Really need some encouragement (Ttc)

[Hopefulfor4]

Hi all, I'm really struggling to find hope. I've been Ttc for about 8 out or 11 months this year so far, it has resulted in a couple of chemical pregnancies (I think!) and a miscarriage at 5 weeks. Im 37 years old and just wondering wether this is impossible for me now? I have never had problems Ttc before. It's such a stressful time I just don't know why it's not happening. My bloods are normal apparently. Any advice on what I can do to improve my chances please? I don't test for ovulation but I do monitor my cm. X

It's so so hard. Another BFN for me this am. It's nice to be able to chat to someone who gets it so thank you. Really hope you get your bFp today. I'm crampy again today so pretty sure Af is imminent. I dreamt I got a bFp last night! I was disappointed to wake! Xx

I’m sorry you are both going through this.

I’d really recommend your partners having a sperm DNA fragmentation test. It turned out to be causing our issues despite his normal sperm tests looking fine. It can cause failed implantation, miscarriages etc.

@Annoyedfood thank you for this - I wasn’t aware of that being a possibility so always great to know. Where are you on the journey now if you don’t mind me asking? Xx

@Yolo23 after trying for three years with three loses, once the DNA fragmentation was fixed with antibiotics i know have three children. They were all conceived very quickly too. Seems madness to me that so much focus is put on the woman but it can be the man too.

Wow that’s incredible! I honestly hadn’t realised myself - particularly when they just do the basic tests for the SA. Put us through absolute hell before checking the partner properly - geeez. Thank you for sharing your experience! Hope you have a wonderful Christmas xx

Still BFN for me. Im only using the easy at home tiny stops but I'm guessing they'd be showing by now anyway! Xx hate waiting for Af to show up. I can stop going to the loo to check! Ahhh! X

Hahaha me too! I done one this morning (cheaply strips) and BFN.. I’ve more brown CM so assuming AF is on its way but just being nice to me by giving me no god awful pains as its Christmas 🤣 I’ve stopped thinking about the possibilities now.. I’m going to enjoy Christmas tomorrow and will assume by then AF will be here anyway. I hope you have a wonderful weekend regardless of testing - and just remember, it’s a new year next week so positive mind set… 2023 will be our year - I can feel it! Excited to try in January xx

@Yolo23 that's a nice way to be. Have a lovely Christmas. Really hope and pray 2023 is your year. If it's still a bFn for me I'm going to focus on getting fit and healthy so I'm happier in myself. (I won't be able to try anymore due to the snip) xx

Still a guessing game for me. Still no Af and still BFN. I'm pretty sure that even if I've was a week late that a bFp would be showing by now! 😢

AF arrived for me. Feeling incredibly sad. X

So sorry to hear this @Hopefulfor4 😢 hope you’re doing ok and it passes quickly for us both! Xx