Would you try for a December baby

[Lola19]

I don’t know if I’m being silly here.. I think we have missed our chance to conceive this month which I am gutted about. However next month would mean a December and then a January baby. I always feel sorry for my friends born in December/Jan as I feel their birthdays get overlooked a bit.. plus I can imagine it is difficult buying birthday and Christmas presents for your little one at the same time! So just wondering if anyone has an opinion on whether they would intentionally miss out trying for a December baby or am I being ridiculous because at the end of the day that could be the month that we do fall?

I waited until May to start trying for that reason. First DC was born late Jan. Still not the best but I've always been glad I DID delay or it might have been the late December/new year birthday.

Had there been fertility issues I'd have probably gone with the flow but no regrets here.

Ooh but your child will never have to go to school on their birthday!!

My January baby who is now 9 has never had to either 😂

if i was TTC i wouldnt be putting off any potentially birthday

I was born on 29th Dec and I definitely feel like my birthday often gets overlooked however I personally love having my birthday at that time of year and I'd love to have a December baby so much

@Soproudoflionesses my daughter rarely needs to either. She’s in year 3 now and has only ever been at school once on her birthday and that was the last day of term. Her birthday is at the end of May so falls near bank holiday or in the spring half term. She loves it and has her party the week before so no one is away. Maybe I won’t need to do a party in mid August as so many will be away 😂. I’m not worried about education. There are 4 August born in my daughters class and none of them are struggling or behind.

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If you want a baby surely you don't care which month? I know I didn't but each to their own.

I don’t think the OP does care. She’s thinking whether the child would!

@Thisisthewaywe if that's the case, and she considering when her potential DC that doesn't even exist yet would prefer their birthday then she needs to get real and get herself a life ... 🙄🤦🏻‍♀️

Christmas Eve DC here - wasnt actively trying but wasn't being careful so hadn't even considered the due date at the time! I get so many comments saying what a shame it is but so far DC (10) loves it - says December is their absolute favourite time of year and is happy to incorporate Christmas things in celebrations even though I always give them a distinct day (they will choose to wear a Christmas jumper for eg). It was exhausting when they were younger but at the min I'm more bothered than them. Will see how it pans out in adulthood though

If you have time to wait then I’d avoid it. I think itd be ok for DC but for me, it’d be hell! One of mine is Jan and every yr just get over Xmas stress then have to gear up again. It’s always hard to find gifts after they’ve gotten loads at Xmas. If I had another to deal with around that time it’d tip me over the edge tbh. But everyone is different and if you haven’t got time
on your side, then you’ll make it work.

Four of my friends had Dec babies this year but only 2 had been due that month. One had been due end of Nov but went 2 weeks over. Other was due Feb and baby made an early appearance! Another friend who had been due 5th Dec was scheduled for a csection 2 weeks early so had a November baby in the end. Honestly I wouldn't bother skipping months if I wanted a baby, there's only so much you can control!

My due date was 31/12/2022.
At 8 weeks I found out I was having twins so knew I'd always have them before NYE when I found out I was having twins as they don't allow you to go to your due date with multiples.
They were born on the 03/12 and I think that's a nice time. Before Christmas and not too close to Christmas.

The only months I’d try and avoid are July/august!

This is exactly why I hate my December birthday.

But DD1 always reminds me at least I get a birthday every year so I shouldn't moan about it 😂

That's something to be aware of if you end up with a late February/early March due date OP - it's a leap year next year.

I didn't have the privilege to chose. First baby miscarried at 7 weeks, 2nd at 17. DS1 was born on Christmas Day, 3.5 weeks early. It's a very special birthday.

FWIW I'm a July birthday and DH is August. It never held us back.

It would never occur to me to avoid December.
I would, however, (and did) try very hard to avoid June-August so as not to disadvantage my child academically.

And yes, I do know that there’s August born neuroscientists etc but statistically, children born Sept-Dec achieve higher academically and also do better at sport. Statistically speaking.

I wouldn't wait. My DD is v v v close to christmas day and she seems to love it! We try to have a very birthday focused day - she has a non-christmassy outfit of choice, we do presents in the am and usually have a day out - so great to be off school. We do her party with friends approx the first weekend in January. This is great as it's a very different feel to a christmassy birthday and everyone always seems to be free to join us. The quieter days between Christmas and her party give me lots of time to make a cake and enjoy it. The only negative thing is expense - there is no denying that December is an expensive time of year in our house. We don't go overboard for any of the DC/family but it all adds up.

I'm a Jan baby, and my little boy is a December baby. I wouldn't say my birthday was ever over looked as a kid and always got the best my parents could afford. Will be the same for my little one.

I wouldn't worry about it to much, what will be will be.

sorry if this is a bit too dark but having miscarried a baby due on New Year’s Eve (which I was worried about) and not being able to get pregnant since I could not give a shiny shit about what month they’re born in!

As the mum of a Christmas Day baby I agree with this!

If you're in your 20s and know you got pregnant first month with previous children then you may choose not to try certain months to avoid Christmas or being due around a family wedding/holiday or just because you don't want your baby to be youngest in the school year.

However, if you're a bit older, going through infertility, have medical conditions that make conceiving less likely then you're not going to miss a month. If you did, you'd drive yourself nuts afterwards thinking what if that was the one month that you'd have conceived. Because of course sods law means you'd conceive at the most inconvenient time!

Babies come whenever they please, your Feb 1st baby can arrive at 34/35 weeks around Christmas/new year. You could conceive twins that would very likely be that early! Your late November baby can stubbornly hold on and be born 2 weeks late. As a December baby, I never had an issue, everyone was up to party. My DH however was born on Valentines Day and can never celebrate his birthday because everyone is always busy with their partners. Personally, I'd not bother trying to avoid certain times of the year.

My son is a New Year's Eve baby, and that was my choice ( it was that or Jan 2nd). Thought being that there will always be a party to go to on his birthday. We didn't plan for a Dec/Jan baby but after two losses and about to start ivf we were just grateful for a healthy pregnancy.

He's three now and other than it being a bit of a pain to do a winter party as you have to do it indoors it's been fine. As he gets older and has more friends I think we'll do a split birthday-so a couple of close friends/family do around his actual birthday (this year was his best bud and a trip to the big soft play and McDonald's, and a tea party at nanny and grandads-but I'm thinking cinema trips or bowling, trampoline place as he gets older) and then an "Un-birthday" party in summer where we get a bouncy castle for the garden or something.

I buy presents throughout the year and take all the Xmas decs down 29/30th so we can put his birthday stuff up.

I have a December and a January not good months for birthdays :(

I always wished my birthday was in another month and assumed all December babies felt the same but DS girlfriend, who is Xmas eve, says she loves her birthday because it’s on the most exciting day of the year!

I'd rather avoid a summer pregnancy. As would most of my family judging by all the April babies 🤣 seriously though, I think it depends how old you are, how long you've been ttc etc. I personally wouldn't skip, I'd just want to be pregnant (but I've had ivf so this naturally skews my opinion).

I bet that was the best Christmas ❤️