Saw the GP today...

[Got2besoon]

Well after 16 months of ttc number 2 and one mmc at the start, I finally bit the bullet and saw the GP this morning.

She was lovely and she's going to order some bloods and a sperm analysis for DH. She also took a swab today (for Chlamydia I think).

I'm sad that I'm at this point and a little angry too. I thought my DS would have a sibling by now and I just want this fertility journey to be over. Definitely grateful to have DS but fearful no more will come.

Is anyone else at a similar stage in their fertility journey?

@vitahelp that's really annoying. You sound very calm about it! But one step closer x

@Alloveragain3 would they otherwise not have known about the strep b if you hadn't had those tests?

@oliveroses Yes! As far as I know, they don't routinely check in the UK. Apparently though, it can come and go, so my midwife is going to re swab closer to labour and it may have gone by then.

DS was a c section, which was maybe a good thing in the end, if I had this bacteria then!

@Alloveragain3 Oh gosh I bet that was a surprise, did they have to delay your HSG until after you had completed the antibiotics? Also do you remember how quick/how you got your swab results? I know it will vary between hospitals but I don't know how/when I will receive the results.

@vitahelp I think the results popped up in my app pretty soon, like maybe a week?

They actually don't treat it, as it is a common thing for women to have and it is only an issue if still there when having a vaginal birth, as it can pass to baby.
So if they find it is still there before labour, baby (or me, I'm not sure!) would have antibiotics.

My HSG was done privately (while the swab was NHS) so I was lucky that I didn't have to wait too long, just one cycle so they could make sure it was done on the right day of the month.

Hi all, I hope everyone is ok.
I'm just checking in to update that I'm having my HSG (or HyCoSy in my case) today. Feeling very nervous as I've over-researched and read a lot of horror stories! I tend to be quite calm once I'm in a situation though, it tends to be the lead-up where I'm most scared.
I'm also excited though as I know pregnancy is more likely following a HSG, but I'm trying not to pin too much hope on it.

Hi @vitahelp how did it go? Hope you have a relaxing evening planned!

Have been meaning to come in here and ask how everyone is doing. Any updates @Got2besoon @TheBirdintheCave @Keeptrying32 @Anonbaby ?x

It went well in the sense of I was fine and didn’t get any pain. But it seems one of my tubes could be blocked - they can’t say for sure it is a blockage as the dye not running through could be caused by other factors such as spasm. And they found a uterine polyp which may need to be removed, and I think there was mention of an ovarian cyst but it’s all a blur now.

I initially felt relieved it was all over and the nurses were so upbeat I left feeling quite good. They even threw in a comment that I’ll be more fertile after this (I’m assuming they were just referring to the one tube that the dye travelled through). But since getting home it has dawned on me that this really wasn’t a great outcome at all, and that all the things identified decrease my chances of conceiving quite a lot. It’s still possible I suppose, DH analysis was very good as were my progesterone tests, but I’m quickly losing hope..

Hi @oliveroses thanks for asking but no update from me. It’s been over two years now. Never going to happen!

how are you? Xx

Nothing to report. Still waiting for transfer. AF is due on Fri or Sat and I have to call up to arrange scans then and start the frozen transfer process.

Hi all; it's good to hear some updates, though I'm sorry to hear things have not been smoother.

@TheBirdintheCave It sounds like it has been quite slow going, which I know would drive me crazy and must just add a lot to the stress of it. I had the expectation of IVF that it would be regimented and quick, but clearly that was me being naïve.

@vitahelp I'm glad yours was pain free like mine, I can imagine that is a real relief. Did they manage to unblock the tube with the dye, do you know?

How are you @oliveroses ?

I'm 19 weeks now and have a big bump (I think DS1 stretched it all out) and am getting lots of lovely kicks, mainly in the evening.
20 week scan coming up soon, and I'm wondering what the sex will be. I had an NHS scan at 17 weeks as I had a small bleed (turns out I have a low lying placenta) and the sonographer told me she's fairly convinced it is a girl, which would be just lovely. I can't quite get my head around it though. I was looking after my niece recently and kept thinking how strange it would be to have a little girl this time!

@TheBirdintheCave hope that things get moving for you soon - I can imagine that must be really frustrating.

@vitahelp if the medics were upbeat I would take some heart from that. And after the HSG you are more likely to conceive than you were before, so hope that brings a bit of cheer.

@Got2besoon that all sounds great - and I understand what you mean about not being able to get your head around a girl. Hope you have confirmation soon!

All is well here and I am feeling very big and full of heartburn. I am very grateful and happy but still quite tentative. At around 16 weeks, the 12 week scan seemed so long ago and I couldn't feel the baby so I sort of lost heart even though I was visibly pregnant and had told everyone. It was quite weird. Feeling much better now as I can feel movements. But nervous about the scan, which is on Thursday x

Hi. Glad things are progressing well with your pregnancies @Got2besoon amd @oliveroses
Hopefully you will have a positive boost from your HSG @vitahelp as there is a boost in chances after. I know it can be hard to take all in when they are explaining things- have they planned any follow up if not I would try and get some clarity from them. You can ask for more explanation. Definitely don’t count yourself out.
@TheBirdintheCave hope things get moving for you soon and wish you lots of luck with your transfer

Not good news from me. Not pregnant and trying not giving up hope. DH and I have spent time exploring our options as well as financials for IVF. We have decided to proceed with IVF as on reflection I do wonder if some of my symptoms are early signs of perimenopause. My cycles have been a bit more irregular the last 3 months as well- only by a few days (24,26,25 days) so within the realm of normal but less clockwork than they used to be. We have a planning consultation in two weeks then DH is away with work for 4 weeks so hopefully with start a cycle of treatment in September- not ideal as I want to get going ASAP but also feeling what will be will be. Our chances aren’t great but we want to give it a shot. Least then if it doesn’t work we can say we tried as I think I would regret more not trying than the money.

I'm sorry to hear that it's not good news yet @Keeptrying32.

It's great you have a concrete plan going forwards and a start date in mind.

I had been looking into IVF earlier in the year and I know there are clinics with packages which do e.g. 3 cycles or unlimited cycles for a set price. I thought that sounded like a good idea, although perhaps a bit of an over spend if the IVF works first time!

I know Sept must feel like a while to wait but I always find summer flies by and it will be rainy Sept before we know it.

@oliveroses I was exactly the same as you on days when baby was quieter and I felt like a fraud and kept wishing we hadn't told people before the 20 week scan. I really wasn't prepared for the anxiety of a pregnancy after loss.

@Keeptrying32 great to hear from you though sorry things haven't worked out yet. IVF sounds like the right choice for you and I hope it goes well. I also hope you can enjoy the summer in the meantime, and the planning consultation sounds like a huge and positive step.

@Anonbaby so sorry it's been so long. How are you feeling about it all?

Thanks guys :) The IVF process is normally quite quick but because I was at risk of OHSS I had to have a freeze all and then the cycle following the collection can be quite long. Mine was a week more than usual so all the time adds up. Once my AF starts the count down to transfer starts along with it and it should only be a few weeks from there.

@oliveroses I’ve mainly accepted I’m not having another baby. It’s hard though. My youngest starts school in sept and I thought I would have another baby at home so I can only imagine that will stir up a lot of emotions. I go through phases of being fine and being distraught but we always said our personal cut off was age 37 so we don’t have long left

So sorry @Anonbaby. I suspect it is really healthy to have a cut off date though. Will you absolutely stop ttc do you think, or just let it go and try to stop thinking about it?

@oliveroses i’ve become absolutely paranoid about getting pregnant and something going wrong so even now, we’re not always trying when we should. I just have this major fear for some reason. I wasn’t like that until recently. So I can’t imagine we will carry on because the older I get, the more worried I imagine I’ll be! I can’t explain it very well as I don’t understand where it’s come from xx

@Anonbaby I think that's understandable. Especially if you have found a good rhythm in your family. I hope things work out, whichever way it goes. And whichever way it goes, be kind to yourself x