In out in out and shake it all about… 7dpo

[Yolo23]

I feel as though I’m doing the bloody hokey jokey the amount I’ve been in and out of this forum over the years 😅😂

Hello!
Ive a long old story but I won’t bore you with it unless you’re interested… I’m 31 TTC our first, and currently 9dpo with a chemical way back in November. I’m just looking for some company and hopefully some positive vibes between the group so someone… anyone gets their BFP! Hopefully me too of course 🤞
We all need a little bit of positivity so let’s do this together ✨

@Mango30 im sorry to hear all you’ve been through! It sounds as though it’s been a very up and down few months 😞
our bodies are just crazy.. it’s so normal to obsess but then in the back of my mind I’m always thinking… don’t think about it, but as soon as you get to the last week of the TWW I can’t help but symptom spot. From my understanding, my luteal phase feels pretty short too or has done previously.. I’m also only ovulating for around 12 hours if that - I gather this from testing again using ovulation digitals which may be incorrect but it does seem as though my cycle at that point is shorter!

@Yolo23 thank you for being so kind, I'm sorry to hear of your struggles too, it's shit isn't it! I'm exactly the same with symptoms, and even though I know it's silly I still imagine and hope for the due date each month 🫠
I hope your appointment goes well, and you get some answers or even just peace of mind. I had one with a private doctor after my miscarriage and they basically said that I could have some scans to check if I was ovulating (I didn't go ahead as it was £700+) so that might be worth asking about if you can get that. I think if I had another miscarriage or can't conceive again by the end of the year I'll try and go with the nhs if possible.
completely agree with your comment - how bonkers that that many people get born every day, with these chances 🤯😭

@Mango30 thank you. It is shit! In fairness, I’ve always been prepared for these issues because a few years back I was TTC and nothing was happening… I always deep down knee something was wrong and then I had endo confirmed in 2020 followed by an op in 2021, so my BFP chem in 2022 was very unexpected and proof that the operation made some slight improvement although in the back of my mind, I’ve always known we’d need IVF. The appointment is to get us on the way with that I believe so fingers crossed everything will go smoothly (famous last words! 🤣)
I’d say to get on the waiting lists for NHS if you can and don’t delay because things takes years and if you know something isn’t quite right… it usually isn’t so get ahead of the game 🥰❤️ praying you get your BFP soon too!! ✨🤞

@Mango30 Google says that an average luteal phase is 12-14 days, so I wouldn't expect 12 days to be considered short. Or have you been told it is? Mine is similar.

@Yolo23 Yes I had heard about being more fertile after a chemical, but it doesn't seem to be the case for me either... had some sharp ovary pains and have been hopeful that it's implantation, then had some bleeding that was very watery blood that keeps dipping in and out though, so not sure if it's AF on its way (never appears in this manner usually) or actual implantation. Only time will tell, another BFN this morning so not holding out too much hope :(

I’m so sorry we are all going through the same thing . I am due af on Friday have had symptoms for the last week so I’m not bothering buying anymore tests the disappointment is just more then I can handle at the moment . I went to the doctors but as my partner has a child from a previous relationship and I did have my son and he died at 3 weeks and 6 days old they had be said there shouldn’t be any issues . I have got a blood test booked in next week so hopefully that can shed some light . I feel like an actual wreck just waiting for the inevitable. Wishing you all baby dust if you haven’t had af this cycle yet xx

@Ladameauxyeuxbruns oh fingers crossed! How many DPO are you? I’m well and truly into AF and battling stomach cramps 🤣 it’s so horrible we have to deal with this after the heartbreak of a BFN 😅

@Tottenhaminmyblood oh my god, that’s horrendous. Bless you 😞 I am so sorry to hear what youve gone through. We’re definitely in this boat together but honestly my lovely, your situation is unimaginable. I hope you were able to get good support to help with everything you experienced!!
its no wonder you say you’re like a wreck with all the ups and downs of this journey.
Good news to hear you have a blood test planned in - that’s reassuring. I don’t know about you but any tests/appointments make me less twitchy and I feel as though something is progressing even though I’m in the same situation until something is found or something changes.
I guess as your partner already has a child this means you’re not eligible for NHS funded IVF does it? it has that changed? Xx

@Yolo23 thank you for your kind words . Because I actually had my son they said I am not eligible and my partner does so no option on the nhs . It makes it harder as he has a child so I’m not sure if he is as bothered as me on having a baby and I find it hard as I don’t have mine and he does it’s very hard to explain . May I ask how old you are ? Yes hopefully that will make you feel a lot better knowing that you have your appointments booked in . Is your oh supportive ? Xx

@Ladameauxyeuxbruns my fertility doctor said it shouldn't be a worry but then said it would be worth doing the scan to see what's going on which made me wonder if it could be something that makes it hard to get or stay pregnant, but I could be worrying too much.

it's so hard! Sometimes I think oh it's just bad luck and it will all work out but other times I feel certain there's something wrong and I don't know what it is or how to fix it. sorry you're in limbo @Ladameauxyeuxbruns, I'm 9dpo and had a bfn today too, was only hopeful manic testing but I didn't really think I'm pregnant anyway, no signs at all. Just wishful!

@Tottenhaminmyblood I'm so so sorry for your loss of your little one, that must be absolutely devastating xxx I really hope your other half is giving you support in this journey and that you get your bfp soon.

hoping we all get good news soon, it's a brutal situation 🤍 it really helps so much speaking to others about it so thank you for making this thread

@Tottenhaminmyblood oh god bless you. What a horrible situation you’re left to face after experiencing one of the worst things someone may encounter. I think men are wired a little differently when it comes to children and their desperation/desire to have them.. particularly as it tends to be the women that are portrayed to have ‘the issue’.
Im 31 and my OH is great in fairness - I was engaged for almost 10 years to my ex so we were trying a long time before an operation found out I had endo.. I split from my ex and a year or more after, met my current OH and I was really honest and said I’d likely need IVF or may need to adopt in future (as this was what the specialist had told me)… he was amazingly supportive - unlike my partner who said he’d only want his own and didn’t like the sound of IVF (one of the many reasons we seperated) !
I had an operation for my endo with my current OH (May 21) and we had a BFP Chem in November which was reassuring as that’s the closest I’ve ever came but no sign of anything else since… how old are you may I ask? Xx

@Mango30 it really does help talking to others ❤️ I’m so glad I made the thread and met you all - hopefully there are some positive stories between us as time goes on 🙏✨ xxx

Tested this morning at 10dpo and bfn 😭
whyyy!

I'm going on a weekend away with my husband this month for ovulation so hopefully this is the month. It's so frustrating!

@Tottenhaminmyblood oh my god so sorry to read about your loss 😭 incredibly tough x

@Mango30 still early yet 🙏

I am 3 days late, but having spotting as I usually do but it's basically non existent now. Been testing negative, haven't tested today yet going to try and have a bit of a hold as iv been to toilet a few times since iv got up.
I don't think I'm pregnant due to the spotting and the amount of it but very confused as to where AF is as this is very unusual.

Terrified of like peri menopause! I'm 35 in November. And I am drama queen too 😂

@Daniki oh gosh that would be driving me mad, maybe it was implantation spotting? I really hope so!! especially as you're late as well 🤞🤞🤞

I feel you on the age - I turn 34 in November too and feel so worried even though I know that many people have babies late thirties and 40s so it's irrational! I want (I hope!) to have more than one so I hope I have enough time.

@Mango30 I was really hoping it was implantation but seems to have started now so onto the next cycle we go!
I'm the same I always wanted like 4 children so we were planning to just keep popping them out if possible 😂 don't want my son to be an only child either 🙈

@Yolo23 @Mango30 I'm 13dpo but it looks like AF has made an appearance. I've had very light spotting since yesterday morning. Usually, the spotting only lasts a couple of hours before I get my full-on period but as it was coming and going for almost 2 days, I was hoping it was just implantation bleeding. Just been to the loo and it would appear that that's not the case.

God this is all so shit, isn't it. We spend our teenage years and early twenties being told how careful you need to be to not get pregnant, then when you actually start TTC you get told how difficult it is. I feel so betrayed by it all. My doctor recently told me that it can take healthy couples up to 2 years before getting pregnant - I was utterly gobsmacked.

This will be our 9th month of trying and I can't help thinking that we'll still be in the same position years from now. I wish I could zoom into the future and let my present self know when it's going to happen so I can just relax. Sorry, ranting now.

Hey everyone - I've been lurking on this thread a little while. I'm 11dpo, almost certain to get af in 3-5 days (day 21 progesterone blood test came back low so despite all my positive ovulation tests looks like I might not even have ovulated!).

Got a follow up GP appointment tomorrow, somehow they took pity on me when I said I needed one quickly so I could plan for next cycle and get a prescription if that's the way forward!

Hey Moosey, sorry you think AF is coming, it's always a difficult time. I'm glad they took pity on you, I'm hoping people will do the same for me as I'm starting the process of getting some tests done! I hope your appointment tomorrow goes well :) Did you get progesterone supplements from your GP? Sorry, haven't quite started down that avenue myself yet so I don't really know what I'm talking about!

@Ladameauxyeuxbruns we seem to be having the same cycle! Yea that's a big annoyance for me too about how we are taught about our own fertility. Basically told is school a man has to look at us and we'll fall pregnant! 😤🙈

@moosey89 welcome, sorry to hear you're struggling. Do you mind me asking what your test result was? I had a progesterone test result recently but the clinic wouldn't explain it to me until I paid for a bunch more tests so I'm a bit clueless with it. I've always suspected I've got low progesterone.

@Ladameauxyeuxbruns don't apologise, it really is the pits!! You've got to let it out and that's what these groups are for. I get that feeling too like maybe this is going to take years and years and it's really depressing. People say focus on other stuff in your life - I try and do this but it's still hard especially when the clock is ticking! I get hope from seeing others who have struggled finally get pregnant and make it past the danger zone, I hope that this is in the future for us and we just can't see it yet. I know the feeling about wanting o know it happens one day too - I even considered getting a psychic recently to ask if I would ever be a mother!!

I've just bought proceive vitamins for me and my husband for the next month, I've been taking the preg scare conception ones but thought I'd give the pricey ones a try and treat myself (haha!)
I also impulse bought one of those little sperm cup things! Has anyone tried these?

Thanks @Mango30 - so I had 14.2, the level to confirm ovulation is >30! Between like 13-30 is a 'we don't really know, might have tested on the wrong day, might be low' etc but I'm at the bottom end of that so I'm feeling like I might need some help with progesterone, and it would make me feel more comfortable after losses too. I'm lucky I had the blood tests on the NHS so I have all the results in the app.

Ah okay - hopefully your gp will give you some guidance, good luck with your appointment tomorrow! Let us know how it goes

@Daniki Yes! I remember being told that every single time I have sex I risk getting pregnant and to be very, very careful. Well, have been having a lot of sex and no baby, so someone clearly lied!

@Mango30 It's so funny how similar we all are. I've also recently been thinking of going into the voodoo side of it all and getting a reading 😂 Annoyingly, pretty much everyone around me who has had a baby recently has talked about how quick it all was for them, that they managed it on cycle 1 or that they weren't even trying. Only one person close to me is also struggling but they're not the type to really talk about anything, so I can't have a bitch-fest with them.

I haven't tried a sperm cup but have also been considering it. I bought pre-seed and used that the cycle of my chemical, so thought it was wonderful and that it would definitely work this cycle, no such luck 😅

I bought a moon cup back before I got pregnant with my son but honestly couldn't work out how to put it in so never used it 😂😂😂

@Mango30 I’m so sorry 😞 fingers crossed for your weekend away. Sometimes I feel we wish our lives away counting towards the next month but holidays and time away always helps. Definitely something to look forward to 🥰

@Ladameauxyeuxbruns oh no! 🥲 it genuinely baffles me how many people appear to conceive naturally so quickly! I think it’s a big misconception (excuse the pun) 🤣 I try not to think too much about those that are, and zone in more on the amount of people that must be wandering around experiencing a similar journey to us all on here. It’s part of the reason why I try to be an open book if people ask when we’re going to have children - because I feel I’m doing everyone (including myself) a service by being honest and spreading that tiny bit of awareness.
im going to try a fertility cup for this cycle .. I’ve been on another thread and the feedback looks good. Quite a few had BFPs after 12 or more months of no joy… figured it’s worth a shot!