Thread for sufferers of recurrent miscarriage

[OracleInaCoracle]

There seems to be a few of us, so thought i'd start a support thread.

[tye]

hello. sorry if im butting in as i see this is for reacurring miscarriges but wonderd if i could ask a question. i have just experienced my first miscarrige at 18+4weeks with identical twins. when i saw my two little boys i couldnt bare to have them do a postmortem on them so i was told my placenta would be tested? will i be phoned with the results and if so how long does it normally take for this to be done?

[downbutnotout]

I'm very sorry for your losss, tye. I don't know but I would expect the hospital to get in touch with you. I've never had the pathology done on my babies, so I will let those who are more knowledgeable comment.

[downbutnotout]

And I'm honestly not trying to fob you off but you might find it useful to ask under the miscarriage topic as well.

[downbutnotout]

bump for tye

[OracleInaCoracle]

tye, i really dont know, im so sorry. i hope you get some answers

[tye]

not been on since yesterday as still really down after the funeral wich was only on wednesday but shall try asking under the miscarrige section see if anybody nos about this. thankyou

[OracleInaCoracle]

im so sorry, have you contacted SANDS?

[tye]

no havent contacted them but a few people have mentioned it so might give them ago.

[OracleInaCoracle]

do, they will be able to give you lots of advice,this thread might be helpful too.

[tye]

thanx lissielou shall go and have proper look at the thread

[woo12woo]

I have had 3 miscarriages too and felt awful about them. I spoke to a very lovely lady yesterday and she explained to me that souls come through when they want to come through. Sometimes our bodies are just a landing pad for them to come through and go onto someone else. Like a baby that is going to die, that is in an incubator, the soul passes through you/me in order to get to that baby so he/she will live because that baby's soul is moving on. If you think about it like this, it makes it easier to believe there was a reason for the miscarriage. We will all have souls come to us when they are ready to come to us. Most of the time they are wanting to come through, but we need to make changes in our lives. For example, I have to love my inner child and my adult self to be a good mother and that is why my baby is waiting for the right time to come through. It will happen and in the meantime think of your miscarriages are little souls coming to earth through you. That is why sometimes we have a strong connection to someone, because they may have come through us to get to earth. I may sound like a loonie, but I m spiritual nd I like to believe this theory. I know my children will come to me when they are ready to be with me.

[OracleInaCoracle]

thank you jules!

[downbutnotout]

V. useful jules!

While we're on the subject, dh has to give a sperm sample and has been told he needs to abstain for ten days before giving it. Is this normal?

[OracleInaCoracle]

um, dh was told not to abstain for longer than a week but for at least 4 days, never heard of 10 surely that bad for the boys?

[downbutnotout]

That's what I thought. He looked a bit doubtful about holding out for that long

[OracleInaCoracle]

i was fertile the day before dh's test so we didi it anyway, his boys were good (but then he does have supersperm)

[downbutnotout]

I'm posting this here because this thread needs some good luck...

I'm cd30 and I just couldn't help testing...

and I got a bfp!!!!!!!

[Squack]

CONGRATULATIONS DBNO!

[HeidiS]

Congrats DBNO!!

[pootlesmum]

This message is for Tye although I'm aware that its been over a month since her query so she may not see it.

Tye, I'm very, very sorry for your loss - it sounds as though your twins died of TTTS (Twin Twin Transfusion Syndrome) which can happen quite frequently in identical twin pregnancies. Identical twins share a placenta which can sometimes be faulty in that they give all the blood to one twin whilst the other starves. If you google TTTS you'll find loads of info about it so I won't go into detail here. I have been incredibly fortunate to have identical twin girls, TTTS was diagnosed at 16weeks and I had to have surgery to correct it and thank God they survived.

For the other mums going through recurrent miscarriage testing - if at all possible try to have your blood tests done when you think you might have conceived. The reason I say this is because I just knew I had conceived on several occassions but an initial positive pregnancy test turned into a negative test a few days later on 6 separate occassions. I had the recurrent miscarriage blood tests done on the NHS one month when I had been advised to not attempt to conceive and they all came back clear. I fought to get them repeated and the second time I got them done we had tried to conceive and my blood tests came back saying I had sky high NKCells so my body only produced the NKcells when I had conceived in order to naturally abort the baby. This would not show if you weren't already pregnant. To those that are diagnosed with high NKcells, or lupus anticoagulant or any thrombotic problem the treatment is incredibly effective and simple so please do not give up hope but do fight for the tests because the NHS should provide them. I speak from a very positive experience having had my 2 gorgeous girls after several miscarriages.

Don't give up hope, there is ALWAYS a reason why you have repeated miscarriages, it is NOT a question of luck so don't accept that from your GP.

Sorry to rant it just makes me so cross that GPs know so little about a very common problem which can be so very easy to treat with the right diagnosis.

[downbutnotout]

Thanks to you ladies!

And also for a very useful post, pootlesmum.

Am now back to usual knicker-checking anxiety but trying my best to relax.

[pootlesmum]

downbutnotout - CONGRATULATIONS !!!

Wishing you all the very best, take care of you and your precious cargo {{{HUGS}}}

[downbutnotout]

Thanks!