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People falling pregnant first month!?

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NervyBee · 22/11/2023 14:20

I feel like this is more common than we're led to believe

Among my friends, all late 20s early 30s, about 9 of them conceived first month and 3 others month 2 after saying they think they hadn't time their ovulation dates right. So, accounting for the ovulation dating mistake, it's really still the first 'proper' try.

My best friend also just fell pregnant first month. She feels unprepared, said she was expecting it to take 6 months or so, as that's what lots of relatives told her, so she started trying earlier to account for that.

It can be deflating if you're the only one that's been trying for a while!

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SheIsStuck23 · 22/11/2023 22:30

I fell pregnant with my DS1 on our first month of trying. I think I got my positive test about 3 weeks after having my Mirena removed. I can’t say I was particularly surprised because as far I was concerned: unprotected sex = pregnancy.

When trying for a second baby I again caught pregnant within a few weeks of having my Mirena removed but sadly I miscarried at 9-10 weeks.

We had a few months off and then started trying again but 10 months later I still hadn’t conceived which confused me as it had happened so easily the previous two times. As a result I went to the GP and she said that as I was still breast feeding DS1 that’s the most likely reason why I wasn’t getting pregnant. I stopped breastfeeding a few months later and I was then pregnant within the month.

You hear anecdotes all the time about how quickly women get pregnant and for every woman who falls pregnant very easily and quickly there will be a woman who is really struggling.

Who knows why some women get pregnant so easily whereas others don’t.

One of my friends had unexplained infertility and it took 4 years before getting pregnant as a result of fertility treatment. I know it nearly killed her not understanding why she was so unfortunate whilst women around her were getting pregnant.

I actually think it’s more common than not for women to fall pregnant within the first 1-3 months of trying unless there are known fertility difficulties.

I think it can be a lottery and it’s a case of women crossing their fingers and hoping they’ll be one of the lucky ones.

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NervyBee · 22/11/2023 23:08

Yes, I do hope one day 'unexplained fertility' is explainable! Maybe as science advances even further, we'll be able to know more.

Also, I don't mean for this to become a bashing thread for people who conceived quickly! It just interests me, as someone who is taking longer to conceive, and makes me wonder if people should be encouraged to seek treatment sooner. 🤔

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SarahShorty · 22/11/2023 23:18

When we started trying, we decided to get a 'Fertility MOT'. Our local clinic was offering one for both men and women, so myself and DH went right ahead and got one. The price was quite reasonable and as a one-off it would be worth it. We thought we might aswell see if there are any issues now than potentially spend months and months struggling when there might be a problem that can be resolved, and thus sparing ourselves the disappointment of wasting so much time. It turns out that my poor DH has a low sperm count but of the sperm he has, many of them are above average in other metrics like morphology and progressive motility, hence we had a couple of chemicals before then.

YoNoTengo · 22/11/2023 23:20

Aged 40 and fell pg the first month of trying. Shocked was not the word. I was still feeling bewildered as I walked down to my c-section.

Mercury2702 · 22/11/2023 23:21

I did at 19! I felt tremendous guilt that I came off the pill then a few weeks later had a positive pregnancy test and a successful full term pregnancy.

I don’t know if it sounds a bit mad but I didn’t dare tell anyone incase anyone had fertility struggles as I thought surely it was unfair I’d fallen pregnant straight away when so many people struggled. It did also make me more wary of contraceptives seeing as I felt pregnant immediately and I’ve been on the coil since he was born and he’s 7 now (although I know no contraception is 100% but felt it was a better choice than the pill)

TheFluffiestCat · 22/11/2023 23:24

I did. Implant out 9th January, BFP 13th Feb. Aged 32, DH 40. I was flabbergasted, but couldn't say it wasn't planned!

Starlight11111 · 22/11/2023 23:24

Tried twice. Fell pregnant both times. First was miscarriage and second chemical. I definitely fall into the camp of "it" working first time, but obviously "it" doesn't end as planned xx

Tr1skel1on · 22/11/2023 23:25

I have polycystic ovaries and DC1 was a miracle. Told by local GP to start trying again asap. I now have 2 kids 15 months apart. DC2 is proof it only takes one moment

Gobleki · 22/11/2023 23:25

I did, really suprised me as I’d spent over a decade using pull out method and never got pregnant.

amispeakingintongues · 22/11/2023 23:32

Yeah i think it's more common than people make out. Both my pregnancies happened in the first month of trying

StayingInTheInn · 22/11/2023 23:37

My children were both conceived on the the first month of trying. I’ve rarely told anyone because most people that discuss ttc are discussing it because they’re having problems, and I wouldn’t want to be insensitive.

The first time we were very shocked and had expected it to take longer. The second time we felt very fortunate that it had happened again so easily for us. I was 24 and 29.

Then in my 30s I was diagnosed with endometriosis and adenomyosis and told I would be unlikely to become pregnant again or be able to carry a child to term if I did. We didn’t want any more children, but again just felt fortunate we’d had children so easily at an earlier age.

witchypaws · 22/11/2023 23:42

I fell pregnant using a condom and the pill (taken perfectly)
Now have a coil!

Outliers · 22/11/2023 23:50

DH and I have conceived every time 1st cycle.

First time was unwanted pregnancy when we just started dating.
Second produced my dear DC (18 months).
3rd has produced my current pregnancy (4w6d).

After DC1 we used withdrawal method which many say doesn't work, but I never fell pregnant- so I half expected this try to take some time.

My mum warned me growing up, to be careful of sex cause she got pregnant first try with all her kids (she had 6). Though reading Conception (and infertility) forum has made me appreciate that this is a blessing.

tinypottle · 22/11/2023 23:52

We always used the withdrawal method. Once we didn't and I conceived.

RosesAndHellebores · 22/11/2023 23:54

I have never had unprotected sex without getting pregnant, regardless of when in the mo th it seemed. I had a lot of planned pregnancies but sadly only two full(ish) term babies.

I am very grateful that until I was married and we planned babies, I was very rigorous about contraception.

It isn't something to discuss in rl.

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NervyBee · 22/11/2023 23:56

I've been using condoms for years. Not been on birth control for about 5 years. Interesting to hear of people coming off the pill and falling pregnant straight away, and the comments about fertility sometimes spiking when coming off the pill, which would explain all the first month conceptions perhaps... 👀 can you tell I'm a fan of speculation!?🫣

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MaryMary6589 · 23/11/2023 00:54

I'm surrounded by women who have struggled/are struggling to get pregnant and I got pregnant first time both times, came as such a shock. I'm very grateful and feel extremely lucky but I wasn't expecting it at all, either time.

ElevenSeven · 23/11/2023 00:57

Pregnant first month all three times. One planned, one failure of contraception (stomach bug) and one first and last time trying withdrawal method.

I think it’s more common than people realise as it seems glib to talk about it when so many struggle.

elliejjtiny · 23/11/2023 01:01

Dc1 took a year. Started trying when he was 1, thinking we would end up with a 3 year age gap. Dc2 was conceived that month.

PabloandGustheGreySquirrels · 23/11/2023 01:32

First month here too

PabloandGustheGreySquirrels · 23/11/2023 01:33

My parents however, it took them 13 years of trying.

MixedCouple · 23/11/2023 05:41

I was 33 and got pregnant first month. We wanted to wait as we wantes to travel but COVID kept cancelling our plans so we said why not try and see and bam 2 weeks later.
2nd time took us 8 cycles.

It really is a game of chance.

Ascubudr · 23/11/2023 06:01

Remember half of all pregnancies are unintended. My first was and second happened on the second month ( like others first month of really trying and I think i may have had a chemical) aged 27 and 29.

Longwhiskers · 23/11/2023 06:05

I also got pregnant the first month of trying twice. It was a bit of a shock the first time! But I truly appreciate how lucky we were.

RoseWrites · 23/11/2023 06:13

In my experience, people rewrite history. I've had friends crying that it's taking too long to conceive. Fast forward to them having a baby and then they'll laughingly say "oh, my partner just has to look at me, and I'm pregnant". Maybe it jarred with me as I've had 4 rounds of ivf and two miscarriages so I'm a bit more aware of how sh*t it can be ttc... who knows, maybe in a few years I'll say that rounds of failed ivf were the best days of my life? ;) I find it interesting though - is it genuine forgetfulness? Self preservation? Wanting it to all have been ok? People are interesting:) good luck to you ttc x