First month TTC - driving myself mad!

[SEG92]

My husband and I started TTC this month, I thought this would be a super exciting time but it's quite the opposite!

My period is a day late, I was that crazy person who did 3 early pregnancy tests (all negative), one today (still negative). I think the constant googling of every slight symptom I've had has just delayed my period as know I would be very lucky to conceive first month of trying.

I've decided I've got all my craziness out this first month and now will just relax and not symptom check every single twinge and headache (and not test until AF is late!)

Can't help but keep a little bit of hope that my test might be positive in a few days, but know AF is probably on the way!

You spend years trying not to get pregnant then all of a sudden you want to, such a shift in mindset that I never really acknowledged before!

Anyway rant over and best of luck to everyone on this conception journey with me xx

I didn't take an ovulation test just went with what Flo app said and change in discharge so I don't know for sure when I ovulated, also read of many people who didn't get a bfp until their period was a week late or had to have a blood test to confirm their pregnancy.

The only time my period has ever been this late is when my dad got diagnosed with cancer out of nowhere and then when he passed away. So it's very unusual for me to be this late.

Feeling so nervous about taking another test, but I'll report back when I do! @Almondbut thank you, hope all is well with you xx

Still negative :( I'm getting fed up now.

I'm also first month TTC, but baby number 3.
I'm 1DPO and will hopefully be testing around 21st, as that's when my period is due. Good luck to everyone xx

Cycle day 38, still no period, still negative tests. Have a docs appointment this morning. I haven't been on the pill for 5 years so it can't be that and I'm never this late. Hope they send me for bloods and don't tell me to come back in a week!

Oh keep us updated! Can imagine you are feeling completely confused 🤗

I am @Almondbut. The doctor was so lovely, sending me for a blood test, the test he did was negative (shock), but said he has seen it where the bloods come back positive after a negative urine test. Not getting my hopes up at all just want to know what's going on!

Booked a test tomorrow so will know in a week, he's going to check everything incase there's another reason my period might be late, so that'll be good to know anyway :) feel better now I've been to the docs and also know my period will probably arrive this afternoon now!!

That's good you've got in for an appointment @SEG92, hopefully you'll get some answers from them :)

Hi ladies,

Can I please join?

I'm 4 days late (18dpo according to my app- but that's all I have to go by) and still testing negative.

I have continuous mild cramps, bloat and backache (for almost 2 weeks now). I had 3 days of nausea, then it stopped. A lot of creamy, white CM, temperature still high.

I have read a few threads whereby ladies didn't get their BFP until 7-14 days late...so there's still hope 🤞 Trying to be optimistic (but realistic!).

I really hope you get your BFP ❤️ Please keep us updated.

Of course you can @TaMcCro ❤️ I'm so sorry you're going through this too but it's so comforting to know we're not alone!

I'm just going by my app too, I'm now 6 days late (my periods are usually between 29-32 days, I'm now on day 38). I've been getting quite similar symptoms to you, mild cramps, lots of white CM, the odd headache, fatigue, my left boob is SO sore. But nothing stopping me from doing my usual things (work, running etc).

So many stories of women who didn't get BFP until really late so as everyone says, don't give up hope until AF shows! This is only my first month TTC so if I am not pregnant that's fine, I just want a BFP or my period.

Hopefully the blood test will give me some more answers (and I just know my period will arrive as soon as it's done 🤣)

Keep me updated with how you're getting on too xx

@SEG92 thank-you ❤️

I stupidly expected to get pregnant and to magically get my BFP straight away 🙈 I had no idea how common it was to be in this position! If I am pregnant, the delay has certainly drained the excitment out of it a little.

Hope you get good news from your bloods. It's great that they'e looking after you! I'm going to hold out for another week and if neither AF or BFP have arrived I'll phone for an appointment.

So glad that I'm not alone on this emotional roller coaster!

Same!! I also thought this would be a really exciting time but actually it's just stressful and confusing!

We also know stressing can delay our periods but can't stop worrying 🤣 I have got a lot calmer the last few days, know either I'll get my BFP or AF will arrive soon. Or maybe I just didn't ovulate this month and I should be cracking on with January TTC 🤷‍♀️

Keep me updated, sending baby dust and positive vibes xx

This is the mindset I got into eventually with my 38 day cycle last month! Got to a point where I was like well I literally cannot control what my body is doing so I'm just gonna let it go, and then we just started enjoying ourselves again and doing lots of DTD in the meantime, then AF did arrive 🤣

It's so hard and easy to think the worst that AF will never come for some reason, but letting it go and getting to a better mindset if you can is helpful x

It really does help to just try and relax, I said to my husband earlier you know we can be having sex during this time as who knows what's going on 🤣🤷‍♀️

I've never missed a period in my life so keep thinking it will turn up eventually.

@Sagittarius25 I'm on day 38 now 😭

That's what I was saying to my DH! 😂 I was like you never know a mystery egg might appear 😂

I know it's tough, at least the docs are looking after you, I can imagine mine just palming me off 🙄

I'm CD27 today, AF due Thursday, still planning to test at weekend of no AF. We will see...

@seg92 hi, was just reading through these posts, i missed my first ever period in dec and still haven't had one!! I'm day 58 or something. No idea what happened. Have just been having sex every other day incase, I got a positive opk on day 55. Wtf. So almost missed 2 periods now.
What bloods did gp take? I've looked at getting an ultrasound to see if everything looks okay internally, will have bloods this week but also know they can be very difficult to read/unreliable due to normal fluctuations etc etc.
I'm not even desperate for a bfp, would love my period so I know I'm not a broken woman!

So weird isn't it @1greentea ?! Especially if you're getting positive opk. You can just skip a period apparently if you don't ovulate so maybe you'll get one this month?

GP is doing full blood count and checking everything, can't remember all of them but just going to cover all bases to check.

Same, I don't even mind if I don't get the BFP just want to know that my period is coming (or something at least!)

Ultrasound isn't a bad idea, least it'll give you peace of mind. But fingers crossed your period will come during this next cycle xx

AF just arrived, so relieved! Baby dust to you all keep me updated xx

At least you know where you are!

Ah, that must be reassuring to know where you stand!!

So relieved 😊 still went for the blood test, not a bad idea to have an MOT anyway xx

So glad that you were able to finally get an answer. At least you can concentrate on TTC again, and I hope all works out for you ❤️
And you are absolutely right about the blood test- no harm in getting a wee check.

I'm 5 days late now, still testing negative. The wait continues...

Hi everyone, please can I join?🥺
I'm currently cycle 1 of trying for baby number 2. My AF is due a week today and i'm sooooo desperate to test already even though I know it's literally not possible to be pregnant yet.
Sending baby dust to you all✨xxx

@TaMcCro keep us updated, as soon as I started stressing less about it yesterday after seeing the doc my period started today, so tells you everything right? Stress really does play havoc with your cycle and I don't want to mess mine up so just going to regularly have sex throughout the month, look at ovulation on Flo but not track it with OPKs yet, and just relax!

@Alexandrababy1 sending baby dust to you! So tempting to test early but I've learnt after this month I won't be doing that! I did 5 tests before my period was due (lesson learnt!!) 🤣

@SEG92 Oh no really! when's your next ovulation date?
I'm going to try and hold out as long as I can, i've not had any symptoms yet though ☹️ I caught pregnant the first time by accident so I was really excited to actually try this time but time but this TWW is awful!
Are you trying for baby no.1?xx

@Alexandrababy1 Hey 👋 welcome!

It's so, so hard not to test early. I did exactly that this month, and it has been pure torture (especially now as AF is 5days late 🙈). Sending you lots of luck ❤️

@SEG92 You are so right! I just need to get into the mindset of 'what will be, will be'. (I would happily welcome AF at this stage 😏). I'l try to keep busy in the meantime, and will update once I have something to tell. Thanks for the wee chats and the useful advice. Lots of luck to you also ❤️