POAS girls: Fertility super slueths 🔎

[TheBirdintheCave]

A new thread for our little gang :) Tag anyone I managed to forget!

@MrsJGrealish @happinessandrainbows @calimc83 @pangolin84 @theblueflowers @bringmearainbow @monsteramunch @bunnykins123 @curliegirlie @LuckyMoonstone @Indianna2006 @FfoxRedN

Oooh I can't believe there will soon be so many POAS babies! 💕🎈🌈

I really really need to have the talk with DH. About how I can't just push this all to the side and pretend last year never happened. I need to be honest about how I can't just shut all this down. Right when we said we'd give TTC another a go after the MC, I think we said we'd give it a year. Which it's now been (MV anniversary tomorrow in fact). But I just don't feel I can say "oh well, that's that" and jump back on contraception again. But I know he's kind of moved on from it all. But I just haven't. So much is telling me this is a silly idea still - how would we cope with 3 when DD1 can still be so challenging? And when we've also got the fun and games of a split school run next Sept (where we live the infant and junior schools are 20 minutes walk from each other 😱), and then of course I think, oh mat leave might make that easier (?!), then there's car seats, how to do (and afford) holidays as a family of 5, but my heart still shouts at me that I'm not yet done....

@bringmearainbow a birth month 😳 I'm angry at the reader now for her not having basic understanding for how long pregnancies last.

@calimc83 pretty much just had enough... first mc would have been due dec 2021. This was nearly the last til I worked out if I got a bfp next cycle it would be due dec 2023. In a weird way it feels like closure for me. It makes sense in my head 😅

Also I have 3 healthy amazing DCs. Im very lucky 💙💙💗 xx

When/if you're feeling up to it send us a lil newborn pic 🥰

@curliegirlie I'm so sorry you're going through all of this. I think your message clearly shows you're not done trying. All the worries are based on fear/concerns which is totally normal but it's not a sign for you to stop trying when you really want a DC #3 because I feel that when you silence your mind, you know exactly what you want❤️
I think men can react to m/c very different to women, wonder if that's because they aren't the ones carrying and losses feel quite different to them. Hope you and your DH can have a good chat and he can appreciate and understand how you feel.

@curliegirlie it's so hard. And a year is not that long really. I wouldn't have been ready to call it a day after a year but everyone is different. This cycle I kinda stepped back, I've been reading miscarriage stories and it just brought the fear back. I think you'll know when you're ready ❤️

Totally understand the dreaded talk with DH though. Xx

@MrsJGrealish got everything crossed for you! Really hoping to see some more bfps 🤞

@Indianna2006 I know I didn't feel DD till 18 weeks but keep reading that you should feel the 2nd one earlier which obvs just messed with my head. I'm booking a gender scan for next week so absolutely praying all will be ok. That's crazy it's so soon! I remember you telling us about the sunflowers and the hope to have a bfp that cycle and now look where you are 💕

@bringmearainbow that's interesting! How do you feel about it?

@calimc83 I'm not sure. I did get DD checked at 16 week check but not sure it's standard at 16 weeks? I feel a bit conflicted about hearing it with a Doppler as I know they can often not find it and that would just put me into a spin! Best of luck for tomorrow, I'll be thinking of you 💕

@curliegirlie I agree with the others saying a year in the grand scheme isn't that long. This one took almost a year to conceive and I'd totally given up all hope the cycle we did get a bfp. I do think talking to DH is important, ultimately you both need to agree although I know it's hard when you aren't both on the same page.

@bunnykins123 I never felt either of mine very often (sodding anterior placenta with both!) and certainly not so early. But I completely get the worry, I'd be thinking how on Earth do I know if the movement pattern is changing when I just get a handful of movements on the best of days 🤷‍♀️. I felt completely cheated by the lack of kicks! But even if you haven't got a silly anterior placenta you might still be a few weeks away from feeling very much...

@bunnykins123 im at work today...no overanalysing for me 🤣 ( heartburn is a killer though 😅) The tight bodysuit may be the problem 🤔

@bringmearainbow that was a really random reading and no way will you be waiting to july 🙄

@MrsJGrealish I totally get that! That's good you are at peace with it as well..☺️ @bunnykins123 argh thanks! Feeling nervous this morning..that's exciting you have a gender scan booked! Have u any inclings? When I went in for my 16 week appt I asked if she would listen it straightaway as I was so nervous and she did and found the hb straightoff. I think if they don't find it they can send u for a scan? Other than the 16 week appt she's not listened in since. I find it really weird tbh but that's the policy they follow nowadays apparently🤷‍♀️. All being well 😬 will probs update Facebook with a pic for you all xxx

@calimc83 I'm so excited for you :D

10dpo according to Premom today and nothing again on a test. I'm so bored of this now. I just want AF to start on time so I can get this wacky cycle over with.

Good luck @calimc83 - soo exciting!

@bunnykins123 @MrsJGrealish honestly I felt very disappointed at the thought of waiting until July but I did read it again after I posted and it did say that it could be a significant point in my pregnancy too. I've attached it 🤷🏼‍♀️

@bringmearainbow Aww man, I could have done a tarot reading for you for free 😅

That is interesting though. Significant moment could be a 12 week scan maybe?

@Indianna2006 @calimc83 it'll be so wonderful to hear the news of when your little ones are finally here in the big wide world!

@curliegirlie I'm so sorry you and DH are conflicted, my sister would have always had more, but they decided against it as theirs are now older. Only you know what you can compromise with 💕

@TheBirdintheCave I'm sorry it's negative at the moment but I think you're right about @bringmearainbow reading, a scan that month could be it 🙏🏼.

@MrsJGrealish it does feel like it's so far away doesn't it, can you get symptoms or a BFP at 4DPO? Asking for a friend 😂.

@TheBirdintheCave ahhh really 🤦🏼‍♀️ that's so cool wish I could read the cards! Sorry it's bfn. I got bfn too this morning. I've opened the testing hole now I will prob test until af 😅

@FfoxRedN @TheBirdintheCave I wondered that after it would be significant for me to get to 12 weeks so I'm hoping that's it 🤞🏼

@calimc83 good luck lovely ❤️

@FfoxRedN lol what symptoms are you I mean your friend having?

@bunnykins123 I had anterior with ds and didn't feel anything until 22 weeks then I hardly felt him at all it was rubbish 🙄

@bringmearainbow haha well she told me she had a funny belly yesterday. Wasn't sure if it was the dodgy sandwich or something else. 😂😂🤣

@FfoxRedN 🤣🤣 well let's hope it wasn't the sandwich. That's one thing I haven't had this cycle and something I normally get actually 🤔 gotta say I don't miss it 🤣

Thanks for your well wishes everyone 🥰 will keep u all updated xxx

@bringmearainbow one of my first signs is always constipation so here's hoping it's a positive sign for you 😊 x

@FfoxRedN well I'll keep testing but I'm still expecting AF to show her mug at the weekend 🙄 I mean one swimmer could have been a champion surviver 😂

I should really manifest that af isn't going to show instead of being a negative nelly 😂

@bringmearainbow I haven't even tested today unbelievably..it's mental at work. People keep coming in the shop😭

@MrsJGrealish How dare they! 😂😘

@TheBirdintheCave I know! It's interfering with my obsessions 🤣🤣

@MrsJGrealish I mean that's just outrageous really 😂 tell them you more important issues like poas 😂