How do I concieve a girl?

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I have 3 boys desperate for a girl but scared of trying as I don't want another boy, of course any baby is a joy so don't get me wrong, I just really want a girl! HELP!

If you have a look here there is a thread in pregnancy about it. Near the end is the info on getting a girl. Thats why I'm trying for this time as I have 1 ds

Thanks

Dr shettles method gave me my dd after 2 ds and no girls in dh family. Brought th ebook from amazon. good luck x

you do realise that any "method" only improves your chances of conceiving a girl by a few percent? If it were that easy then certian countries would have a MUCH MUCH higher percentage of boys born.

One theory I heard only about a month ago:

Conceiving in the winter months (Nov, dec) = girl
Conceiving when it starts to get warmer = boy.

Probably an old-wives tale and just one of those things that get said. I conceived in winter and had a girl - and when I think of it all those at work too. My brother just got a baby boy - they conceived in april (springtime - getting warmer).

of course you cannot rely on it 100%

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I can understand this thread. I have 3 x DS, and have not gone on to try for a girl in case I had another boy and was disappointed,and if that happened as it would be so unfair on the new baby. My DH did say we should try again for a girl, about a year after DS3 was born, as he has always wanted a little girl, but again, would he be able to hide disappointment if we had a 4th DS.
I feel that if we tried the methods for conceiving a girl, and still ended up with a boy, it would be even more disappointing, so I personally would shy away from trying these methods.

If you think you would be that disappointed with another boy then I wouldn't try for another baby as you cannot guarantee your preferred sex before conceiving.
You have to be sure that the main thing you want is another baby.

I think Kayizbroody has already linked to the advice I posted about the Shettles method.

We conceived ds1 inadvertently using the Shettles method and in a light-hearted way I did the equivalent to get a girl, and lo, 9m later dd born! No idea really if it works lol!

The Shettles/Chesterman Phillips method did not work at all for use. We inadvertently used it for ds1 and ds2 and deliberately used it for ds3, all should have been girls if it worked! If you look at this site it gives you approximate success/failure rates for all the different methods. The only 100% way is a high tech method called PGD but it is expensive, time-consuming and unavaiable in the UK. You could try any of the natural methods but the best guess on that site is that the success rate is only about 65% for Shettles.

Do what my lovely sister did and adopt a girl! there are pelnty out there who could do with a lovley home and alot of love!

Can you just do that, though? I would have thought that most adoption agencies would not approve of someone marching in and pre-ordering a girl?

Sorry, I didn't exactly mean "just do that" I know there is a lot of hard work, form-filling and red tape with adoption! I meant I didn't think you could express a preference for boy or girl when you adopted.

I actually have 3 DDs and I am very proud of them, glad that they are nothing else!

My diet mainly consisted of yoghurts, jacket potatoes, dairy products etc. I am not sure if this contributed to any factor, but there you go!

Please only try for a baby if that is want you really want and not worried about what sex it is, I know someone who is on her 5th pregnancy - all boys and she has already decided that she is going to try for a sixth!

Me - I am so so glad my DDs are healthy, no asthma, no exthma,(sp), no allergies, no nothing, and I am so pleased about that. After having a long mis carriage between my 2nd and 3rd pregmancy, I am so pleased I managed to carry normally my 3rd DD full term!

you can express a preference for one sex during an adoption though tyour social worker may quizz you quite extensively to make sure you're not adopting for designer reasons. It depends on how credible your reasons are and how many of the sex that you would prefer are available. The wait for girls is usually longer than for a boy as most people express a preference for a girl. It's got to the stage in some countries where non-white boys over 2 are virtually unadoptable

thats so sad kew, im pregnant with dd3 and would have loved to have a little boy (though im very pleased and grateful with what ive got) . would not try for number 4 though to try and get a boy though as you could guarentee another dd

it is sad and it's why I get so cross with people who are rude about Angelna Jolie - like theres a queue of people waiting to adopt 3 yr old asian boys and she's whisked him away to a fate worse than growing up in an orphanage

I think the problem people have with Angelina Jolie is that she doesn't go through the right channels, her adoptions are all highly suspicous and she always selects very photogenic children.
There are huge question marks over her children as to whether they were actually orphans to start with.
Certainly her daughter Zahara was not an oprhan and had a living mother and grandmother. Surely if you wanted to do the right thing you'd offer the family money to give the little girl a better start amongst her own family and people rather than whisk her away and then get your lawyers to bully the family into submission?

"she doesn't go through the right channels, her adoptions are all highly suspicous and she always selects very photogenic children"

Who says? I know the agency she used for her last adoption and they are perfectly reputable, her timescale for adoption was similar to other american adoptions and it wasn't fast tracked in any way. The wait for an asian ethnic boy over about 18 months is very short indeed in the US as very few people want to adopt them and the US front end of the process is much quicker than the UK process. She didn't select her newest son - he was selected by the agency co-ordinator and offered to her as a "referal" as is the usual case in most countries (including the UK by the way) and didn't ask to see any other children. The agency in question released all this infomration in a press release but it just was as good a story as "Angelina Jolie Adoption shocker". IN fact I think her eldest sone is not a particularly attractive child but I have no doubt that she thinks he is.

Did you see the photo of his year at the orphanage? Which child would you have deemed sufficiently ugly for him/her to be acceptable for her to adopt . My DS is startling beautiful - do you think I "picked" him because he was photogenic? Do you think he should have been left in the orphanage because he was too pretty? DO you think I hsould instead have donated some money to the orphanage instead and left him there? Have you ever been to an orphanage overseas? Do you have any idea of what life is like for a child growing up in one?

My son is not an orphan, he has living relatives somewhere. Presumably you think I should have offered them money to keep him (forever?), should I have done that with every child there? The majority of children in institutions around the world (including the UK) are not orphans. I know nothing about her adoption of her daughter but I'd lay odds if it were me that had adopted her they would never have come forward

I'm highly sceptical about media reports on any intercountry adoption - I've learnt the hard way that they think it is something rather nasty and delight in finding something unpleasant to say about it.

I'm no apologist for AJ and there are things she has done which I don't approve of, none of which you raise which makes me think your view on the matter is entirely informed by what you have read in the press.

Do correct me if I'm wrong.

"Surely if you wanted to do the right thing you'd offer the family money to give the little girl a better start amongst her own family " - are you suggesting that Angelina Joilie should single handedly provide welfare support for every parent in a country who has given up their child? You do realise that the majority of children in "orphanages" around the world are not orphans? You do realise that children in care in the UK are not orphans?

Must leave am getting more wound up by this teh more I think about it.

Angelina Jolie is one of many superstars that adopt children, I don't see why peopel get so bothered about it.
She is bringing up those children in a better environment then they could have ever possibly had without her, and the way she holds them, to me, intimates pure tenderness.
Keep your nose out when you ahve no idea of the actual facts surrounding cases.
FFS, there are laws that have to be followed you know.
Oh and FWIW I am not a fan of AJ, just fed up with hearing people always slagging off sleb adoption.

?The court in Addis Ababa approved the adoption after studying the document her grandmother wrote ? saying her daughter, the mother of Zahara, had died and she was too poor to bring her up,? Tsegaye Berhe, the head of Wide Horizons for Children adoption agency told Reuters.

?The grandmother brought three witnesses to court who testified that Zahara?s mother had died and that her father was unknown ? The court also investigated the social status of Angelina Jolie and Brad Pitt before approving the adoption. [The adoption was] legal and irrevocable. The controversy is media hype by unethical journalists exploiting the poverty of the grandmother.?

"Surely if you wanted to do the right thing you'd offer the family money to give the little girl a better start amongst her own family ". Imo that statement is completely ill-informed. If you give money to one family where do you draw the line? What about all the other children in that orphanage who have family somewhere? Should someone with money give money to all the families of thos children so that they can all be together? And how many other children do you think will be placed in orphanages then in the hope that the A.J's and madonna's of this world will bale them all out financially.

And how much money should said celebrity give? enough to send that child back home? to feed/clothe her? send her to private school? university? pay for her children's upbringing 20 years down the line?

Get real.

Even if you did decide to give money to help the children how much of that do you think would actually make a real impact on their life?
The likelihood of it getting swallowed up and never seen again is quite high, as is it making virtually no difference.

AJ and others want to have a child, so they decide to adopt rather than physically do it themselves, it's rather different to donating to charity.

Kewcumber - I had no idea you'd adopted a child/children. Why would I?
I'm afraid my view on AJ is unchanged and your information regarding Zahara is incorrect.