMcSlink im still a beginner at OPKs but literally looking morning to night and from research that is still not there.

@PeekABoo22 your message literally made me weak laughing! He’s not copped on. I can’t stop laughing 🤣🤣🤣🤣 it’s so true.

@LuceNumberTwo yeah but i deffo just didnt ovulate the first time. I dont know what the best way to get pregnant is, i just think keep dtd until you know youre not fertile 😂 but I saw someone say do it two days before and the day of ovulation 🫠 so i have no clue. Now im wondering are we meant to not do it anymore after ovulation ?

@H938 im confused too, they say do 1 day after ovulation as egg can last 12 hours to something. So that’s why they say DTD one day after but when I thought I was ovulating my LH tests are not playing ball lol